Need a hand here guys. So I'm still fairly new but a lot of the stuff here makes sense. I'm realizing that I've been a beta orbiter for this one girl for years. Looking back I'm realizing how detrimental that time has been. Here's my problem though, after reading this stuff and also reading a little about psychology I'm coming to the realization that the person I was an orbiter for has borderline personality disorder. (or at least I think the do, things are very black and white and either it's awesome or I'm a complete a$$hole in their eyes) So when I've tried to break orbit I'm guilted heavily until I get back in line. I can rationally see that this is really unhealthy for me and very bad for me personally since I can't really focus on myself or become better if I'm always looking for her approval. Have any of you guys dealt with this? Have you read anything that helped you get passed this? TL; DR How do I break orbit from someone who has BPD and not get sucked back in?