TL:DR Got married because I was BP and thought that real men get it together and have/raise a family. Things went stale, life got boring/miserable and I became a full-blown beta. While searching for answers, I found TRP and started practicing the principles. Wife flipped her lid and went into scramble mode. Separated now, pending divorce. Realizing that I am at the best time of my life to be single. Love my kids (one with her, one from HS girlfriend), still love the wife, but the relationship is dead and isn't going to be resurrected. Paying off the last of my debts this year. Buying a ski boat and getting on the water. Bought a Corvette to commute in because I am a car junkie and if I have to drive something, might as well enjoy it (used vette, not expensive, still looks expensive to the average HB). Looking forward to the next phase of life, not putting women on a pedestal anymore, understanding that AWALT and capitalizing on what I have learned from TRP. If you make it to the bottom, feel free to comment. I have thick skin and a high sense of self-worth so don't expect me to react if you throw some personal attack out there. Not worth my time.

INTRO:

I was Chad in highschool and Army days, hence the screen name. I was up to my ears in vagina, with very little effort. I had no idea why, other than that I had a bad ass car in a poor school. The rest must have been unconscious game. I'm no longer Chad, because Chad is oblivious. I am now planning and calculating in my quest for success in life and coincidentally with women.

Me 34/M, Her 42/F. We met when she was 33 and I was 25. She was a teacher, I was just out of the Army and going to college on the GI Bill, eventually becoming a Registered Nurse 3 years later. I had a son from a previous relationship. She had 3 kids from 2 previous relationships. She is very pretty and looked 28. I am mature for my age and looked 28. Most people never thought we had an age gap, unless we disclosed it. The first 3 years I went to school, flipped cars and built 4x4's in the driveway for extra cash. I worked out regularly, was muscular but not ripped and honestly thought I was too good for her, but married her after a year of dating anyway. The relationship was rocky from day 1. We were off and on, I would bang old girlfriends when we would have breakups. I was the Alpha, with one foot always out the door. Back then I would have flipped if she hooked up with an ex. Don't know if she ever did....and don't care now that I see the matrix for what it is. We met in 2009, I got my first RN job and real decent paycheck in 2012. I decided it was time to fully invest myself into our relationship and I became the beta.

BODY:

About 3 years deep into the relationship and 2 years of marriage, sex slowed down to 3-4x a month and always initiated by me. No obvious signs of her cheating, so I didn't sweat it too much. I just chalked it up to the usual decline when in an LTR. Around year 5, I decided I had taken enough and left. We were split for 6 months and I dated about 10 different women of varying quality in that short period. Nothing serious, just dating and hooking up. We missed each other, started hooking up and I ended up back living with her again. We decided that we loved each other and things were good. We decided to try for a baby. We had a beautiful little girl and for about 6 months, all was blissful. My gorgeous daughter is now almost 3 and our relationship went right back to 3x a month sex, out of duty and only initiated by me. I craved more physical and emotional intimacy from her. She had no interest in giving it to me. I was the beta and to be used to provide for her and her children and to be given as little from her as I would tolerate without leaving.

While searching online about why a wife would not want to have sex with her husband and things like that, I came across some MGTOW info. While the position of "Men get screwed in marriage and divorce" resonated with me and has since my mom divorce-rape my dad when I was 12, I wasn't quite ready to just stop associating with women. I continued on trying to understand WTF happened that made my wife start giving less and less to me when I was giving more and more to her. Recently bought her a mini-ranch and a horse. We live in the best neighborhood in our town and although I'm not rich, I'm doing damn well for 34 and having come from nothing. Men are Made. I'm still in shape, still get "F Me" eyes from random women. Why doesn't my wife want me??? Then I stumbled upon TRP. I didn't go into the anger phase. I don't blame women for their ingrained ways. I don't think they all do the active hypergamy thing. I think it is subconscious for many of them. I'm not angry at all. I am actually incredibly excited to have a better understanding of the dynamics now. I realized that I have the right raw materials (job, status, height, build, looks) but I needed to fine tune them (lifting, stoicism, etc) and then deploy them. So I did.

After reading TRP and the full sidebar, I realized that the reason she didn't want me was because I was a beta. So, I started employing Alpha tactics. I stopped answering her right away. Stopped tolerating her nagging. I stopped giving her what she wanted. I stopped talking to her about my feelings. I started fucking her when I wanted, how I wanted and not apologizing. She actually responded well to all of this, but was very confused at the change in me. She didn't "like it" because she didn't have the control anymore. I started eating better, hitting the gym more and am now in the best shape of my life. A little stronger than I've ever been, and a little leaner than I've ever been and continuing to make gains. Heavy weights, the big lifts for strength and lower cal, higher protein diet for leaning, in a nutshell.

After a couple of months of trying all of this, I realized that I was not happy being the provider for her and her children. She has her own career, but she could not come close to affording the lifestyle on her own. I demanded the house be picked up and kept relatively clean....she balked. I decided that i have had enough and it was time to leave. I moved out about two months ago. I am staying with a buddy who has a live-in gf and kid, but is not married and will not marry her. We are essentially bachelors with a bird that squawks around the house sometimes. She has no control over him and we do as we please.

The wife and I are working out our divorce agreement now. We are civil and I am not opposed to dating after the divorce. She says she wants to continue to work on things but will give me the financial security of divorcing now and still continue to work on things. I want the divorce now because I am about out of debt and able to start investing heavily, and she is NOT a saver or investor. I don't want to split half of what I have built in 5 years with her, if it doesn't work out, which it likely won't. Divorce now, work on issues if we want to after. Still love her, just angry that I was treated the way I was and used as a provider and had my needs/desires subjugated for so long. I won't tolerate that again.

In the past couple of months I have met a handful of women. One came onto me via social media and I work with her, but in different departments and different physical locations. I'm not going to crap where I eat. One is a relative of an acquaintance. One is a nurse I met at Applebees when she sat down at the bar next to me and her friend asked if I'm a cop. (I look like a cop. I get asked all the time to the point where I am going to start saying yes just to speed up the conversation. Even the cops ask me if I'm a cop when they pull me over.)

Now: I'm getting divorced. I'm not going to get divorce-raped because our assets aren't much at this point due to paying off debt and her spending it as fast as I can make it. We are pretty agreeable on child custody / child support and it will be much cheaper for me to pay child support than it was to support her lifestyle. She doesn't want to fight out the child support / custody thing because she has seen my wipe the floor with my son's mom for the past ten years and she knows that it will be a long battle that won't end as well as she hopes, so we are agreeable on whats fair money-wise and what is best for our daughter (a present, engaged father). She alienated the other children's fathers and she realizes now how much her children suffered because of that. She isn't a bad woman, but she is still an opportunist, and AWALT.

Field Report: I'm 6' tall, 200 lbs and probably 15% BF, but working my way down. I shave my head and have blue eyes. I have a straight, white smile and carry myself well (especially after reading the sidebar). I don't grab every woman's attention by any means, but I have enough to keep me satisfied and I get approached regularly. I used to always rebound to take my mind off of a breakup, but this time I am just taking it slow, realizing that I am the prize and that at 34, I'm in my prime and the women my age are post-wall and looking for that beta, which I will never be again. No rush because another LTR is not my goal right now. I'm not branch swinging.

I am looking forward to getting the divorce over with and I will NOT marry again until old age, if even then. I don't hate her, just don't want to be in a marriage anymore, much less one like we had. I don't blame her either, the institution is just flawed in theory.

Any comments, congrats, critique or suggestions are welcome below. Thanks to all who have posted on here because without TRP, I might still be scratching my head and wondering why the F my wife doesn't love me the way I want her to. I now realize, she can't and no other woman can either. Its not how they are wired.