My entire life i have had natural frame, In the last 2 years I have held frame perfectly every time. Frame alone was my ticket to woman before i found the red pill and even now, but I lost it for the first time in a long time last week. I had a friend die, as I was breaking it off with a girl for another girl.
While the shit storm that unfold these past 2 weeks was not my fault, frame would have changed the entire situation and I know it.
The store is simple, I had meet a girl at a wedding, She had all the markings of the perfect target for a plate, moved to a new city alone, horrible relationship with her father, and madly addicted to sex. It was a great 2 months but I realized she was not what I wanted or even needed. It was time for her to go, we both realized it was over at the same time but I officially ended it.
She asked to be my friend and I pretty much told her no, legit she is a horrible person and I don't need to deal with her shit, but this is where things go bad...
My friend dies and I got the news in the middle of my perfect frame of not being her friend and I cracked... I got depressed and just wanted a friend who would help me through the tough situation... My judgement was to hang out with her and be friends with her, i just wanted to not be alone, so i arranged to go play pool she couldn't make it... so I tried to arrange something else... Just my neediness to see her turned her off from being my friend... Finally we talk on the phone and I have never seen a woman so turned off in my life, so was disgusted by me, I didn't even go too sad, no crying, not even being depressed i was just talking about how shitty things where. She actually told me to stop being melodramatic and i need to man up... over my friends death... (told you she's a horrible person, nobody deserves somebody to be that cold towards them ever...)
I ended a relationship perfectly with a woman wanting me, to her thinking i was pathetic in a matter of hours...
This was the ultimate reminder for me,
Being needy and losing frame are the worst thing you can do in any relationship...
I ended up talking to 3 woman in this poor emotional state, while none reacted as badly as the first one did... I know all three lost respect for me... Thankfully I left the new girl out of it. In the end none of the woman even remotely helped me emotionally or mentally, they burdened me... I managed to salvage myself emotionally to male friend, he understood me so much better... even though he had never gone through what I went / still am going through he respected me afterwards still.
Of everything I have learned from the red pill / my personal experience in life. Frame and not being needy are the two most important things for the emotional side of things. all the other things are icing on the cake compared to these two...
Edit: Grammar
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