My first night going out.

thetonybvd · 2023-10-31T07:24:32+00:00

Bro just discovering talking to girls irl is the best solution to get laid

I asked if I could give her some dick tonight, no response yet lol.

You sabotaged your chance to fuck her with this one

And how about the 1st girl ?

Sir_Distic · 2023-10-31T09:56:22+00:00

Don't tell a woman how "Sexy, cute, pretty, beautiful" etc she is. hundreds of guys a day tell her that. You can compliment her but make it specific and don't overdo it. once is enough. "I love the color of your eyes" or "That hairstyle looks good on you." That will make her feel incredibly happy. It's specific to her.

Also you pushed too hard to fuck the milf. She would not have danced with you if she wasn't interested. But she has kids so that will take up most of her time.

Play it by ear but don't seem too eager. "I missed you" and she pushed you away. Did you see what happened? You just met her. "aww did you miss me?" is more playful and puts the focus on her missing you.

Hit her up this weekend. Friday sometime. Something like asking when she's free. Don't ask for sex. Don't make it anything. You're just going to get together and hang out. "When are you free to get together this weekend?" and leave it at that. If she doesn't respond in a few hours, meh move on.

All in all it sounds like you did really well. Just relax and have fun.

mgldi · 2023-10-31T13:51:12+00:00

I’m not sure where guys have picked up on the idea that asking a girl if they want dick is a good move, especially to a girl in there 30s. Realize that that shit is something people post in memes and isn’t language that’s generally used when trying to meet girls in the real world.

Keep putting yourself out there, pursuing girls and picking up on their subtle queues that they are interested, but leave the internet, chad-esque language for when you’re actually in the bedroom.

Women hear how hot they are 100 times a day and are only interested in dirty talk at 3am from a guy who is hotter than anyone that frequents Reddit. Just play it cool, keep striking up conversations and develop a sense of confidence that they can pick up on. It takes time, but it’s doable.

markakram · 2023-10-31T11:32:21+00:00

Wish if i had a cousin like yours save my single ass

kvakerok · 2023-10-31T19:29:48+00:00

I asked if I could give her some dick tonight, no response yet lol.

I facepalmed hard at this. Bruh, what? You got served pussy on a silver platter and you still managed to botch it.

teachtao · 2023-11-01T03:17:39+00:00

There is a very short list of absolute rules that apply to everyone in every situation. Playing to your strengths and the situation with confidence is the most important. All that said, it sounds like this one wanted to bang and was trying her best to get you to.

ElectricObsessed · 2023-11-20T00:55:58+00:00

One thing I learned from this was if a girl asks how she looks, always say perfect unless she really needs to go fix something.

Perfect is a bit too much, I prefer to tell them they look good, because it leaves room for doubt and doesn't give them too high of a self esteem so they don't end up thinking they look better than me. Negging them is not a good idea though, I prefer to remain somewhere in the middle.

She says she has to mom in a few hours. She gives me her number before she leaves and we make out a little.

To me, that is a red flag. If a girl has a kid, you might think you can just hookup and not see her again but if you catch feelings then you end up raising someone else's kid. And also you never know if she might want to trap you, a younger guy, by telling you she is pregnant with your kid. That is more common than you might imagine. If she is young and childfree though, then it is going to be the safest.

she pushes me away and I go catch up with my friends. I texted her that night she said I was cute but she has to mom in a few hours. She said she was free this weekend, I asked if I could give her some dick tonight, no response yet lol.

She basically used you for attention, keeps using you for attention and to brag to her friends that a younger guy is into her, and then you made the classic mistake of assuming she wants to hookup. It's very rare that women just want to hookup, unless they're in a long term relationship with someone and just want someone to commit adultery with or they're in an open relationship. When they're single it often means they want more than just sex. And that means they might commit desperate acts to lock you into a relationship.

Personally, I went out to bars twice a week for like the whole summer but alone because my friends don't like going out, I had a ton of fun but ultimately, it was not very successful because where I'm from, women all have jobs, even the ones who are students, and the only place you can see young hot women at night is in nightclubs but most of them go there for attention and validation, not to get laid so it is pretty much a waste of time and it is really expensive, and I just don't like that type of music. For me, the best opportunities I ever got were in my day to day life, family connections (a friend of my sister's or an acquaintance of my mom's) or by going to a party that had a specific theme. Even concerts can work if you aim for the right audience. Also, cold approaching in all inclusive resorts works very well in my experience. Basically anywhere where you can talk where you have something in common to have a conversation on more than just looks will be best.

But in my case, I found that I was never attracting the women that I was into. My friends and family would often tell me I have unrealistic standards but the thing is I noticed the girls I liked were always with muscular guys who had a high paying career or where close to getting one and had ambition, while me from the age of 17 to like 25 not only was I skinny, I also didn't make a good income, so it makes sense as to why the women I desired were always out of reach.

DearSail7885 · 2023-10-31T18:50:36+00:00

My cousin "Brad" invited me out to Williwa Friday night. He's been trying to help me talk to girls and coach me up a bit

Sorry, but your cousin has no Game. "Brad" can come along for moral support but he needs to stop saying cringey creepy shit.

There is nothing more anti-seductive than a dude who needs help getting laid. You're on your own, guy. There is nobody to help you.

she agrees and we go outside on the smoke deck. We find a place to sit and we start making out.

Isolating her was a step in the right direction, but the makeout was a major error. Kissing a girl at the bar/club completely diffuses the sexual tension. What you should have done is continued the flirting, then made a move to get back to her place or yours.

She ended up going to bathroom I didn't know if she wanted me to wait for her but I didn't want to wait like a puppy

Wat? C'mon bro. You're overthinking this.

I asked if I could give her some dick tonight

[Facepalm]

if anyone has any advice for me I'm open to criticism.

This field reports reads a teenage boy about to bust in his pants just from talking to a girl.

You are socially completely uncalibrated. There is a time and a place for telling a new girl "I'm gonna fuck the shit out of you tonight," but you need to read the room. These chicks might have been interested, but you killed by inappropriately going from 0 to 60.

Title	My first night going out.
Author	Yarmanite
Upvotes	30
Comments	33
Date	October 31, 2023 6:32 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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