Summary: A while back Rollo Tomassi tweeted "80% of seduction is simply not fucking up what’s already there. Attraction is not a choice - what you do from there is entirely up to you." That reminds me of another quote - "game is played with 'maybe' girls". So what exactly is this game about?

 

Rare "Yes" Girls

 

Let's take care of "yes" girls first. There are rare instances when you are exactly who the girl is looking for. Maybe you're physically attractive to her, maybe you said something and she thought that you might be the perfect guy to cheat on her husband with, maybe she's just horny and you look like a viable option for tonight.

I won't analyze the reasons behind why a girl becomes 'yes' girl for you. That's job for Rollo and others. I'm a practitioner who just happen to overanalyze things. I know that there are girls out there craving sex and they will welcome the opportunity that you present. Mind you, not all of them are actively looking for sex. Most girls are passive.

When you encounter a girl who already decided that she's going to have sex with you it's all the matter of a) escalating (you still have to lead her to sex) b) not fucking it up. There is no need to generate more attraction. More than comfort she needs plausible deniability - provide it, don't fuck up and she's yours.

 

"Maybe No"

 

Majority of the girls in longer sets and on dates are "maybe" girls. Those girls know what you're about but they don't see themselves fucking you... yet. What's even more important they still haven't decided that they won't fuck you. If she’s still around she’s still a "maybe".

Once a girl realizes she's not going to sleep with you it's game over. It's done. She'll either try to friendzone you, ghost you or she'll somewhat directly say that she's "not feeling this".

The whole concept of game is built on not flipping the "no" switch while continuously escalating towards sex at a pace that is comfortable for her. Do it too fast or too slow or make a big mistake and you'll hear a loud clap of her vagina closing for you forever.

 

Avoid Flipping The Switch

 

There are many things you can do (and say) to make her feel more comfortable, aroused or attracted to you. But not doing that won't necessarily mean you're going to lose. If she’s not a "no" then you still have time, she can change her mind later. That's not the case when she thinks "I won't have sex with this guy".

If you're not relying on routines, canned lines and structure to generate attraction but you actually are an attractive and charming guy with impressive lifestyle then it is really more about not losing her than winning her over.

Some would say it's all about "inner game" and I’m more and more inclined to that theory. Of course, when you're starting out it's all about models and routines. But the goal is not to merely appear attractive but to become attractive.

And if you do that then you can treat every girl like a yes girl - escalate and not fuck anything up.

 

Lessons (re)learned:

  • Game in a nutshell: avoid triggering the "no" and keep on escalating and leading towards sex.
  • Once she thinks "no" then it is game over. That decision is immutable.
  • "Yes" can turn to "maybe" or even "no" due to your actions. Don't fuck it up.
  • Pay attention to what made her think "no". Avoid that in the future. You'll success rates will skyr... Let's say - you’ll do better.
  • Going from "maybe" to "yes" is a matter of spending time with her, escalating and providing excuses (and comfort).