First time post, long time lurker. 36/m

I've fallen victim recently to the oneitis. Before this I've been just dating for around 6 years. I'm a divorced male, since 2008. Got married because of a pregnancy. Whatever, everything happens for a reason and my daughter is my reason in life.

My divorce was really what turned me on to trp. As a coping mechanism I went in search of others experiencing what I was experiencing.

I learned a lot. Spent a couple years learning and adjusting. Put a lot into practice. Ending up dating whenever I wanted. Had lots of great relationships, some short, some shorter. Never falling for any of them. It was an amazing, powerful experience. When women cannot control you, a whole new pool of confidence is uncovered. It's amazing. Not that I was infallible, I was still dealing with the mother of my kid. Even she eventually succumbed to me holding constant frame. You hold the remote control with trp.

One of the most powerful feelings a guy can experience is the feeling when he knows he can tell a woman that he’s moving on, or just showing it. Women pick up on that indifference and, if they're somewhat into you, feel drawn to come up with strategies to keep you around. Some bold, some subtle.

Sometimes, that’s not so easy. You meet someone who pushes the right buttons, gets your brain to release that sweet sweet oxytocin and you’re hooked. MotherFUCKER.

That happened to me early this year. Met a girl and she knew just the right amount of charm to apply, the things to say, the levers to pull. I got hooked. I confessed feelings for her.

Next thing ya know, the flirty texts stop. Excuses start popping up. I lose frame and end up asking to see her, twice, with no reciprocation. That to me is a huge red flag. If you're doing your part right, you shouldn't have to ask to see her at all. She'll be practically begging you when she can see you.

So, what do I do, I revisit /TheRedPill and you guys remind me where I've been and where I'm going. So thanks.

There will always be those woman that come along and do everything that floods you with that sweet sweet oxytocin but, with the circumstances just right, the guy can readjust his frame and realize that she is just another woman, regardless of all the check boxes she fills.