I want to share a scary situation that has happened to me within the last 5 days. This story reflects the need for us as men to be vigilant in our interactions with women to protect ourselves from getting accused of rape.

I met a girl at a outdoor shopping center Friday. She seemed friendly and she was somewhat cute. She had big boobs but was slightly pudgy and had short hair. She is probably a 5 or 6 out of 10 but I don't have high standards so game on.

Anyways she ended up texting me to see if I wanted to have lunch the next day which I agreed to. In my mind I was thinking, 'Wow this chick is pushing forward the interaction so she must be ready to go.'

I met her for lunch the next day and everything went well. She was dressed nice and I was still in my soccer clothes because I am a soccer coach and just finished a morning junior soccer camp. I paid for her lunch and we had a somewhat pleasant experience. She did most the talking which I am used to and encourage. Afterwards we went on a walk. There is a duck pond by the restaurant which makes it the perfect place to take dates. So as we were walking I held her hand which was met with zero resistance. This was pretty much our first physical contact. Then we sat down on a bench and I stared at her lips for a few seconds which feels much longer in the moment. She slightly moved closer to me so I knew she was ready so I kissed her. We ended up making out probably 5 or 6 times over the next 15 minutes. She was an amazing kisser. Like one of the best kissers I have ever kissed. All of this surprised me because it happened so fast.

Afterwards I walked her back to her car and we both went back to our separate jobs. Later I texted her 'wow that was hot I'm still light headed.' Then she said 'you're welcome'

So everything is good and I am the man right? Not so fast. The next day I text her 'Hey what are you up to?' This is what proceeds to happen (I will retype the text messages exactly as I received them, and yes they really were this long):

Her: "you were arrogant. And sarcastic...in a rude way. And idk what you were doing with that kiss. It was tragic. And the grabbing at me like a monkey grasping for a branch? It was weird. Also dont grab chicks forcefully like that when youve known them for 5 seconds. its not hot. So I'm doing nothing that will concern you, thank you"

Me: (putting my ego aside b/c I believe I can still get the bang) 'I enjoyed yesterday, I didn't realize you weren't having a good time. If you're not happy then I won't pursue you any more. For the record I thought you looked gorgeous and I was surprised by how fast we kissed but I'm glad it happened that way'

Her: "Ok you literally grabbed my face and kind of forcefully went about the whole thing. You kept just...grabbing me. It wasn't much of a negotiation. I'm not just a gorgeous girl."

Me: "I told you that I thought the kiss was a little fast too but look I'm not mad at you. Look I don't want to argue about this. I'm glad you told me that you are upset. I didn't know before and now I do so at least we are communicating. Everything is going fast let's just take a step back and if we still are interested in seeing each other lets wait at least a week before we talk again. If not then I'm sorry to see us go our separate ways"

2 days later (today)

Her: "Ok well you molested my face. And my body. You were grabbing at my back. Like grabbing at my skin and you were either doing nothing with your tongue or doing wayyyy to much. There is balance between dead fish and choking me [in her defense i did lightly place my hands around her neck when i kissed her lol]. I am not interested. For many reasons. You are so interested in being "cool" that you actually said because you haven't heard of something that it couldn't possibly be cool? [context: she had told me about a history channel tv show which she said was amazing but I know it wasn't because I have never heard of it] Who does that? I will tell you. A jerk. And if that works on any girls then good luck with that. Also don't tell someone passionate about social justice that you don't care about things that don't affect you." [she considers herself passionate about social justice lol]

Me: "Ok I just saw these texts. Look we made out probably five separate times if I had 'molested your face' as you say and you hated it so much then why the heck would you kiss me again? Besides I will admit it you were a better kisser than me [which is true and one of the highest compliments I could possibly pay hr] I just let you do your thing which is why I was so impressed and you were the one who after kissing me said 'I'm talented'. You know I thought you were such a cool girl and now I see that you are INSANE. I'm glad we didn't go any further I can only imagine what you would have said then. Obviously you are mad at so why do you keep texting me? So you can get even angrier? Unless you apologize I will not respond any more"

Her: "Ok well I didn't want to be rude. I wanted to get out of the situation as quickly as possible. Fuck you for calling me insane. I was just being honest. If no one else told you then theyre lying. So bye."

The whole thing about 'molesting my face' truly frightened me. I didn't even realize she was a feminist at first. This whole situation makes we want to get a recording device to take everywhere with me. In my state anyone can record a conversation as long at least one party agrees to it which makes it easy for anyone to record one's own conversation but obviously still illicit to record the conversations of others. So I'm not sure the lesson here except to do what you can to document your conversations and interactions very carefully.