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[–]SLMC1 50 points51 points52 points 9 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
in no way would it be a sunk cost or even 'time lost'
Excellent attitude to hold. Every day of the relationship is its own value and should be worth it in and of itself. When you rent a car, it's not sunk value or time lost when you return the vehicle. You extracted the value out of it that you needed and you can appreciate it both during and after it's gone.
[–]RP-Doctor 9 points10 points11 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Exactly, there is no problem with LTRs, but your mind has to be in the right place. There is nothing wrong with enjoying the bond between you and another person, even long term, but if you started TRP'ing less than a year ago, fucked some girl who took interest in you, and start falling hard and finding yourself pushing aside TRP advice... you're lining yourself up for a kick in the ass.
If I had to put some concrete rules on it, I'd say you aren't ready to take on an LTR for fun until you've
1) Fucked at least 20 women
2) Broken off at least 5 FWB situations just because you feel like it
3) Can get laid essentially at will
4) Completely established your life/career path (and made these your #1 priority)
Theoretically, there's really nothing wrong at all with LTRs, but theoretically communism works as well. In practice, 95% of guys on here would falter in the face of the easy comfort of a relationship that's "going somewhere." Then social pressure might see that man give in. You have to remind yourself where your priorities lie. Nothing is better at making us forget that than avoidance of the cold, hard dating world and promises of easy pussy and comfort until we die. You have to be sure you're ready to pull out at the first red flag.
[–]SLMC1 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
LTR, without strong frame, is dog shit.
[–]disgruntledearthling1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Listen to this dude. This is truth.
[–]aanarchist2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
that most needy dudes do is overinvest with little payoff. put in what you get out. if she's giving you her best, give her yours. if she's generous with you, be generous with her. if she's a wishy washy plate who's best as friends and fuck buddies, treat her as a bro who has a vagina.
[–]1nonthaki17 points18 points19 points 9 years ago* (15 children) | Copy Link
Something tells me she will want to pursue something deeper like a relationship, 3 years down the line, i.e. when she is 28, preferably with a beta so that she can live a self-indulgent life on his money. I am sure you wouldnt care if she leaves . But still, I wanted to mention this feeling .
In the context of wanting to initiate a discussion, the decision of which I am taking on the basis of the recent post in TRP,. ... i want to ask . .. How do you feel while fucking her knowing that all her responses and "submissive & feelgood" behavior is ONLY because of the/in response to, Alpha vibes you are giving off, ... in which some of the vibes you gave off maybe artificial And others you may feel natural (i.e. you feel like a natural Alpha) ?
[–]textualintercourse[S] 19 points20 points21 points 9 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link
Something tells me she will want to pursue something deeper like a relationship
I think you are right. We had some serious conversations about 'not up for marrying' / 'I am not having kids' etc. And she was onboard. But I've taken note of about three times she's moved the goal posts a bit when she talks about 'if I had a kid'.
I pulled the ol, "I hope the dude is a good father to that kid."
And personally, I wouldn't consider myself an 'Alpha', I do work out (personal goal of 300 pullups a day, I'm in the 80 - 100 range doing sets of 10 in chinup/pullup/wide grip), I do have a lot of hobbies that are independent of her, but due to the 'EX' (I was married for 10 years, previous to this) I don't care to get back into what I was doing to make the money I was making, just so I can pay into the gaping hole of divorce rape. Yep. I learned The Red Pill on Legendary Mode. So if she wants cash and prizes, I am in a recognized position that if she wants that, that is one area of exposure I will lose out to a more 'put together' Red Pill gentleman.
But this is the most 'consistent best' sex I've had. I've had some crazy one-off scenarios where the sex was better, but those are "I'm king of the Mountain" situations of 'right place / right time' that I would be hard pressed to duplicate. Now that I'm in an LTR, it's been very very consistent and she is a freak. Not counting post divorce dating period, but just in this year and a half, I would guess I've had more sex in this year and a half than a lot of guys will have in their lives.
Edit: Also on the "Alpha" thing, I think there are the 'chads' that are alpha naturally, they don't even give it thought and they pull pussy like champions. I've had to be broken, then aware of it all, had to put myself back together and improve on traits I already had, as well as plant seeds and cultivate traits I knew I needed. So It's a constant work in progress and hyper aware of the moment to maintain frame. It doesn't come naturally in a lot of areas, but I'm also going to be 'me', but hoping it works out that its something of value to the ladies. So far I'm not complaining too much.
[–]yomo8612 points13 points14 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I learned The Red Pill on Legendary Mode
Sorry, mate but I had the best chuckle since a long time. Pure Schadenfreud.
[–]1nonthaki0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Ya .. i agree .. .. but how do you feel knowing that she is just acting in a nice manner because of certain parameters you are fulfilling i.e. being Alpha .. . dont you feel sometimes that it all feels just like an act, maybe even feel frustrated about that fact ?
[–]textualintercourse[S] 9 points10 points11 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Oh, I question her straight up.
We are very open with our communication and that's where I diverge from Red Pill. I'm not "stoic", I'm not "quiet/mysterious/brooding". I talk a lot, but I'd argue it is substantive and not just nonsense.
I've told her, "This is who I am (insert opinions) and how I operate (insert values). So there you go. If you are here with me for any reason other than desire or want. Feel free to walk and find that guy who is what you believe you want."
So far her actions and her words align. If she snaps because she was living a lie, that's on her, my hands are clean.
[–]whythecynic6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It's good and beneficial to be upfront if your actions carry your words through. For most people, they learned RP on hard mode (condolences, but congratulations, that you got through on Legendary). So they know the most important feature of RP, that sets it apart from PUA, is that to get past one evening you need substance as a man.
If you're a man of no substance, open communication, especially in a LTR where the truth always comes to light, just shows that you're a sub-par piece of shit. Open communication when you have the confidence, ability, and willingness to back it up projects an air of immense superiority. It also means that everyone is on-board and feels comfortable with what eventually happens.
Keyword is "feels". When things stop working out, don't overthink things. The feels have simply moved on, while the mind and body tend to linger around for a bit due to social and personal factors.
Even if logically "that's on her", remember, "feels" are everything. You're in a LTR; that means you've likely opened up, you have established some habits of trust, and that means you have vulnerabilities. Protect yourself, make sure everyone feels like they did the right thing, and you'll be golden.
My advice (from my own experience) is to look out more for yourself. You say "The best way I manage keeping GF 'happy'..." and "its something of value to the ladies" which is the beginning of a worry that you are not focusing on yourself.
The goal is not to make the ladies happy. The goal is to become a man capable of doing anything you want. Think of your objective in terms of yourself. For your specific case where you are now: you want to become a man capable of taking any lady along on the ride of their life. Not "I'm doing this for you", but "I'm doing this, I thought you might enjoy it, want to come along?".
[–]textualintercourse[S] 4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"The goal is not to make the ladies happy. The goal is to become a man capable of doing anything you want".
A-MEN.
This is my personal opinion, but when you 'value' yourself and have an understanding of what that means, you win.
Again, my opinion, is that it means you are truly 'independent'. You don't need anything to validate yourself aside from who you are. I see PUA or "Red Pill" lite types that think, "Keno! Alcohol! A puppy! A nice car! Status! Value! Big muscles! Dread Game (I am guilty of this)" and "THAT'S' what it takes to get the woman."
Again, those are accessories that assist, but to me are far from the point. Interesting to me though, is that they are steps on the path, but once you figure yourself out and what you truly are, a man, though they are needed in areas, they don't supplant the point: Being a man and owning it.
I have done those things. I do work out, I do drink on occasion, albeit rarely, but when you put things in place to be independent and you live your life how you choose and see fit. THAT in my world makes the women want you. But what's crazy, if I willfully lose frame (That's on me, as you stated, and I will be guilty of losing her in that case when she doesn't get the 'gina tingles') and she bails, I don't really care. My goals and ideals don't include her, and I've extended that invitation to her in basically the words you've used above, so if she wants to be the cheerleader on the sidelines, great (and she is). If she creates her own hobbies and ambitions (pleasantly surprised that she actually has her own goals she's working towards as opposed to 'cash and prizes' handed to her from a wealthier person), I am just as supportive and feel no slight in her personal goals to accomplish.
I just finished watching the first three seasons of Black Sails. Captain Flint, fuckin' A, that dude lives his code. All of the 'powerful' men who are working to 'know' who they are, live their code and don't make apologies.
[–]stonepimpletilists 11 points12 points13 points 9 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Welcome to life. All her responses have always been because of that.
you aren't loved for being you (except by mom) it's always what you provide. Money, tingles, sperm.
you're only as valuable as what you offer in value. Welcome to man, enjoy your stay, try not to dirty the carpet
[–]textualintercourse[S] 3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
The other day she said to me out of nowhere, "I love you."
I replied, "I love the way I make you feel too."
[–]diomedes7771 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is a bit autist/weird man. Don't say stuff like this. It makes her think you're over analyzing her and your relationship extensively or maybe learning to say this stuff somewhere and if she gets a whiff that you might not be an actual natural alpha male she's going to detach. Just say "I know" and slap her ass/kiss her forehead
[–]whythecynic3 points4 points5 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"I know" is the single most alpha thing I have heard in a movie. Basically, "my frame is so goddamn adamantine that while being frozen to be taken to my mortal enemy by literally the second and third most dangerous men in the galaxy, I am still going to flirt with you and I know you are going to be dripping wet".
[–]1nonthaki6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
I know . It depresses me to no end . Like I can play the game if I want to and I can win sex,money and Everything ... but I dont want to play this game .
[–]stonepimpletilists 8 points9 points10 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Change your mindset.
Hard work sucks. Hard work is also fulfilling, and you become a better man from it.
all about perspective
[–]SetConsumes1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even though the game involves shit raining unpredictably without warning, love feels amazing in the end, and most people rather be in love than not.
Just gotta put a lot less weight on her loving you and more on you loving her.
Its like when a dog loves you. Yay, woopy fuck, but what matters more and you feel more really is how you love it.
Though at least the dog's love is more real...
[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorVasiliyZaitzev7 points8 points9 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Something tells me she will want to pursue something deeper like a relationship, 3 years down the line, i.e. when she is 28, preferably with a beta so that she can live a self-indulgent life on his money.
A.K.A. the "Epiphany Phase".
[–]HowlSkank7 points8 points9 points 9 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Have an upvote for keeping a fertile doe around at your (and my) advanced age. Let me ask you this, where did you find this one?
[–]textualintercourse[S] 4 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
When I was just playing the game, Tinder and online dating was where it was at. Complete killing field. A few relationship contenders out of the group, but then this one appeared on the radar, and I just lived my life and observed for a while.
Started off as an exclusive physical only. But over time I realized there was more under the hood than just snapchat and reality TV. It just kind of grew from there.
[–]HowlSkank1 point2 points3 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well good on ya, my man. Best of luck with it.
[–]1ozaku715 points16 points17 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
The best way I manage keeping GF 'happy' is to be excited mentally over the prospect that she leaves or cheats.
You misspelled "indifferent". Additionally, you would actually want to have an alarm in her mouth and vagina which sends you a message with GPS data when and where exactly she got a tongue or cock inserted inside of her.
I'm not afraid of my gilfriend cheating on me as I won't be able to care any less. I'm not losing anything if it proves it doesn't have any value. But I am afraid of being with a cheating whore without even knowing it.
[–]samenrofringslikeLBJ 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I used to worry about that too, but then I kinda ditched that feeling too. Just allways wear a rubber, even if she is on the pill and this is a solid plate of 3+ months. Makes anal easier too. Don't wanna catch whatever the dude who dumped inside her last weekend had neither. Any guy she is fucking is viewed as potential mate, so if he doesn't commit, there will be the urge inside her to get a binding commitment from someone else or at least prepare one. So she will sleep around eventually, hence why I don't bother thinking about it.
I don't do cohabitation, but I don't think it makes it tougher for women to cheat.
[–]Sumsar016 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
People here keep talking about feminists. Look if a girl is with you and she is a feminist, you are a beta. My last LTR was a "feminist" and a "leftist" but somehow when she started talking about her opinions they suddenly seemed to copy my libertarian/conservative ones completely.
[–]truthseeker20112 points13 points14 points 9 years ago* (2 children) | Copy Link
It's funny how the same girls who are femimists are the same one's who have never actually been with an alpha male before. They think they are powerful until an alpha male shows them how a woman is really supposed to feel. And you would be surprised at the amount of "feminists" that are willing to submit themselves to the right amount of alpha when it comes along. I was actually going to make a post about this because I have been seing a girl for one month now who claims shes a femimist. I have been applying TRP to our relationship along with fucking her into oblivion, I am like crack coccaine to her, she can't get enough. She has stated that I am usually not her type and she doesn't understand why she's so attracted to me... but we know damn well why she is, don't we fellas?
Something I have noticed that is imperative with the feminist type women for example is the "show her you're alpha" instead of "tell her you're alpha" is even more important with these women. They are very sensitive to any overt comments that contradict their feminist ideology, but when you show them alpha male qualities by doing things that portray you as dominant, they eat it up. I think it makes them question their ideology which has exponential impact on their feelz since they are thinking "wow this guy is making me question my beliefs and I feel way happier with him"
[–]textualintercourse[S] 5 points6 points7 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
That's another big secret.. fucking her like it's the last sex she and you will ever have. Who knows, it just might be.
You are probably 1000% right. So many women I dated were trying to be my shadow and echo. Just waiting to see what I was about so that they could morph into what I think they wanted. Fuck. That. That got old very quick.
The ONLY canary in the coal mine that makes me even slightly, barely, even attempt to delude myself that some women are marginally different are when they have their own hobbies that they actually pursue and care about outside of "yoga / crossfit / shopping".
But once that bird dies of toxic fumes, I'll be the one to bounce.
[–]WIDE_420lbs2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There's something cool about a woman that is deep deep into something, because a lot of times their interests are very shallow. I don't even mean the interests themselves, just the scope of the subject they are"interested" in is like surface deep, like someone read a synopsis on the subject, and pinned the badge on their chest; "yes this is who I am now."
Finding someone that actually actually deep enough to question why things are the way they are in a subject is refreshing. I don't think they're unicorns but definitely a good sign.
[–]textualintercourse[S] 6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Deadly serious, when you talk to any women, mention your hobbies, you'll find out quick how many have NONE. They don't do a fucking thing but exist to consume.
A hobby "produces" something. That takes a different mindset, so I'll take a chance on that.
The consumers? When single they'll get my cock. That's all they are good for. But they will get nothing I've acquired through production and work.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This makes sense as the one who needs the relationship least has the most power and it sounds like that's you.
It's also disappointing that this is what's required to manage a relationship with a woman nowadays. I'm not knocking your technique, it works. More so that this is the construct required to keep her resource-seeking uterus from questioning the LTR.
My Catholic ideals for marriage and family are gonna show here a bit, but the fact that women just don't have the capacity to be selfless in LTRs anymore is tragic. This is why many of us don't get married, become fathers, etc. and why birth rates in Western countries continue to decline. That said, I still have trouble understanding why women can be so immature about something so serious and am still grappling with their teenage mindset.
[–]yomo864 points5 points6 points 9 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Some poker players use the same 'tactic' when playing an opponent who has more experience, more stamina and is more apt at the game. The get their cards, they don't look at them go all in and be mentally ready to walk away and then wait for the results. It scares the shit out of everybody.
[–]vibrato2 6 points7 points8 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I guess you don't play much poker. That "tactic" is my favorite thing to see.
[–]Dat_Chad0 points1 point2 points 9 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
here's a ltr protip, don't do it
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