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Final Stage: are you happy mate?

February 7, 2022
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The final stage in life is that of reaping what you sow. That's all of life actually. The joys of life are about being prepared to take advantage of the opportunities we encounter, the tragedy of life is what we end up with when the unplanned has to be dealt with based on what you had in reserves.

What did you Red Pill army sow in the last 5 to 6 years? Did you fake it good, hoping you will make it? Did you hustled and grind' selling shit products and services to american idiots with more money than sense? Did you scalp and scrapped the best out of women, the stock market or the daily ups and downs of Crypto?

Or did you protect? Nurture? Educate? Did you use your Red Pill TrueSight to raise people up. Did you use your capitalist touch to empower lost young men and motivate them to learn a skill, to provide services and to be able to support themselfs.

Did you use that naughty Dom dick to corrupt the innocent or to sooth the corrupted, demand more from them as people and get them to fucking grow up?

Do you know whether you are a good person, objectively, or not? None of that post-structualist BS - are you going to sit with your granpa in heaven and recall your debauchery with a smirk because when all is said and done, you did good, or will you feel ashamed, because in the end, it didn't matter?

Some say - that's actually hell/heaven. Hindsight over our actions and the psychological scars we create between our identity and the person we become through our actions. As a full atheist I agree. Secret to life, red pill life as well is congruence. Your future self needs to be able to stand on the sidelines of your life and explain to your 10 year old self, how awesome you are right now.

This is a burden nobody will release you from. Do or do not, you will be responsible for how it turns out. You have truesight. You know how the chips fall. How the slut stumbles into the dude, how the simp rationalizes his emotional codependence, how the 30 year old will work her arse off to get some semblance of a healthy relationship. And you know how none of them will admit it, how they all need to protect their ego and identity.

With power comes responsibility, and the regret of not using it. So it's not trp, it's not the women, it's not politics. It's you mate, it's you and the fact that at your core you still don't want to do the work required to be the person you want to be. The person your 10 year old self would admire, and the person your 60 year old self would nod at.

Want to play the field, stop meal cheating, and sign 2 hours per day for working out and 2 hours just dating. Want a relationship and family - go where there's a family friendly culture and date a shopkeeper with a kind personality. Want love and companionship - find a widow, mother with a kid that was out of luck - love her and make her happy gratuitously without asking for anything - just do it because you want to and leave when you stop liking her (if you don't understand this, don't do it)

You have the power. You are just scared to use it because the results will fully be yours to own, good or bad. But I can guarantee that if you don't use it, the result will always be bad.

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Title Final Stage: are you happy mate?
Author zino193
Upvotes 127
Comments 21
Date February 7, 2022 4:39 AM UTC (11 months ago)
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[–]1SalporinRP 28 points29 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Thanks for sharing. After being single in a major city the last two years and gaining tons of XP I feel I've changed my approach to women for my own happiness.

This is not me moralizing (I'm not telling anyone how to live their life) and some of my best friends are absolute dogs with women and they're my brothers for life.

But after a few years of doing dark triad/toxic game I changed to an approach that worked better for me.

Now let me elaborate before some people jump down my throat:


Do I act like an emotional pussy around women? No.

Do I pedestalize women? No.

Do I put up with any bullshit? No.

Do I put forward assertive and masculine energy? Yes.

Am I still spontaneous and fun? Yes.

What I mean by this is that I am just candid about my intentions/my feelings throughout. When I'm getting involved with a new woman and the topic of "so what are you looking for?" gets brought up I answer honestly and say: "I am not looking for a long-term relationship or anything exclusive", whereas the 23 year old me would have told her anything she wanted to hear so I could get laid. It obviously filters more women out, but also leads to less headaches down the road.

If I am not interested in a woman anymore, I'm up front about it and let her know how I feel over text/facetime instead of keeping things going for validation, attention, etc.

If I start seeing a new plate and after a few months I can tell she is with me with the expectation that she is going to one day change my mind and lock me down, I re-affirm my intentions.

A few months back I was in a situation where a long-term plate I was seeing became super emotionally attached to me, constantly told me she wasn't seeing other guys in an effort to prove her loyalty to me, etc. I think a lot of guys would have tried to keep the plate situation going for as long as possible but I think that shows a lack of abundance to be frank. I didn't want to be in an LTR with her, but she was cool as hell, super fun to be around, and had a great energy - and I did care for her in some way. So I told her how I was feeling and broke things off, because I knew that if I didn't do it she wouldn't be able to. And I did so because I genuinely wish her the best and hope she finds a guy who can give her all that she wants.


A lot of guys might read my comment and go "b..b..but the majority of women have no problem ghosting guys, leading them on, and treating them like shit so why do you bother?"

And my response to that is: "So what? Why do I care about what other people do. I can only control my own actions."

I think that the fleeting nature dating app/hookup culture has made many people blind to the fact that the other person is another human being. Unless someone has wronged me, they get a baseline level of respect from me.

When I was doing that dark triad game and playing with other people's emotions it didn't make me feel good as a person.

And with this approach I've honestly been on a one man fucking spree the last 2 years living in a major city and I feel 100x happier than before.


Like you showed in your post, everyone has their own idea of happiness.

I am not saying my approach is the right way, I am saying it is the right way for me.

Everyone needs to find their own happiness.

[–]1zino193[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

A few months back I was in a situation where a long-term plate I was seeing became super emotionally attached to me, constantly told me she wasn't seeing other guys in an effort to prove her loyalty to me, etc. I think a lot of guys would have tried to keep the plate situation going for as long as possible but I think that shows a lack of abundance to be frank. I didn't want to be in an LTR with her, but she was cool as hell, super fun to be around, and had a great energy - and I did care for her in some way. So I told her how I was feeling and broke things off, because I knew that if I didn't do it she wouldn't be able to. And I did so because I genuinely wish her the best and hope she finds a guy who can give her all that she wants.

I know the feeling my dude, it hurts like a motherfucker, your inner child slaps you in the face constantly, needing what he can't have. But it feels so good after your neediness and want fades away and you see them happy. You see them grow. Because often that's all that it takes for a woman to grow up - to have a man make a single adult decision in her life for her. It's like that selfless decision breaks hypergamy - she understands - she reached her peak and you are beyond what she can get and she starts looking inward and building something instead of just jumping.

[–]1SalporinRP 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Definitely agree with the fact that when it comes to someone I care about, I enjoy seeing them grow and get what they want from life.

I will concede that it isn't a completely selfless decision on my part though. I think it's better to have a mature clean break then try to keep emotionally leading her on for months and months and suddenly the situation has snowballed and she is liable to go crazy.

With my personal anecdote, it wasn't even necessarily that she wasn't good enough for me. She was definitely hot and LTR material. In another blue-pilled life I could definitely see us ending up in a relationship. It was more the fact that she wanted to be able to have a relationship to start a family and I knew that me at 26 who had no plans to get engaged soon much less have kids could not give her what she wanted.

So because I cared about her I let her go rather than waste prime years of her life. It was honestly pretty tough - because like I said I did care about her, the timing just didn't work out. Part of life!

[–]iusedtobeanasshole 13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Surprisingly, doing the work to improve My own happiness (wich sometimes is pure heavy responsability and sometimes is high queality fun) feels great AT THE END OF THE DAY. Sometimes it takes months. One tome it actually took me 14 years. I was not redpill aware in those years. But the last half were the Best years un My life. Working My ass off, meeting interesting and smart ppl while advancing in My field. I recently recovered that feeling. I Will feed that motherfucker with strong imputs again by doing My shit un order to enjoy My life. Loved the post. Thanks

[–]Empow3r3d 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Inspiring bro, thanks for sharing

[–]1hatethis 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

There's a video of some bald YouTuber, you know, the self improvement type, where he goes on about the subconscious. Can't be bothered to look him up right now but I stumbled on this video of his during a terrible period of my life and he said something that really resonated with me

"Your subconscious is a separate person that's lurking in the shadows spying on you and looking over your every action and judging you for it". It wasn't exactly like that but you get the point

An average girl will feel dirty and shit the next day if she sleeps with a dude too fast while under the influence. She's gone against her values. Your values are what define you and what defines how you see yourself. If you go against them, because it's easy to cheat on your diet, skip the gym, fuck a fatty, your subconscious will keep note. And it will judge you. And you'll feel like shit because you'll lose respect for yourself

You have to identify your values and stick to them. Don't and get ready to hate yourself and wonder why

[–]kamalligator 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Is that Better Ideas you're thinking of?

[–]1meerita 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I'm happy. Starting 40 I broke with my gf, improved my finances, traveled around the world and spinned many plates in 3 years more than in my 10 lives.

[–]Imscubbabish 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Damn good read especially towards the end. Made me think of the aspects of my life that I fail in and want to improve. But gotta say I'm a happy ass mofu

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

you really said LTR a single mother and people are eating this garbage up.

AWALT. ALL women are like THAT. No exceptions.

[–]1zino193[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yes, they are. But all dogs can bite as well. All dogs need to shit, they are a chore to own. Just because something isn't helpless or painless, doesn't mean it's evil.

This is for advanced guys. If you can't handle a average young girl - definetly stay away from women over 30. However, after you can put a woman in any position you desire and find she actually stays there - then you can use your knowledge and skill to get what you want.

Some men want to love. It feels good. And if that is the case, the single mom (that isn't single because of her decisions - men break up with women too) will give you more love per inch of investment than any under 30 girl that still has ambition and thinks she is hot shit. Commitment is like a heroin habit for these women. And if you know you want one pussy to love and be loved by for years... single moms that got that way because of another dude - are your best option. But you MUST be cold to pull this off. I am not advocating for single moms, I am not giving hope to the weaklings saying - your mommy-slut hybrid is there, she will suck your dick and give you cheetos afterwards while you don't move a finger. If you aren't skilled in the game, single moms will crush you harder than any 20 something pump and dump.

[–]pyromancer1234 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

"Advanced guys"? This is some Jack Murphy cuck shit, dude.

[–]1zino193[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

There is nothing more cuckish than using a pop culture reference.

Refocus on why you are failing on being excellent instead of nitpicking and complaining about online content.

[–]MushroomAddict920 3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I love this post. But I believe you can be into crypto and still be a good person haha

[–]1zino193[S] -2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Different topic, but no.

People that know how to actually use blockchains don't do Dapps. They do cryptography for private contractors. The rest are just code monkeys hired by a smart guy trying to make it big.

Aswer this - don't google an answer - don't recite the definition of a blockchain - answer in your own worlds and process the question: What is the question that crypto answers for the end consumer? Can that question be answered by a CBDC or by PAYPAL saying fuck it to legislation and banking partners and going rogue with a easy to use, private, secure anonymized ledger?

Reality is Market cap and value is defined by spot prices. Spot prices are not transaction volume and not value locked in - i.e. real world dollars, that you have to work for, that are scarce that you redeemed for virtual ownership of something that disappears when the demand for it drops to 0. Spot prices on the daily are defined for the most part by institutional bots automatically selling and buying from one another at a fixed price point, to keep the illusion of liquidity in the market. And you can see this when those institutions close up shop and pull out before quarterly and yearly earnings reports. Now the stock market at least the SMP500 level works similarly - although there adjustments in demand aren't as prevalent (IBM can't just buy 4% of all of it's shares at a given price to prevent it from crashing- although it's something people have tried and succeeded on major market crashes) and in the stock market - there is a regulatory obligation to infuse the market with liquidity, both from venture funds buying up ownership in the latest trends or by pension and sovereign wealth funds that guarantee we'll all in this toghether and when it crashes, everything will be wiped out.

Now answer: Who benefits from a world of privately owned currency systems :) May I remind you that most of the capital is venture. May I remind you that state funded tehnology grants have been funneling a lot of anti-consumer shit from personalized algorithms, to moving to cloud everything really and the whole IOT ecosystem and now more recently the push to "metaverse" everything.

Last one - if you wanted to build a Matrix, a virtual society where you had the ability to change everything from the value of a pair of glasses to how people trust and love - how would you? I would create a system of interconected databases on a public virtual space that measure and quantifies all human interaction. I would create a culture of anxiety and alianation where the real hurts more and is more scary than the virtual. And lastly I would recreate the world with all the benefits humans needs: friendship, love, sex, pride and fury - in a program where I control and own everything. In that world not only would I own the items, I would be able to define their value and who gets them. I would literally be able to create wealth out of nothing.

Finally answering the question: if humans were able to have everything they wanted, but live inside a computer for all their life - would they?

[–]pappo4ever 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

What is the question that crypto answers for the end consumer?

Crypto (and specifically bitcoin, because other coins might differ) is basically paypal but with a single defining characteristic: It's outside any regulation and control from any country.

This changes everything: No taxes, no inflation, no delays, no intermediaries (governments, banks) taking most of the value of your work. Because you realize that using dozens of complicated tricks, they keep most of your money, not only a small part. Lack of regulation attracts hundreds of criminals and scammers, true. But that's just a small inevitable problem.

Somebody working for crypto instead of fiat money in a third world country see his income multiplied by 3 o 4, easily. That's what the banks and governments of those corrupt countries were taking before crypto. Having your income multiplied by 3 is a life-changing event and that's why there are so many crypto adepts, like a religion.

We can talk about defi and smart contracts that are basically money games that the elite were playing since hundreds of years ago and made sure the common people couldn't get into, but now everybody can using just a cellphone. They are still money games, but crypto and bitcoin specifically, are changing the world, its like comparing a taxi with uber, a car with a tesla, or a regular rocket with a Falcon9: there is just no competition. Regular banks are 10 century-old technology, and they will fight with all their power to make crypto illegal.

[–]1zino193[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Mate - that WAS crypto, and unless you're talking about monero, it's not. It's a fully transparent ledger where literally any autist can track you. Anonymity is stamped out of the system faster than corona.

That person can also see 80% of their whole wealth evaporate in a few days because some fat cats stopped the trading bot.

If you're using "money games" instead of pyramid schemes and advocating for the "poor" to be able to participate in ponzies as a right, you kinda miss the point of your initial argument - a better money system that CAN'T be controlled and manipulated by a main authority to the detriment of the stupid and the poor.

Ubers are basically taxies in most western jurisdiction - working stiffs now just have to use their own car and pay for servicing their car. But hey, at least now they can add surcharges by default. Disruption economy FTW!!

You are kinda the problem mate. You support something just because it's new. If your bank had the fees, the customer service and the data collection capabilities of a crypto exchange - you would jump ship immediately and wonder how the fuck is that even allowed.

See, those fat cats realized millenials are too outspoken and independent to jump on the regular dildo, but you would gobble up anything "disruptive" - same games, same unbalanced power exchange - but this time it's NEW and made by your cool Sillicon Valley cousin, not the stuffy grey boomer on Wall Street.

Let's be clear. I am not arguing the current system is better. I am saying Crypto will be way worse when fully mainstream. I am not saying crypto principles and the things in the pamflet aren't cool as fuck... I am saying those cool things get removed yearly and as we go towards more institutional interest it's basically just PayPal (which is still the most anonymous money transfer system with mainstream adoption in the third world BTW - all their shit policies usually Apply to USA-CAN-UK-AUNZ). You are allowed to not pay taxes, to do anonymous transactions, to earn 6% APR and locking liquidity in a system that is starving for liquidity. But when that hits mainstream - none of that will remain. Hell for semi-old farts like me - the 10% on stable coins(the ones protected against risk by design) and KYC already seem like a step too far - because we still remember how shit was 3-4 years ago. It's not the cool uncle anymore, it's your granpa with a Vape pen.

[–]guiltyplessure473 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The most wholesome trp thread in a while. No incel bone in your body sir, I salute.

[–]ArthasLanaya 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thank you, this reads like poetrry.
I'm about done with the bullshit hedonist culture that I see these days. I don't want to partake in it, I want to be real, genuine, authentic, a man of skill, hardwork, discipline, integrity and dignity, kindness and generosity. I have an alpha father figure who embodies all these traits and more.
Yeah, you busted more nuts, and fucked the slutty bitches. So what, I don't care. I wouldn't touch most girls these days anyway, they are not on any level, on any standard.
I have had tons of moments these days, strong IOIs, strong approaches and whatnot, but I intentionally don't go further with these girls. I vet them, see whether they have character, backbone, or are they just emotional dumbfucks with no ambition, goals or whatever.

[–]1zino193[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Go further mate, if you date them - you want them.

I think your issue is you are looking for a wife in the slut pile. Women that date - are dating because they can't keep a man.

You either get another man's wifey or get a woman that isn't looking to dream of waking up next to those chiseled manly pecs every morning.

It's not the culture my dude. It;s you. Your actions and your wants aren't aligned. You are training for maratons on the sprint track.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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