My girlfriends attitude problem is ruining me, please help guys

yummyluckycharms · 2017-02-25T18:10:53+00:00

you've listed tons of reasons why she's bad for you, but none for why you haven't dumped her yet. She needs to go as she's toxic, you need to man up and dump her. Women are a dime a dozen - there's literally billions of them on the planet.

MattyAnon · 2017-02-25T18:59:42+00:00

We've talked through it

Terrible idea. Women do not honour the results of discussion and use it to get information and leverage against you.

she's proved to me on a few occasions now that I can trust her.

No she hasn't. She's cherry picked a few examples of good behaviour that do not prove permanent good behaviour. Keep your eyes open.

She's definitely made it clear that cheating is a nuke, she'd never do it, never has and this is the long-term relationship she's been looking for

Women lie. Look at her actions, don't listen to her words.

. But the arguments everyday

Do not argue with women. They start shit, you stare at them and do not say a word. Count to ten. After ten seconds say "you've had your say, now be quiet". If the next word is not "sorry", you quietly stand up and you leave without saying a word and without turning around and without talking to her.

She is fighting with you because she doesn't respect you, and from your post I see why: you are needy, you don't have other options, you take too much shit from her, you have no leverage, and you think talking changes things. In short - you suck with women so you're trying to make it work With This One Girl, and she senses your low SMV.

'm now at the point where I'm in tears everyday because she just wont change but she still blames most of these arguments on me but its her attitude which escalates things.

Yes. See above. TALKING DOES NOT WORK. You'll learn.

And it makes me so mad

Why are you still with her? She sounds shitty.

The problem is you need her because you don't have other good options. FIX YOUR OPTIONS.

. I'm thinking of just going full-dread mode but it's a bit much when she starts texting me and being all nice again

Read up about borderline personality disorder.

Also, stop being a whiny little bitch.

I'm just so lost right now

Whiny. Little. Bitch.

Stop making a woman responsible for your happiness. They sense this and destroy you for it.

I've answered your post because it's a textbook example, but really this shit belongs on asktrp.

cashmoney_x · 2017-02-25T18:59:28+00:00

Hahahahaha. This is so fucking stupid. I'm sorry but relationships are SO FUCKING STUPID.

Okay, there's my mgtow outburst for the day.

CrustsRemoved · 2017-02-25T18:14:50+00:00

Read the fucking side bar and then read the way of the superior man. NOW.

Dookiestain_LaFlair · 2017-02-25T18:12:08+00:00

Every time she gets mad, tell her "I know why you're mad, you want to put a penis in your mouth" and keep saying that (or variations of it) until she sucks you off. Also pull out your dong too for added emphasis. She will eventually associate getting mad with sucking you off, and either stop getting mad all the time or you will get a lot of BJs out of it.

OneRedSock · 2017-02-25T18:35:16+00:00

Everyone loses their virginity, she is not your special life partner because of this.

Read the sidebar a few times. You need abundance mentality NOW.

Here's your biggest problem:

But when I'm acting as a man "should" we clash more

This is because acting as a man and being a man are two very different things. Holding frame when she's trying to throw a fit is being a man, arguments spiraling out of control is not being a man. You're failing every single one of her shit tests, this is not being a man.

Again, read the sidebar, and realize that there are billions of other women on this planet. She is not the only one who you will "click" with. Also, don't try to "click" with women. First you click, then a year passes and she gets bored, you wonder why she doesn't click anymore, then you lapse into self-loathing; it's just a fucking mess.

Stop crying, start learning.

phreshstart · 2017-02-25T18:56:24+00:00

Dude, you might have some red pill knowledge but you're as blue pill as it gets. Go to relationships or whatever and talk about your oneits unicorn bpd AWALT.

RACCBL · 2017-02-25T19:29:36+00:00

You need to get this girl out of your life. She's toxic and only will do bad for you in the long run. It won't be easy to dump her, she here's a few things that will get you through it:

Tell her it's over. Do it as kick and fast as you can. Make it clear that you're not happy and you need to move on without her. Don't give any especific reasons, just generic ones, so she won't try to explain things and make you confuse. Simply do it with cold blood.
She will try to look like a defenseless little puppy who just got her heart broken. Don't go with it. AWALT. Don't let her apeal to your emotions, she's faking it and it's just a mechanism to try to get you back. Don't be afraid to get rude if it starts to get too much emotional.
Block her everywhere. Avoid contact at all. Facebook, Instagram, Whatsapp, Messenger, SMS, any plataform that she can use to contact you, block her.
Create a mindset of abundance. She's your oneitis. Your first girlfriend, the one, the girl of your dreams. We all know that this is bullshit, but your subconscious don't. You need to meet more girls. Chat with them, flirt, get numbers. It will be easy to avoid all that suffering when you have a lot more options to choose from.

Godspeed, my friend.

Flpgneves · 2017-02-25T20:06:18+00:00

You're an idiot, that's why you are in this situation.

Dump her and suffer for days, believe me, it's gonna be good for you long term. Read the sidebar, then read it again. Then read it all another time. Buy The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi. Read it.

Stop being a pathetic weak "man" and become a real one.

RubyOrchid13 · 2017-02-25T20:51:05+00:00

You're girlfriend doesn't have a problem, you do. You say she has an attitude problem. Do you know why? Because you have let her get away with it. You need to leave, get over your beta oneitis, and start lifting. Seriously, you're just another person looking for the easy answer, and will skip of of the hard part's, hoping for results, that will never come.

You need to leave this girl, plain and simple. You have zero respect for yourself, which is evident by that fact you are willfully watching in an abusive relationship. You should have started to dread game her as soon as she started this, and it's probably way too late to start now.

To add as a quick edit. If she is telling you she would never cheat, she already has, dumbass. She doesn't see you as a man, and you are just waiting for one she does see that way, to end this. You can either do it on your terms, or find out the hard way she is riding Chad's dick behind your back already. Same as when a girl tells you at a bar that there is no way you are having sex tonight. She is saying that, because she is thinking about sex. In your case, she is saying she would never cheat, because she is either thinking about doing it, or already has.

You're just too much of a beta with blinders on to see it.

RubyOrchid13 · 2017-02-25T21:07:19+00:00

Someone go fuck this guy's girlfriend, take pictures, and give them to him. He's so stuck in Disney fantasy land that nothing short of him seeing her get failed by Chad will change his mind. Hell, I don't even know if he would accept it, probably just put his hamster on overdrive and figure out a way to stay with her.

Hey man, you think she would treat Leonard's dacaprio like this? Lol! She's over you bud, deal with it!

raisins3142 · 2017-02-26T00:21:43+00:00

Women that talk sexually a lot in mixed company are sluts.

NeoreactionSafe · 2017-02-25T20:36:53+00:00

Sorry kid, but your relationship has so many Red Flags that I'm able to say you have a 95% chance of it failing.

All I can say is just watch and remember all the things that will soon happen.

Mr-Ed209 · 2017-02-25T21:45:43+00:00

Read the sidebar. Dude you're going to be in deep shit if you're not careful and pull yourself together quickly on this. Everyone on this sub has experienced this to a greater/lesser degree (thats how we ended up here), trust what they are saying.

Cut ties with her, you're clearly not ready to be in a relationship. If you carry on in this way she will cheat on you and leave you in horrific fashion. You'll end up heartbroken and it will take you months/years to get over it and realise you all along are responsible for the problems in your life. You sound young, take the advice on here and gain some experience 'in the field'. Realise that women can be shit as well as men and you are experiencing that first hand. Set boundaries with your relationships, don't just dive in head first hoping for the best.

If you can't bring yourself to end it right away. Phase her out of your life gradually - but do it quickly. Stop texting with her, make the effort to talk/approach other women. Once you meet some other hot girl who treats you right you will completely be over this mess of a girl friend you have right now.

Title	My girlfriends attitude problem is ruining me, please help guys
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Date	February 25, 2017 6:04 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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