Summary: Allow yourself to feel oneitis for whomever you want, just know it's temporary.

Body: My whole life, I have obsessed over women and their affection towards me. I can remember in grade school going home and thinking about a girl all day because she had kissed me in class. When my first girlfriend dumped me at 15, I became obsessed for like six months. As I got older and got onto TRP, I realized that what I was feeling was called oneitis.

Once I identified what it was, I became obsessed with not feeling it towards women. However, I would fuck a chick and then not be able to stop thinking about her for months. I would fuck the next, stop thinking about the one before her, and obsess over her for weeks. The anxiety caused by trying to avoid my oneitis was equal if not worse than the oneitis itself.

What I've realized is that I will get oneitis over every girl I get with. The time it takes me to get over a chick may decrease from months to weeks to days, but the oneitis is still there and likely always will be. Why is it there? Who knows, probably as a result of some childhood bullshit where my needs weren't met by my parents. The point is, you need to accept your oneitis and realize it's just HER turn. Eventually, the oneitis will die and you will move onto the next girl.

By resigning yourself to oneitis you're doing two things. One, you're adopting an abundance mentality - thinking "I will feel oneitis for this girl and other girls" assumes that there will be more girls in the future. Two, it gives you some separation from the problem. Instead of getting caught up in your thoughts and emotions and basing your identity on your oneitis, your simply acknowledging that it's a part of who you are - not the whole of who you are.

So far, this has worked pretty well for me.