Hey all,

I decided to give a little something back to this community by writing this, hopefully short, field report. English is my second language so let me know if I make any mistakes. I will divide story to 5 sections so it's easier for you to read. I also added question in the story for you to answer, so you become more involved in the reading. Try to stop for a moment, think about the question and then answer it. You can write answers in comment under this post if you want.

Pre-story

My story is typical around here. Went full beta on last girl I had fellings for, it didn't work out, started questioning BP method, landed on TRP. Went from being NEET geek with computer games to having a fulfilling life (lifting, singing in a choir, dancing classes, playing guitar and piano, ...). I am much happier now, thanks to people of TRP. (Are you happier after learning from TRP and improving yourself? What are your goals? Be honest with yourself.)

Tinder and date match

I am not super attractive guy, so I have kind of hard time on Tinder (2 matches per week or something like that). At the start, I was following TRP texting rules to the T, but it didn't bring me any dates, so I decided to do it half TRP, half my way (this was after a year of being on TRP, so I was not full BP anymore). The result was, I came across as more authentic to girls, which brought me more success with them.

Conversation on Tinder with the girl I went on date with (I will just call her (the) girl from now on, since she's the only girl in my story) was pretty casual. I complimented her pictures, went on with how was her day, the usual stuff. After that, I invited her to a dancing class for a meet (I didn't say date, since I think that puts some kind of pressure on me and her). She was super excited about this idea and said she'll be there. She then asked if she needs any special clothes for the dance and I jokingly told her to bring mini skirt and a t-shirt. (Why did I start talking to her in a sexual way? What did I archieve with that?) I did this to bring some sexual tone between us, because otherwise it would be pure platonic (aka boring) conversation.

The date

We meet outside of the building where the dancing lesson was about to start. We greeted each other in a respectful/positive manner, then I began with light teasing (for example "do you have a card, so they will let you in the building?" (ofcourse she didnt have it, because she came for the first time)). I did this to bring more fun to the conversation and come across as more aloof person (which I am). We went inside the building to change our clothes and went to the room (I put my hand on her lower back and gently pushed her in. (What did this action tell her about me?), where dancing class started soon.

I am pretty good at dancing (I started learning it last year), so I had no problems with it. She was a little clumsy at the start, but since I was a good leader (What did this action tell her about me?), and she was submissive, she learned quickly, we clicked (those of you who dance hopefully know what I mean with this) and we started to enjoy ourselves. Soon our teacher said we must change our dancing partners and I had no problem with that (What did this action tell her?). Since I am confident in my dancing skills and I enjoy dancing, I had lots of fun with other girls, we were laughing, making stupid mistakes, playing some mini games and so on. In between I never looked at my date on purpose (What did this action tell her?). After a few girls, when we had to change dancing partners again, she (my date) almost ran to me with a smile on her face, and we continued dancing (What did her action tell me about her feeling toward me?).

After dancing class

Outside, she casually asked me what I study and what I am going to do job-wise after college. I answered truthfully (computer science, already have a job reserved). I know TRP teaches to never answer truthfully to this question, but I see no problem with my way. A man is not beta simply because he has money and job security (think Trump, you may have heard of him in the last months). Since we were going to the same direction and we both had bikes, we went together to her place, where she lives (on the way there I was being "an idiot" with my driving, which she loved, we had lots of fun). When we arrived, we had a small talk. I asked her what are her plans for the end of the day (it was 7 pm), to which she said she has no plans and asked me, if I had something in mind for us to do (What were here thoughts here? What did she want to say?). I said I can't (I answered directly to her indirect question), since I have to go to the gym and make my dinner. She was slightly taken aback by my answer (Why is that? What did my answer tell her about me?). I asked her if she's free in 2 days for another dancing class, but she wasn't. Then I said I have to go and told her to have a good time, to which she said something like "Ok, you too" and initiated a hug. I hugged her (for a good 2 seconds or so), then slightly let go and kissed her on the lips (strangely, I had a feeling that this has to happen and I had no fear at all). She naturally kissed me back and I felt she was very happy (again, thanks TRP). I wanted it to be brief, so I stopped after 2 seconds or so, said goodbye and went home, with a yuuuge smile on my face.

The next day

Since I don't have much success with girls, my BP and scarse mentality is strong, I was thinking about her all day and really wanted to call her to meet asap. But I didn't do it, because I know that shows neediness.

Since TRP teaches to escalate as much as possible, I was having thoughts that I didn't escalate enough (I could ask her if I can come up to her apartment), but I am not particularly worried about it anymore. It is what it is. She was happy, I was happy, not need for anything else.

Takeaways

  • Honestly, it was pretty basic date, but it was my first real one so I am proud about it. You should be proud for every small step that you make toward bettering yourself.

  • I made sure I was following TRP teachings (be casual, aloof, fun, confident, dominant, masculine guy, do plenty of physical escalation (thanks to dancing)), but I was also being me. I didn't fake my character and be this typical Chad guy that TRP loves to jerk to. Integrity matters too.

  • I am a stutterer and I was nervous when I first met her, which made my stuttering worse. But I told myself that it's nothing to be embarrassed about and to just breath deeply. I relaxed after a few minutes and my stutter was almost gone. She saw that my stutter is just something that I have (I'm not embarrassed about it) and needless to say, she was perfectly ok with it. Know your weaknesses, but don't let them define you. You must define them. You are not a victim and you refuse to be one.

  • I want to emphasize the importance of a good setup. Dancing is something I am good at, something girls love, and also an excuse for physical escalation. This probably decided my success with her. If the setup was "meet for a coffee at 3pm", it would be a lot harder to succeed.

  • After the date, don't go all BP again. Apply some dread game even if it's against your feelings.

  • [Insert your lesson here. Think about my story and think about what you have learned and what are you going to apply at your next date.]

TL;DR for lazy folks: went on a date, had fun, ended with a kiss.

Again, thanks to TRP for teaching me the right way in my life, and hopefully I will write another field report soon. :)