Can polyamory work?

raceAround126 · 2016-03-18T06:57:50+00:00

What a strange situation. But I guarantee the girl Jade is the driver behind all of it. Sex to her means very very little.

Polyamory is the feminist label for plates. Poly women get the validation and supplication of a pussy man while getting railed by alphas. It's all a means to eventually branch swing if possible, or to just stay in a happy equilibrium.

Let me clarify. Let's say that Alex doesn't exist. If Jade or Hannah both said that they were availble to be fucked on one particular night only of that week and you had no other options, which would you choose? My guess is that you would pick the better looking one whichever that may be.

This is how men are wired. Which is why this made me laugh:

Alex is off sleeping with some model in another country for a bit

Alex for sure is not fucking models in another country. He's holed up in some crappy hotel and his evening consists of a pot noodle and a wank! He does this because Jade is probably the only woman who gave him the attention he craved. He has to be OK with this situation.

Source: I have fucked married women. And the reason your story rings out and why I actually believe this one is:

Jade’s preoccupied finding women on Tinder she can coax into a threesome with me

This just seems to be a recurring theme with married women who have cheated with me. Although most of the time I had no idea at all they were married, some went to extreme lengths to set up threesomes. I have no idea why they do this but they do.

The only winner here is Jade. Watch yourself. Have your fun by all means, if she helps you get to a place where you're easy dating girls then even better. But don't think for a minute that a poly lifestyle is workable. From the man's perspective, unless you take that male pride, masculinity and dominance over your woman and push it right down into a hole somewhere never to be seen again, there is no way any real man can watch or know that any girl they are serious about in any way is getting railed by randoms. Men just aren't wired that way.

Most poly relationships fail through the simple fact that women get dick easier than men get pussy. That simple. It's always the case. I seem to have little problem getting girls, be it plating or ONS. But I attribute that simply to living in the gym, being a guitarist in multiple bands and having a lot of friends. That didn't happen overnight and I know guys better looking than I who get zero attention.

But I've known girls who by some virtue of feminst ideology never wear makeup or shave their parts, who really do not look appealing at all have multiple guys buying them drinks all in a bidding war to take her home for some vanilla starfish sex. That is the human race.

fucknshuck · 2016-03-17T22:14:51+00:00

Mark my word this will lead to drama. Been there done that. Have fun with it while it last but when the drama starts hard next.

FrameWalker · 2016-03-17T22:05:47+00:00

Learning to not be jealous is RP.I think there's little reason to give any commitment to a girl that gives it up for free.

Javier_Mendoza · 2016-03-18T14:49:53+00:00

I stay far away from polyamorists. My experience is that they are all deluded. I like to keep my life nice, simple, and drama free.

Basically two scenarios. One is Alpha guy with a harem. This is just assumed with any alpha. Women figure if you are a smooth guy who picks up chicks on the regular then you are not monogamous. Discretion is key to avoid drama. Plates are too preoccupied with gaining Alpha Market Share to bang other dudes, other than as a suicidal jealously gambit.

The other scenario is average/ugly girl banging several losers. This is just open female hypergamy. She is trying out cocks in the safest possible way, with your direct permission. The loser guys are so cucked they are afraid to assert any will or emotion. Sooner or later, the main loser gets passed over for another loser. It's the same as her monkey branching a normal relationship. Polyamory is just semantics.

You may get threesomes out of it but it's always under her supervision. She may put up with you banging other randos for now, but once she promotes you to her 'primary' that will end. It will be her way or the highway.

Derbi50 · 2016-03-18T00:56:52+00:00

Chances are a plate is going to be fucking someone else anyway. A slut for you is going to slut it up with another guy anyway.

I guess it depends on if you even want to know or if you don't.

Statecensor · 2016-03-18T07:23:13+00:00

Too many legal troubles if she ever gets pregnant and you are the top earner in the polyamory chain even if its not your kid. You also have to worry about STDs and extremely anti social behavior that you have not noticed because you are still in the fucking her brains out phase of the relationship. Women do not wake up and become polygamists without trauma. You also need to remember her words. Alex is her primary you will need to be ok with the fact that they might make financial and other decisions as the relationship goes on that benefits them but not you or attempt to put you under their thumb financially without you thinking it all the way thru.

Polyamory like its relative polygamy are good for the men/women who are the head of the group and its sub men/women so long as they have few options otherwise. If you have options then in the end its just a waste of your time. For example with polygamy poor women benefit from the system so it makes sense for them to be part of it.

daddymonsterpoodle · 2016-03-18T08:54:05+00:00

If its not broke, don't fix it. You have found a girl who seems funky, likes to fuck, and is cool with you sleeping with other women. Enjoy it while it works. Dont get oneitis.

aanarchist · 2016-03-18T13:03:07+00:00

as long as you don't finance her and she brings something to the table

excesssound · 2016-03-18T16:11:11+00:00

This is the easiest possible way to get HSV.

max_peenor · 2016-03-17T23:50:40+00:00

Yes and no. I've been around it a lot. Let me give you my executive summary:

It works when you aren't in a pair bond. It isn't the same sort of "love." It's more like familial love but with genitals involved. For this reason, I've stopped using the word love. It means too many different things to too many different people.
It works when the men are all heavy with the beta traits, otherwise the leader will start a harem and jealousy will start tearing shit apart. I lost a close circle once, because I was that guy.
Everyone is disposable, not just the men. This is what happens where there isn't a pussy monopoly in a relationship. In fact, I've seen women pack up to drive out a female more than once.
Everyone needs to bring something unique to the table. It gives a reason why you are in the group, as well as everyone else.
They aren't automatically kink relationships.
Three guys fucking one woman isn't a "poly relationship." She has "Three Orbiters with Benefits." If a woman maintains a pussy monopoly, it isn't poly and it is going to be trouble eventually.
Unless you raise kids together, eventually someone will betray the group. Honestly, I think kids are the only thing keeping the murder rate down when it comes to relationships.
She isn't yours; it is just your turn. The turns just happen a lot faster. If you have even the slightest twitch when you think about that, poly isn't for you. You will end up with the same desperate feeling of a cuckold, but without the benefit of it being your fetish.
If you are a guy that just likes to have a lot of sex with a lot of women, you aren't into poly. You are an ally cat... and there isn't a fucking thing wrong with that.

Thotwrecker · 2016-03-18T01:07:42+00:00

Poly is for cucks, plating is for alphas.

It's very simple - you are an idiot if you're emotionally supporting and committing to a girl who's having physical and/or emotional relations with other men. If you have a GF, this is a sure way to just nuke your status in the relationship and have her to get do trial runs to screen for better options until she finds one. Unless your SMV is much higher than hers (remember a 7 guy versus a 5 girl, the 5 girl can still get way more dick than he can get pussy), there's no way you're going to be competing with the attention, validation, dread, and sex options that she's going to be getting.

So you only want to do this with girls who are plates, like 100% no emotions slampieces. Plating is basically her getting to orbit you and have a chance of a upgrade to a GF, so she is already motivated to earn your approval. She wants to you to start investing in her emotionally (making the plate relationship transition to a GF/BF) and this is when if you open the "relationship", you'll be getting laid and the residual dread will have her trying to destroy your dick in a good way.

Open plating works, open relationships don't.

Stythe · 2016-03-18T12:54:04+00:00

This is the thing to me. If they are just fucking and there's no rap relationship transaction, why call it a relationship at all, poly or not?

If he's more into her or providing, then he's allowing his resources to be used. Even if he's okay with it, objectively he could use that time/money/ whatever for himself, so he's losing something for her gain.

If she's more into him, he's just plating her.

When I look at it from a facts only perspective and not how they feel, I can't see how a poly relationship works. It seems like two people who are emotionally lonely but afraid to be alone, so they attach to people they don't much care for or aren't threatened by or afraid to lose and fuck others in the meantime. I've met people doing this and they all seem to have some issues. I can speak for everyone, but I haven't come across a legit poly relationship that seems even or fair, and I don't expect to, because it doesn't satisfy people's emotional needs. It literally is a superficial relationship. It just can't go deeper by its very nature as nobody is fully invested.

I'd live to hear objective opinions though.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-03-18T17:22:24+00:00

Polyamory works when it's one guy with a high enough SMV that two or more girls don't mind openly sharing him and don't bang other dudes, which means it works when it's called "polygamy", and even then it will have a beginning, a middle and an end, unless one lives in a highly structured society in which women will get killed/cast out for whoring around, e.g. Greater Jihadistan.

If he's using Jade as a cum dumpster, then fine, but don't catch da feelz or shit will go bad in a hurry.

MentORPHEUS · 2016-03-17T22:53:40+00:00

We lay in bed afterwards and she asks if I’m seeing anyone else. Usually I might elude to something at this point but honesty seems to be the name of the game here so I tell her that I’ve just arrived but I’m meeting other girls later in the week.

Well played. Men inexperienced with multiple plates will be surprised how well you can navigate "the talk" regardless of content, when you're 100% OI, confident, and honest during.

Needless to say, going to a date with that kind of backup plan made every aspect of game easier.

Abundance mentality in action!

I want to say this is a kink but it seems more like people who just have their feelings of jealousy under control

Yes, this is the endgame of true, comfortable polyamory. It's not a "higher or superior" position to reach, but necessary to fully enjoy polyamory unconflicted. It's not for every man, and nobody is any less of a RP man for not wanting this in their own life. This is the full manifestation of OI and the "She's not yours, its your turn." Not an easy position to reach; my own early BP feelings of oneitis and Disney-style love had already been left a burnt-out hulk before I could approach it, much less settle in after experience.

Thanks for sharing, sounds like a great experience that many will never taste.

TheJedi_Lied · 2016-03-17T22:42:56+00:00

I'm traveling and recently acquired a poly plate as well. It's very interesting. I think all in all polyamory is a natural sexual strategy for men. Good practice for unattachment too. She'll fuck around anyway: spin the plate don't get attached spend no $ move on when she stops putting out.

Sir_Distic · 2016-03-17T23:24:05+00:00

I realized I was poly a few years ago. After things ended with my last ex.

I can't be satisfied being with 1 person. I've known a few other poly's and they have all acted like this Jade you describe.

letriggeredface · 2016-03-17T21:37:45+00:00

Mate, you're literally asking if its RP to cuck yourself so you can pursue pussy while fucking someone. Even though TRP teaches you how to do this without getting cucked.

Oneitis, recommendation: fellate a shotgun.

Title	Can polyamory work?
Author	ohsoentitled
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Date	March 17, 2016 9:35 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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