As a TRP'er, you may want to have a serious monogamous relationship. I see a lot about guys spinning plates on here. I rarely see much about how to maintain a Red Pill frame, while in a monogamous, loving relationship.

6 years ago I swallowed the pill (RSD blueprint rocked my world. it completely changed my world view). I spent a few years spinning plates, chasing tail, and getting laid a ton. Recently I met a girl who rocks my universe (sexy hour glass shaped Mexican chica with a beautiful personality).

Here is how I maintain an alpha frame in a serious monagous relationship (My 2 cents, speaking as an American, with all western culture social influences therein). I have no idea how to type this without sounding pretentious....

MY INTERPRETATION OF THE MASCULINE ALPHA MALE IN A MONOGAMOUS RELATIONSHIP

(quick preface)

The primitive alpha male was likely the chief of a tribe (so to speak). In that role, he cared about the well-being and happiness of his tribe. He didn't lose his shit over internal squabbles, but he cared for the harmony of the tribe. As such, he was empathetic towards his tribe members, and he acted as a strong, guiding, caring leader. He protected his tribe to the point of physical violence toward threats, hunting for food, teaching the youngins, etc... Humans are a successful species solely because of social cooperation In the primitive world, loners tended to starve to death.

The reason I post this - I see so many comments here stating that "alpha's don't give a shit about other people's problems." The don't-give-a-fuck-about-her-bullshit frame works for random hookups and spinning plates, but that's because those women are looking for an alpha to fuck.

Confidence and arrogance are hard to tell apart.

But, in the context of a monogamous relationship, to maintain an alpha frame, the man must care about his woman's problems. If she is crying, he soothes her.

moving on

Be the leader of the relationship This is the toughest part. In my experience, there are two types of American women. Those who are turned on by being submissive, and those who fight tooth and nail for dominance in their relationship.

I have had a long term relationship where it was a constant battle for dominance. ...and I'll be damned if I surrender. She was viciously attracted to me, and we either fought, or had the hottest sex in the universe. Maybe I'm weird, but I don't mind fighting with my girl. It's exciting, it's tense, and it leads to super hot sex. I was never going to submit to her dominating the relationship, and pissing her off turned her on. (Luckily my current GF is very submissive, and is totally turned on by me leading the relationship).

hold her accountable when she is being unreasonable - this is a fine line. You have to be willing to fight with your significant other. If you think she is wrong, she is wrong. If you are mad at her, and your reason for being mad makes perfect logical sense to you, be mad at her. The trick is to do this without being mean to her. She will interpret this as being cold. It happens. Cold is better than wrapping yourself around her finger because you cave every time she is upset.
If the relationship is right, and you truly hold the alpha frame, she will apologize and kiss your ass. My girl does it all the time. If she throws a temper tantrum, I treat her like a little girl (without being mean to her). Hold frame. Eventually she accepts that she is being unreasonable, and she kisses my ass.

She wants to talk. and talk. and talk. and talk. and talk.... to her man If you don't enjoy listening to your woman talk to you, it ain't gonna work. My girlfriend's voice is melodic (is that a Latina thing?), almost like she sings to me when she is talking to me. It's beautiful, like a song bird. I could honestly give a shit what she talks about. Many western women want a mate she can talk at, and talk to occasionally. Give her what she wants. If you can't stand her talking, your relationship may not work.

define exactly what is important to you about the relationship and don't sacrifice any of it. Tell her what you want from her. It is important. If she won't give you what you want, ....it ain't gonna work. (be reasonable. if you have a rape fantasy, and she is a rape victim or some shit .... maybe shelve that fantasy....)

Sex is very important to me. ...and my girl is hot.... I have told her many times that sex is very important to me, and if something is off in the bedroom, it would be a big problem to me. She makes sure I am happy in the bedroom. I make sure she is happy in the bedroom. It's fucking hot.

Remember why she is attracted to you It is likely because you exhibit alpha qualities. Confidence is #1. Don't succumb to beta-yuppy-married-bitchery. That married dude with the pink sweater who never swears? He's a bitch.
When you are emotionally invested in a relationship, it can be hard not to lose your shit at times. She goes out drinking with her girls, and you being a Red Piller know attraction is not a choice. Will she be attracted to guys she interacts with at the bar? Probably. Will she cheat on you? Not if she knows how important her fidelity is to you. Remind youself that she is fucking YOU, not them. They lose.

I could write more, but this is becoming a "how to relationship," and I want to keep it as a "how to red pill a relationship."

Thoughts or contributions, brothers? I am sure many of you can add so much more.