How did you avoid divorce rape?

AirPacker · 2015-09-26T01:33:02+00:00

Forget prenups. Google Asset-protection trust.

squidracer · 2015-09-26T00:37:53+00:00

Seen the movie Divorce corp yet?? Even if you ex wife doesn't get everything your lawyers will at least get a pretty big chunk

MarlboroMan62 · 2015-09-26T01:42:51+00:00

ill share some of my experiences. ive been married twice, both marriages failed miserably, not my fault, but i picked the wrong women and that was my fault.

one will have a couple of major barriers that you must be aware of. if you have kids, its going to be tough, no way around that. also, you want to be aware of your time barrier. im in florida, and anything over 7 years is considered a long term marriage and treated more harshly than a short term marriage. im fortunate, both of mine were short term and no children involved.

know the following: keep your house in your name, if your marriage works out, if you become deceased, there wont be any problem, all your assets go to the wipe anyway, no muss, no fuss.

joint accounts: know that she can clean out the joint account if her name is on it. it doesnt matter that you earmark that money for stupid stuff like food and paying bills. her lawyer is going to suggest that she clean out the account because they want to get a piece of that action and get paid.

if you run short of dough, the lawyers have enough pull to put everything on hold until the money comes through, they want to get paid.

important documents: i would keep all important documents in a safe place, the first thing she will do once she decides to pull the trigger is clean out the joint account and grab all the documents and take to the lawyer so they can start scheming what your worth and start salavating like pablo's f****** dog.

i would never file my taxes jointly, but thats just me, i just dont trust any woman that much and if they got any irs shit going on, you can bet they wont tell you about it until you get that white envelope in the mail or they inform you at work about the garnishe thing.

be prepared to keep some type of journal of her bad behavior. they will tell you that in a no fault state that it doesnt matter but if your lawyer will present it, and the judge reads it, the judge cant unread it and unknow what you tried to tell them. it cant hurt. besides, your lawyer will have a better idea of what they dealing with. that will save them time and save you money

always keep an emergency stash of cash and an emergency credit card, if she manages to kick you out, you gonna have to eat.

be prepared to let her have anything she wants, its better for you in the long run, you dont want to be paying a lawyer 200.00 per hour as you and her fight over steak knives. chances are high that everything you let her have, she will piss it away in 2 years time and you can have a chuckle out of that.

any legal papers she gives you in person arent worth the paper they printed on, it is highly likely she will try to deceive you and leave something important out. if she files first, go to the clerk of the court and get real copies for 10 cents a page.

shop around for a lawyer, get references from friends. some lawyers will give you a free consulation, others will want about 200 bucks just to talk. some will tell you they gonna think about it and decide if they will take you on as a client.

pay attention to your lawyers legal assistant. they will be doing all the leg work and that who you will be dealing with the most. if you feel good with them, you will be in good shape.

my first lawyer did me well, we had quite a bit of crap to deal with but they did good. when i went back to her the 2nd time, she had a new receptionist who acted like she didnt care if i lived or died. her fee also doubled. had to shop around for another lawyer.

once the trigger is pulled, be prepared that all her friends and relatives going to take her side, no matter what, facts be damned, but that how women are, it can be frustrating but forewarned is forewarned.

very important for the husband to get a lawyer. if you draw a bad judge, your lawyer will wait for them to go out of town and then submit important paper work to the substitute judge to get it pushed through.

once the trigger is pulled, you will get a general order that will include no going out and spending money on anything not urgent or neccessary. pay attention to that, you dont want a contempt of court charge.

if the wipe goes out of state, file in your county asap so that you can play by its rules and your local lawyers and not deal with all the out of state stuff. if she goes out of state, she will have to reside there 6 months before she can file in her local county.

the 21 day requirement to do this and 15 day requirement to do that only applies to you, not to her, be patient and put a little faith in your lawyer.

apackofwankers · 2015-09-26T11:32:57+00:00

For my part, I had a Prenup that pretty much said she got nothing. We were both professionals with decent salaries. Opened a joint bank account, but never used it. I was pretty generous to her when we split, forking out to get her an apartment and establish it. I let her take whatever she wanted from the house. 10 years later, she loaned me some money to cover a cash squeeze. We are still good friends.

PlusGoody · 2015-09-26T13:44:57+00:00

Here's what I've seen work.

A properly done pre-nup. I've posted before about what it is required for that, but the bottom line is that a pre-nup done the way they are supposed to be done in your state is going to hold up nine times out of ten.

Don't be at fault -- although "no fault" is the law, when the divorce is because you left for another woman, got caught cheating, or were abusive or neglectful in an objective (and not bullshit complaint way), your ex will be vindictive and the court will sympathize with her. The flip side of that -- her being obviously at fault -- can benefit you, but less reliably. Courts have ZERO sympathy for men who have been abused, but when she leaves you for a richer, better looking guy she and her lawyers will often be munificent and the court a tad intolerant of her trying to put the screws to you. As a practical matter women don't want their bad behavior in the public record, which helps as well.

Playing for custody. The law has changed in recent years to make custody more gender neutral, so this is possible, and 50 / 50 physical custody is probable if you want it. With full custody she pays you child support, and at 50/50 there's no child support paid. This blows up the emotional and economic basis of divorce for a lot of women. I have seen more than once women BEGGING for mercy when they realized they wouldn't have the kids half the time AND would get none of their husband's income AND would need to pay rent on 3-bedroom apartment if they wanted to keep even 50/50 custody. (No suitable home = no overnight with your kids.) When this happens, they end trading away everything else in order to get their husband down to every other weekend and holiday and two weeks in the summer plus standard child support.

Her being from a rich or prominent family. I've seen divorces wrap up in weeks with fair or even favorable splits of assets, zero alimony, everyone happy with child custody, visitation and support, because wife's rich dad basically doesn't want any legal exposure or publicity. Here is helps to have a very aggressive lawyer who puts a scare into rich dad.

Being smart about the long-term value of assets, and being lucky if your wife hired a lawyer who has no analytical ability. Guys often buy out hugely valuable professional, business or career assets, insurance policies, pensions, etc. with the much-less-valuable equity in their houses and cars, because their wife just wants to keep the house and car.

MoarPill · 2015-09-26T00:08:01+00:00

The best solution that is 100% effective is to not get married.

TheMGhandi · 2015-09-26T01:58:31+00:00

Search around and you'll find a lot of knowledge about divorce-rape.

Posting in ASKTRP is probably going to get you more attention, seeing as most of the posts aren't all so well-written.

jaimewarlock · 2015-09-26T13:09:29+00:00

When my first wife divorced me, I told her that if she continued to ask for alimony/child support, that I would move to another country. She knew I was serious and was much easier to deal with after that.

DaphneDK · 2015-09-26T17:23:01+00:00

I lived in Denmark. No divorce rape there. No lawyer, no prenup, also not-crazy woman (well you know the scale starts at 4, so reasonable crazy woman).

n4gss · 2015-09-26T17:52:47+00:00

Well, in my case, if anything it was her that got raped. I had a perfect clean break. I was asked to move out and after all my bullshit whining and crying, I moved out. She did take my truck keys before I moved out and got that but, I was left with a reliable, paid off car that was all mine so, no payment. The house was in her name so, once again, no payment. But I did take just about everything out of the house when I moved. Except for the few things that was in her name and weren't paid off. I went to see a lawyer for a $300 consultation fee. She waived it after she heard me out. Saw her a second time after I was served with papers. Still didn't charge me. In the end, I never spent a dime on the divorce. I actually could have gotten alimony and made her life hell but decided it was going to be best to just GTFO clean. That would've been a bit beta as well. Still would be funny to get a $10 alimony check every month just because.

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Electric_Romeo · 2015-09-26T09:39:11+00:00

Abstinence (from marriage) I assume is the best method.

Title	How did you avoid divorce rape?
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Date	September 26, 2015 12:03 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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