First semester of uni right now, joined a frat and realised how beta I was. Anger against feminism is stuck in full gear, can't progress.

BloodRoseTRP · 2013-12-10T11:37:54+00:00

Recognise Accept Embrace

Right now, you have recognised the problem, and it has shaken your frame. I get the sense that you have begrudgingly accepted it. Now you have to embrace it. Take your mind off it, watch a movie, whatever. Invest in yourself

Read up on amused mastery

[deleted] · 2013-12-10T16:18:41+00:00

Goood gooood. Let the hate flow through you.

Let it burn what you once were away entirely so that you can replace it with something.... better.

You finally see the greatest shit test of them all for what it is. You see the matrix. Its beautiful isn't it?

Even Neo had to die before becoming the One.

Anger gives you strength. It gives you drive and passion. It gives you a reason. But only if you control it. To let your anger control you is to squander all that could make you great on nothing.

You've paid the entrance fee now. Come on in, relax a bit and enjoy the show.

2FAM0US · 2013-12-10T11:52:33+00:00

Now you know how people act.

Do you realise how precious that information is? You can predict people's behaviour, and mould yourself into the best you possible.

Accept it, and in time embrace it and see the fat juicy fruits of your labour with girls' love, guys' respect, and your own self esteem.

[deleted] · 2013-12-10T11:25:48+00:00

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OBJHamSandwich · 2013-12-10T16:51:34+00:00

In my view, the whole theory is about rational actors. Women want the alpha because he's biologically a better choice than the beta. When you pedistaled this chick, what did you expect? "He's so nice to me! I should fuck him." Right, because being nice means you owe that person sex? I'm sure the waiter at the restaurant was a nice guy, too, but she (probably) didn't bang him. You saying "I can't believe she didn't bang me because I was so nice!" is the SAME FUCKING THING as a girl saying "I can't believe he didn't date me because I fucked him!"

Red Pill isn't about hating women-- it's about seeing that the play a game just like men do, so you have to be better at it. It's understanding that women are people who, in the modern day, are carving out a new place in society, but a lot of them still want that princess treatment from their old place in society. They get these silly notions in their head from Disney and Nicholas Sparks that someone is going to be their Prince Charming, and they desperately cling to any possibility that'll happen. They're trying to reconcile being modern with being old-school, and it's difficult. They want to find Prince Charming, but they don't want to act like a princess.

Feminism told women to change, then they got pissed off when men also changed as a result. It's simple economics of supply and demand. To put it in an economic, rational perspective, they want to buy a product (find a dream guy), but their offer is too low (they've cheapened themselves by being too slutty, unattractive, etc). The price that was good 50 years ago doesn't cut it today.

Feminism told women "You don't have to be inferior to men", so they started getting educated and getting jobs-- they started acting like men did. But they are generally more emotional than men, so they can't do it exactly like we do it. While they are the same as men in some aspects, they are different in others. You just have give yourself the upper hand. That's where stuff like dread game, negging, and feigning disinterest comes into play-- they think they're losing the upper hand. It's not because they're stupid or because they're terrible people-- it's because they are people who have competitive desires.

So, to answer your question "How can I stop hating women?", think about it this way-- society is now a sport. The they are out there playing their hearts out on the field, and you're standing around with your dick in your hand bitching about how they're wiping the floor with you and your team. If you want to win the game, you have to practice, train hard, and think like an athlete. Don't think of them as terrible people-- that makes you ignorant. Think of them as another team playing the same sport you're playing, and you just need to score more points than they do (even if they sometimes play dirty).

zorrotypeoutfit · 2013-12-10T09:31:26+00:00

That anger is legit. The right place to express it is in close relationships, because humans are gregarious. It takes time and attention to find others whom one can trust with that which is most deeply true about oneself, including the anger we all feel upon learning how deeply our socialization process chumps us. Dr. Z prescribes forming friendships strong enough to bear serious conversations with men worthy of respect, ideally two to five years older than OP. To OP: are there people you respect in this frat? Did the choices you made today make you more like a man you can respect?

tl;dr The best time to plant a tree is twenty years ago. The second best time is today.

[deleted] · 2013-12-10T11:46:30+00:00

You are young still. You're first 18 years aren't really in your control, you are just a sum of your parents, your environment, etc etc. Some unique people will choose to take charge of their life at a very young age, but this is rare and it's not a big deal that it wasn't you. Basically, you got pooped out beta.

Now that you are grown, everything changes. Now, it is up to you. You determine everything, and you can break the patterns of your environment. You are more than the sum of all the ingredients that formed you - if you want to be. If you go on choosing to be beta, that is your fault now.

And make no mistake. Being permanently angry at reality for being what it is... is a beta trait. Getting so hung up on the fantasy world (the BP reality and how it fucks up people) that it detracts from your life is not good. You're still not in control if you do that, you are being influenced by the circumstances around you, rather than creating your own circumstance, and you KNOW this, which makes you angry at yourself. It's a horrible cycle. Forgive yourself for doing it so far, but from now on, you have to choose not to do it.

Think about it this way. You know football is a shady game at the top level, full of steroids, politics, scummy characters, contract violations, sponsors turning athletes into puppets, etc. Yet the best players will find the inner beauty in football, play their heart out, and keep their head above the bullshit so they don't get burned out. This is what you should aim to do. Don't hate the players OR the game. It's exists whether you hate it or not.

This is where being young comes in. You probably can't get the type of mental control you need to not be angry at the world right now. But if you try to build it every day by forcing your mind to get strong and disciplined, so you can force yourself to basically be light and happy despite the fucked up shit around you, then you will be way ahead of your peers.

BellatorCordis · 2013-12-10T13:49:46+00:00

Martial arts are the best outlet for anger that won't get you arrested. As a bonus, knowing how to fight and getting more fit increases your SMV.

JohnPeel · 2013-12-10T10:55:08+00:00

Anger is good, it gives you a desire to punch stuff. Take up boxing :p

CMOS222 · 2013-12-10T11:38:49+00:00

Recently I've been feeling myself having a bit of a transition from being an r/mensrights-visiting person to an r/theredpill-visiting person...I wouldn't say I'm a hardcore TRP type, but I'm starting to feel like I'm "past" just analyzing and pointing out inconsistencies and hypocracy (sp?) in society and feeling comfortable rejecting anti-male attitudes.

But I was in an r/mensrights frame of mind for a long time...and I guess the point I'm getting at is that perhaps it's ok for you to just say to yourself, "I'm at a point in my life where I'm angry". Just accept and recognize you've got reason for being angry about being lied to for your entire life. Don't inflate it, don't let it take over your life, but don't necessarily get stressed out because it may take you some time to get past it. But realize you WILL get past it. For the time being, think about how you can put yourself in a situation where those old reminders are not around you...avoid misandrists, avoid untruthful movie plots, avoid betas, etc., work on yourself, and realize things will get better.

I still get myself tied up in knots when I think about shit-testing. I hate it, always have. I don't have a handle yet on how to handle it emotionally when it happens, but I sense that eventually I'll be able to handle it in time.

johnnight · 2013-12-10T14:10:25+00:00

Everyone has been lied to. You are not a special, hurt, unique snowflake. Your pain is not special, you have not been hurt more than other guys. Your pain is the price for the ticket.

What you have is healthy constructive anger. It can motivate you. Destructive anger will frustrate you.

You are at the perfect age to swallow that pill. You got wisdom exactly when you need it to make decisions about your adult life! Those that count, not that children stuff.

Do you realize how lucky that is? Could you have learned it earlier? No.

Only a painful needle pinch can wake the comatose sleeping. A life changing, but not life destroying event. Well, you got your necessary pain.

A few years ago I got into a fistfight with some thugs. I was weak, I could not defend myself, so I run away. What was the constructive thing to do? Lift weights, get strong, so that I do not feel weak on the street. I feel more confident now, but wish to become even stronger.

People are lazy by nature. We get busy, when the world forces us to do actual work.

You tried the nice guy strategy; it didn't work. This is the cost of testing strategies. Change strategies.

vengefully_yours · 2013-12-10T16:30:48+00:00

I really enjoy a hate fuck. Women enjoy it more than I do, so I keep some anger laying around. Pull her hair, fuck her like a dirty whore, make her call herself "pussy life support" or anything else demeaning, and they will keep coming back for more.

PerniciousOne · 2013-12-10T16:50:15+00:00

Anger is only temporary, work on yourself.

Work out, strengthen the area that was injured, make sure you do well in classes, and accept that people are narcissistic and only are looking out for themselves.

Anger will dissipate after a while, and then you will accept how the world works, and you will be in a much happier place.

smokingbarrel · 2013-12-10T20:37:38+00:00

Shift your perspective: All that is in your past and you cannot change that. Focus on the present to move forward with what you know and what you can become.

7Vega · 2013-12-11T18:26:04+00:00

Take your anger to the gym and hit pads until you find peace.

FortunateBum · 2013-12-12T21:50:54+00:00

MGTOW for a while.

cgreenlander · 2013-12-10T15:00:04+00:00

Ha, you dumb idiot! you don't know good you have it.

Some of us had to to find the Red Pill BEFORE the internet. You have no idea how hard it was. Now, all you have to do is Google, "why don't girls like nice guys?" and the answer is right in front of you. You don't have to waste ten or fifteen years of your life figuring it out.

TL;DR: quit whining. use your new knowledge. be the man you were meant to be.

Title	First semester of uni right now, joined a frat and realised how beta I was. Anger against feminism is stuck in full gear, can't progress.
Author	omegainvictus
Upvotes	17
Comments	20
Date	December 10, 2013 9:08 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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