One of the biggest obstacles on the path towards effective sexual strategy is that most men have no earthly idea what the fuck is going on in women's heads. For most guys, women are crazy unpredictable and contradictory, and the best rationalization they have for this observation is 'bitches be crazy'.

The real reason is the fundamental difference between male and female thought patterns. Men tend to think in one heavy logical step after the other; the march of a man's thoughts is like the slow cadence of the grenadiers on parade, purposeful and directed.

Women's thoughts don't work like that at all. To continue the metaphor, they're like the steps of a dancer, now here now there, touching firm ground for barely an instant before moving off, following patterns as circuitous and evanescent as twisting trails of smoke. Their pace is quick and inconstant, their direction ephemeral, pointing one way before turning the other.

To a woman, the steadiness of male thinking is as a firm rock, something they find delightful as it suddenly introduces a fixed point in their inconstant inner world. Psychologically this is the mechanism behind women's testy behavior: once in a while they want to make sure the rock is in fact a rock, immovably embedded in the ground, and not a pebble that she can kick off with a flick of her foot.

The mistake of the vast, vast majority of men is to try and keep up with a woman's train of thought. First, this is impossible: if even you could keep pace for a while, you'd get tired and lose track in short order. But most importantly it's not what attracts her: trying to awkwardly follow her lead is not what she was attracted to you for, in fact she innately perceives you as behaving like a woman, a bad imitation of one.

Instead, you should observe her changing and fleeting nature with loving amusement. Have you ever seen a child run in a circle to then crash in their dad's leg and look up to him expectantly, as if having proudly shown him a spectacle? that's much the same thing as women do with you. Taking it seriously would be tantamount to thinking that the child from our comparison is a real professional athlete showing you a gymnastics routine that you should try to understand.

So, what's going through her head? a great number of things, none of them very important, most of which will seem to interest her in the moment before she drops them for something else a second after. Don't concern yourself with it: you'll be far more relaxed, and you'll be able to actually enjoy the interaction. Even better: you'll be generating constant attraction by providing her something she sorely lacks, the feeling of strength and firmness of a real man.

If you're still wondering how to carry the conversation while not taking her train of thought very seriously, the answer is however you want: the content doesn't really matter, so long as it doesn't amount to you dropping frame. Reply to her with a joke, a jab, or something that occurred to you and seems relevant. The way you convey it will communicate far more, on the ever important subconscious level, than what it is you're actually saying. I can tell you right now, after having met a plate last night, that I don't remember even a tenth of what we talked about, and it matters neither to me nor to her. Relax, sit back and enjoy the meaningless dance: you'll be DHVing without even making an effort.