SUMMARY: Demonstrating high value is not the end all to mitigate hypergamy. Unique value will make her think you are the only one in the world, and this will cause her to think twice before acting on her hypergamic urges because the stakes are higher. However, demonstrating unique value may involve some levels of emotional connection whether feigned or genuine. Unique value will cause you to stand out and it will be harder for her to calculate the value of other men because you showcase yourself to be extremely unique in her subjective reality.

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Problem Of Fungibility

I first outline the Problem of Fungibility. In its simplest terms, if A is better than B, and we can get B, as humans, we would replace A with B without hesitation. Social theorists will argue this applies to friendships as well, but that is not the focus of this post.

In Redpill Literature, the doctrine is to improve yourself and demonstrate higher value such that she will want you. However, I think more than higher value, we should examine how we can demonstrate unique and/or unique higher value. This is because as much as we improve ourselves, if we do not demonstrate how we are unique, you are essentially the exact same redpilled guy out there, and any other redder pilled guy will steal your bitch. Hence the saying, your turn never yours. Furthermore, when you stay in any relationship for long periods of time, her subjective lenses will eventually get bored, and your once high value becomes ordinary and she might stop appreciating your once high value when she sees past the initial excitement and her hypergamic urges are activated (e.g being a football player, having cash, etc etc because these are not sufficiently unique).

Unique Value

What then is Unique Value? Unique value is hard to underpin, but it is something that makes you different from other guys. It is something that gives her oneitis.

This might edge onto bluepill, but I think some aspects of bluepill tools can be used to achieve redpill goals (or purple pill if you would like). It is something that makes her feel that you have seen her in a way that no one else does. It is letting her expose her vulnerabilities while you comfort her.

It is the holding of as many micro frames as you can within the macro frame of the alpha chad. To be stoic is boring. You wanna be stoic and fun at the same time. Now that is somewhat unique. To be dead serious on your goals, but also someone who can let loose. To be intellectual, but adventurous. You get the idea. The more micro frames, the more nuanced you are as an individual. Stop being boring.

But even then, these are only external frames. What you want is to speak to her internally. What do I mean by this?

A powerful tool I have discovered unwittingly, is to really understand her and her past traumas which have shaped her for who she is. I think it is common consensus that quite a fair amount of girls are neurotic/crazy, but this is not fault of theirs. Many of them have had traumatic experiences which causes them to act the way they do without them even realizing.

If you can unpack her trauma for her, explain how that experience has shaped her current beliefs, and release her emotional distress for the very first time, she will see you as a God and you have cemented your status as the best man she can get because her subjective hypergamic calculations will think you really are the best (even if it might not be the case in objective reality but it doesnt matter because she is in your frame). She will think no one else will ever be able to understand her for who she is in the way you do and she will cling on tightly. Following which, she is less likely to act on her hypergamic urges, but this does not mean you stop self-improving, because AWALT. (Right guy comes along and she might think his cock is worth more than this connection. But the point is that this connection acts as a buffer and makes her realise the stakes are higher if she cheats because she will lose you.) Owing to scope of this post, I cannot explain easily how exactly you unpack trauma and reframe her beliefs and explain herself to her, and I can already forsee people labelling this as being an emotional tampon (which it sort of is except you are doing it in the right way that makes her get even more tingles).

What is most important is to forge a real connection with the connection of selves. Game is necessary, but I think game is not substantial and is only useful for short term fuckboi mating strategies. That said, reserve this for FWBs or an LTR that is worthy. And for the love of God, never give away your LTR commitment too easily.

Final Notes and Word of Caution

If it isn't obvious, please be selective who you do this to. If she truly is extremely psycho, it might not be worth trying to show her the light because it will be too difficult and she might cling on overly tightly to you. The broad idea is to connect on something substantial that makes her feel like her existence means something in a way she has never felt before.

As a critique of the redpill, I think a consequent of truly internalising abundance will mean that it becomes extremely hard to forge connections and this becomes even harder when you understand the nature of hypergamy. I think it is possible to accommodate some emotional connections within the sphere of the redpill without turning into a complete beta.

This is essentially also mastery of the Rollo's conception of the nice guy-asshole spectrum. Too asshole and too alpha and you'll only fuck her but she wouldn't want something else from you. It might even be difficult to spin her as a plate. True mastery of the niceguy-asshole spectrum is the way to go such that she willingly accepts her status of a plate as she wishes to ascend the ranks. From here, you decide what you want to achieve. This is just a tool, the goal is determined by you.

To be clear, this is done with the general frame of being Alpha. This teaches the aspect of being tender in the correct way. Women ultimately want a man who is both alpha and beta simultaneously, and this is ultimately unique.