Never get emotionally attached.

FrameWalker · 2016-05-31T23:30:12+00:00

For a theory post this is quite thin. I'd also argue that it's wrong. You propose that the key is to have equal caring on both sides. This would assume women want to be treated as equals, which is wrong. Their hypergamous nature demands that their partner be better than them. If your actions aren't congruent with this truth, and you care as much as they do and show it they will assume that she she can do better, and set out to do so.

Remember skittles man? The harder it is for her to get your validation, the harder she'll work for it, provided you give out tiny bits once in a while. To reward her equally in kind is to supplicate. To reward a man equally is masculine honor, which does not apply here.

With plates I generally maintain about a 50% investment. Every 2 meals they make/cook for me usually gets one back from me. I let them initiate more often, etc. For the short term you can do wellwith 10%. My current LTR I stick pretty close to 2/3. Whenever it's veered towards 100% reciprocation attraction has waned.

makechangegreatagain · 2016-06-01T03:03:01+00:00

I think it's fine to have some emotional attachment. It's just important to realize that all relationships are passing and to cherish the good moments. I used to get really butt hurt if I'd get dumped or the relationship went south for some reason, but in the end all that matters is that there were good times and good experiences.

If you have faith in yourself to be the best you can be and keep on keeping on then there's no sense in dwelling on passing relationships because you'll be living in the moment and a new relationship will eventually come to you if you keep yourself open to the idea.

jeezydasnowman · 2016-05-31T23:09:19+00:00

Or you can do like me and ride the ride but understand that the ride is inevitably going to end and don't get mad whenever it does

homelessWOOKIE9 · 2016-06-01T01:50:49+00:00

Only woman I'll ever love is my momma

RetiredTimeHo · 2016-06-01T02:04:06+00:00

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Eze-Wong · 2016-05-31T23:34:59+00:00

In game theory, one of the best possible responses to game dilemmas is tit for tat. In essence, by mimicking what your opponent or partner is doing, you reward those who are beneficial to you and punish cheaters.

The people who are loyal all the time get burned. Those who cheat all the time get cheated by other cheaters and everybody loses. By adhering to a tit for tat and making it CLEAR to your partner that this is your strategy, economists who ran a computer simulation found this to be the optimal strategy.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tit_for_tat

Cptn_Jib · 2016-06-02T02:32:29+00:00

What's the point of life if you can't find someone that you actually care about?

pseudointellectual77 · 2016-06-01T03:26:00+00:00

Or just acknowledge what we are as a species, we are primates .. so we evolved by reproducing as much as possible with the strongest, most worthy mates .. the average "relationship " fizzles out on average in about 3 months give or take .. that's because that "love" you feel is just a cocktail of chemicals reacting in our brains encouraging us to ensure the survival of the species.. so at the end of my day , i treat everyone with equal respect that i meet, I don't believe in love outside of family and close friends , I don't fall for tricks , I wish to play no games and i always take solace in remembering that Internet porn is much more economical , safe , and kinda better! !

slerpaderp · 2016-06-01T14:48:29+00:00

Mirroring her actions and attitudes and adapting to her behavior are antithetical to TRP though. In this case it'd be "fake it til u make it" style. That's fine if that's what you have to deal with, but the 2/3 rule is the way to go.

Give 2/3 back of what they give you.

Sir_Distic · 2016-05-31T23:28:02+00:00

I agree except for treating JH er how she treats you. Treat her how you want to irrespective of how she treats you. Keep her around only as long as she treats you how you expect to be treated.

Otherwise yes. Live your life.

hamsterenema · 2016-06-01T02:12:45+00:00

I wish I knew this 10 years earlier. I just kept investing and she kept enjoying the free money for her fucking Coach.

I advice anyone who don't invest to you, dump them immediately, they are leechers.

WildmanThaGod · 2016-06-01T04:03:02+00:00

I do agree with this but it's sooooo hard not to get attached, I have attachment issues so I get attached really easily and let my emotions guide my decisions. It's really hard to combat it too.

2016-06-01T15:57:37+00:00

Then let's revise and say TRP is more like the platinum rule:

"Treat others how the WANT to be treated"

The question is, how do women want to be treated, then?

And don't just say "Like crap", I've never known any woman who's being treated poorly to stick around very long with whomever she's with.

ColmM36 · 2016-06-01T00:58:32+00:00

On this topic I'd like to recommend a book called "Thick face, black heart". It's a book that teaches you how to be selfish. Thick face: basically fuck what they think. Black heart: what you want is more important than anything.

When I first stopped being so clingy, attached and outcome dependant my life changed. I broke up with an ltr, and I kept saying "I need to get laid". Never happened.

Eventually, I said "fuck it, not getting laid, so I'm just guna have fun". I started being me, and that's when I got not only the most attention from women, but also made friends with some very authentic and genuine men too.

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