How to sense Shit Tests?

YaBoiTibzz · 2014-09-13T08:03:25+00:00

A good policy is, if in doubt, always assume it's a test. The best policy is to avoid having your buttons pushed, at all, by anything. That way whether it's a test or not doesn't matter since you'll react the same way to whatever she does. This mystery in behavior will almost certainly raise your SMV.

2014-09-13T08:16:27+00:00

You use the force

Obviously

SkorchZang · 2014-09-13T09:35:50+00:00

You definitely get better at sensing them with practice.

The value of lists is that they give common examples, so you catch the underlying theme. Which always is the woman's lizard brain trying to find out, "is he going to take shit from me if I stomp my little foot hard enough?"

Most of their tests are based on eliciting pity, shame, male white knight instincts, her princess pedestal, and aggressive female solipsism. In some cases the shit test is her pouring out her fears on you all at once, some of which are going to be legit fears that you can't do anything about - again if you take it seriously, that's no good. She wants to see you not bat an eyelash and put her back in her place. I.e. not take any of her shit. If you give in, then obviously shit test failed, she gets even more anxious and unhappy.

I have a sort of rule of thumb, if the woman is overtly pushing hard for something and demands to be taken seriously about it, it's a shit test. When a good woman legitimately wants something, she will get it by manipulating the male in far subtler and sweeter ways.

For example:

Woman: "Fuck, I left my keys upstairs again!! And now I gotta deal with my boss texting who pisses me off, and you couldn't even pick up the mail? Why are you doing this to me?"

She's pushing for an anger response and/or compliance to demands. Why would she, or anyone, be allowed to give a man any shit in his own home? A spine-chilling question to ponder.

Different example:

Woman: "Fuck, I left my keys upstairs again!! And now I gotta deal with my boss texting who pisses me off... oh my god, I'm such a bitch, sweetie could you get them for me please"

Man: "yeah at least you got a nice ass...(grab in passing)"

She's still giving the man shit. But this time she's manipulating him in a sweet, feminine fashion. Even if he goes and gets her the keys, the man passes (with "B+" or so, we imagine) as long as he does not take her bitching seriously or let it affect his disposition.

graduallywinning · 2014-09-13T06:47:28+00:00

Shit tests aren't something to be on the lookout for. Focus inward. Reacting to shit tests is like failing the biggest shit test there is.

Always be true to yourself and your beliefs, be consistent with yourself. Shit tests aren't real - a shit test only comes into existence when you react to them incongruently from your beliefs. I know it sounds contradictory, but a shit test is only something to worry about if you are being inconsistent and the test makes it obvious.

If you are always just following your gut, even when it seems like something they don't want to hear or not the answer they want, the shit test becomes you just being you.

TheYoungPatriarch · 2014-09-13T07:46:36+00:00

The term "Shit Test" is a kind of over-arching word we use to describe several different types of testing a woman will give you based on her perceived needs at that specific time.

The types of shit tests you'll receive change over time. The initial shit tests you'll encounter are test which try to determine where or not you are a high value man.

You demonstrate/display high value (DHV) by maintaining frame during these types of shit tests. The fact that she is giving you a shit test indicates that you may pique her interest, however, she isn't sure. It depends on how you deal with her.

If you continue past the initial "bitch shield" shit tests, you can escalate generally up until you are literally about to get your dick wet. This phase is what is referred to as Last Minute Resistance (LMR). As with all of these tests the idea is to hold frame. Provide "probable deniablility" and continue to work her until "OMG it just happened" and she can tell her friends about how she was wooed and all her defenses and walls were torn down.

In the context of relationships shit test take on two forms: Shit test to determine how secure she is with you, and shit test to determine who is "wearing the pants." It is kind of tribal knowledge here that depending on where she is in her cycle different sides of her pluralistic mating strategy become more apparent. When ovulating, she craves Alpha Fucks. You should be looking out for any type of challenge to authority, you should be leading and making decisions in almost all instances during your time together, you should hitting it hard.

On the flip-side of the cycle, she will be looking for you to display signs of a good provider. You must still maintain frame (ALWAYS) however, you can be more accommodating and you can allay her anxieties which might even result in some genuine gratitude (haha yeah right).

You know what annoys you and what triggers your anger the best. The more time you spend with a woman she will try to find those buttons and use them to enter into emotional arguments to get her way. If this is happening, it is best to set clear boundaries and rules, and if she breaks those rules you must deal with those breaches of relational integrity severely.

Next her.

Hope that helps a little.

LS_D · 2014-09-13T08:41:10+00:00

a "shit test" is some kind of challenge thrown up by her to rattle your cage

don't get rattled, you win, simples

intrcept · 2014-09-13T03:33:28+00:00

Looking at extensive lists is counterproductive. It make things too complicated. Moreover, no one can predict every situation.

If she's pushing your buttons in any way, it's a test. Just stay calm and handle it rationally.

ziggitypumziggitypim · 2014-09-13T07:30:03+00:00

Where can I find these "extensive lists of shit tests"?

oldredder · 2014-09-13T09:43:09+00:00

I think it's way, way easier to define in words very abstractly but you must be attentive to context & true to your best possible self (not any past beta incarnation, if applicable) to proceed. Simply put: a shit-test is both an invitation to be attractive to her & an opportunity to betray yourself as subservient to her and/or less than the man you need to be. That's that. Don't let your words or actions betray you as weak to yourself or her. Subservient is weak. Don't be seriously self-deprecating to her as a response because if it wasn't a shit-test before it sure as hell is now, and that doesn't count self-deprecating jokes that are clearly not serious if you are good with the comedy-act.

Treating things as a shit-test that aren't will only overwork your emotions. Holding frame should be universal but using it to be anything but aloof/unbothered for a shit-test has much greater risk. You can try something clever or sarcastic but it won't make sense if you really weren't being shit-tested & just misunderstood. Live and learn.

I'd say the real challenge is shit-test vs comfort-test. Wyminz. They are so tricky they can't even understand their own inner nature. So long as you are fairly certain you can alleviate any concerns to her about comfort, especially in a subliminal way, without showing weakness in resolve/frame & integrity (however you've got her to know it in you), I guess you're good to go.

Disclaimer: I'm not too bad at spotting/reacting to shit-tests with aloofness but I'm not too great for comfort-tests. Reason being: I kind of don't give a fuck which makes it hard to provide comfort to a girl who really wants you to give a fuck. That means bigger grain of salt on my commentary for comfort-tests.

sir_wankalot_here · 2014-09-13T12:03:59+00:00

Just do what ever you want, if someone babbles some crap agree and amplify. Yes it is very important to be able to sense shit tests, why don't you buy me another beer so we can talk about it.

anonlymouse · 2014-09-13T14:45:46+00:00

Don't really need to sense them. You just need to think about what objectively makes you the best mate, and follow the appropriate course of action. For example, if a girl tells you you need to stop asking for permission to have sex with her/grope her, that's not a shit test, and you should do exactly what she says. Don't think about what is and isn't a shit test, just think about what is and isn't right.

ill_rp · 2014-12-21T03:40:12+00:00

So at my job, this hb 8 (coworker) initiated conversation with me in the break room. She walked past me and sat down in the chair nearest to me, and I didn't acknowledge her. I was watching basketball/texting my friends to set up plans to play basketball when I got off. Anyways, after about 5 minutes, she broke the silence and asked said "Hey You go to x college right?" And i replied "yeah. do you?"

Then she said "Ok i think ice seen you around." To which I replied "I'm not sure I've seen you." then we talked a bit about her major and shit and why she's interested in that. I kept a half interested frame, reverting my attention to the TV every now and then while she was talking to me (and she definitely noticed). But to get to the point, why did she start a convo with me, and not shit test me? Unless I missed them. I made sure to keep the conversation about her and how she felt and shit, so maybe she didn't have time to test me.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-09-13T17:42:35+00:00

Easy- if a woman opens her mouth and says something to you it is a shit test.

2014-09-13T07:51:24+00:00

Overtime, it just comes natural. I honestly have a feeling thought that TRP assumes everything disagreeable is a shit test when it may just be happenstance. E.g. from a thread earlier today, a woman asked a guy if he wanted blah from dinner and he said yes; she then realized there was missing primary ingredient.....TRP was jerking their self off over the shit test when it honestly seemed like a simple mistake.....I may make a post about this tomorrow...

favours_of_the_moon · 2014-09-13T13:07:45+00:00

One way to tell if a woman is shit testing you is to see if her lips are moving.

The way to deal with a shit test is to have her take your penis into her mouth.

Title	How to sense Shit Tests?
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Date	September 13, 2014 3:25 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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