Preparation for Monk Mode

gt35r · 2014-08-19T03:02:40+00:00

Have been in monk mode for about 2 months now. The most important thing in this time is to not waste your time. A lot of people go to bed wanting this and waking up the next morning saying "maybe tomorrow actually". The answer is consistency and staying focused on your goal. When you wake up, look in the mirror, make yourself realize you aren't going to have this anymore every single day, you are going to change and you are using this time to do so.

I have a routine which can get boring so switch it up as you go, take progress pictures every day, and keep switching things around as you go. I cycle a lot and one way to combat the repetition of it is to change where I ride and who I ride with. Mind you don't ride with someone who's going to dick around, ride with someone who is better/stronger/faster than you. That goes for whatever hobbies you do pick up. You don't want someone unmotivated as a training partner, you want someone better than you.

I cut alcohol out completely since last October, haven't had a single urge to even taste anything. Alcohol can kill gains if that's what you're trying to do, plus think of it as a time to demonstrate your own self control and just show yourself you don't need it to have a good time. Stick to water, if you have urges for something fizzy or carbonated try picking up some flavored water, it's been a huge help to me.

To end my short story here, think about what you want to be when you come out of your 2014 body and into your 2015 one. Think about what you need to do on a day to day basis in order to achieve that. Do NOT let anything get in your way, it's so god damn cliche to say but you are the only one that's going to stop yourself, you will make up excuses, you will fight yourself in your head. Picture what you want in your brain, tell yourself "This is what I'm going to do" and you will accomplish it. Now fucking make it happen and surprise the shit out of yourself and everyone else.

Red_Shirt_Blue_Pants · 2014-08-18T15:46:31+00:00

I think I'm doing well. I partied too much and spent most of my time chasing girls and having fun. I passed up a golden opportunity to play at DCU23 and thats when I decided to give it all up. I deleted facebook. I deleted instagram. I deleted tinder (180+ matches...this was the hardest). I moved to some family members in NJ and I've been focusing on improving my skills and value. I'm only a couple weeks in but I feel better about myself since I'm working towards a much better future. The biggest thing that helped me though was putting aside women and working on improving myself first. In doing that, I realize that I don't really need all of the fake friends and women sapping my energy from me. The isolation helps a lot. I think you should start by isolating yourself from distractions. Spend time on your own amd discover what really makes you happy. Thats how you find a passion that is free of the motivation for attention and validation from others. You probably don't need to do what I did, but you gotta discover your real self, void of external motivators.

niczar · 2014-08-18T18:48:54+00:00

Hobbies/Interests – this is my big one. I am 27 and have spent the better part of my weekends partying and really still don’t know what my true passions are. This one hurts to look in the mirror and admit – but I’m committed to trying as many new things as possible.

You didn't say what your occupation was. Try to do something that's sufficiently different. Me I work in IT so I like doing manual stuff.

Cooking. Paramount to eat healthy. Invest some money in equipment. A few good knives, sharpening stone. A good blender. A good oven if you don't have one. Plastic boxes. A food processor.

Painting and sculpting. I suck at it, but it allowed me to understand art. You know the saying, "a 5 year old could do this!" Well go ahead and try to do it yourself. Yeah, didn't think so.

Gardening. You don't need to do massive landscaping. I just grow herbs in my veranda and plant flowers on my balcony. It's surprisingly satisfying and doesn't take that much time.

Psychology. Lots of really good stuff in social psychology. Very useful for game and in general.

thick_knees · 2014-08-18T15:45:03+00:00

Hey I want to join you on this. I too am 27 and got whiff of the red pill a month ago.

stevredpill · 2014-08-18T22:49:12+00:00

Booze - socially you want to drink. I go by 2 limit max, or what I call "Adult Drinking." Also, learn to make a legit old fashioned. 1 sugar cube, bitters, favorite whisky/bourbon, one orange peel.

Gym - Just do the damn thing. I'm sure you know what to do if you've been lifting for 10 years...Maybe drop the fork a little if are trying to cut.

Hobbies/Interests: I would suggest playing in team sports with coworkers, or your friends in adult leagues. Nothing smashes your ego and motivates you to be the best you can be like getting stomped on in bball C- league.

Career- nothing wrong with working for the man as long as you have goals and are driven to go somewhere. "Wanting to be an entrepreneur" is pretty much contradictory. Entrepreneurs don't want. They just do. Right now it appears you are fantasizing about the "idea" of entrepreneurship, but it doesn't work like that.

Hope that helps you start somewhere.

Best,

physicalchemistry · 2014-08-18T20:00:08+00:00

Monk moding for ~ 8 months now. I'm about to finish my bachelor's degree in stem, had to improve my grades an infinisitimal amount to be able to attend the university I want. Preparing to move right now.

Monk moding comes quite naturally to me, although I did tend to lazyness/ procrastination.

Isolation won't be your problem as you will do things you like, for hobbies have a look into programming, lockpicking and / or languages. ( depending on your preferences) Read a book or two ( combine with foreign languages). Alternatively try some artistic hobby like photography, drawing/cartooning or playing guitar/drums. Standart dancing / Latin might suit you and you develop a more graceful ( think tiger) way of moving around.

Keeping a journal helps as you will be able to check what you achieved in the last weeks/ months. It is vital to set priorities and be aware that you have max 3 priorities ( if you have more, nothing has priority!)

niczar has good points about other hobbies, but I would also add meditation / shooting practice / archery to the "try-out" projects.

I suck at gardening / growing herbs

hepatosplenomegaly · 2014-08-19T01:37:00+00:00

You have been lifting for 10 years and you're only 5'9 180lb 20%bf. There are guys who never touched a weight with those stats. Check out StrongLifts and learn how to create an anabolic diet for yourself. Diet is more important than anything when it comes to fitness. Lots of guys have the will power to lift everyday, few can maintain a solid diet day in and day out.

bbidabbong · 2014-08-19T16:09:17+00:00

I am in monk mode for last four years. Gym: I am lifting for three years straight now. This one was easy, I train in sport since childhood. Hobbies: becoming better is my hobby. Career: I want to become a personal coach. Later will go for a degree. Currently learning for ACSM. Booze: Ok, more often then not I am way too drunk on saturday nights. And this is bad because it kills my game about jsut everything.

Even my friends think I am weird when I work 9 hours, then go to the gym, and then I come home to learn or to read. I am 26 and I do not know many people how are near commited as I am. My work week currently is 55 hours and I still do not miss a training.

How is this? I did not have a choice. I am coming from poor family from fucked up country in transition. Nothing was granted for me ever, I did not have chance for even semi quality education and since my 18 nobody provided me nothing. I am 26, not highly professional skilled, and with holes in CV and education. I simply must fight and be the best I can possible be or I will be fucking waiter till the day I die.

I suffered a lot before I realized that just living my live as it is given to me will not get me nowhere.

But I am making great progress, and I feel beautiful. Life is beautiful. With this community as well.

xAFC · 2014-08-18T22:48:37+00:00

Step 1: identify goals 2: formulate plan to accomplish said goals 3: execute said plan 4: keep yourself accountable DAILY. 5: document your goals and the process

Some good goals can include Learning. perhaps a new language, how to play an instrument, a martial art etc. Learn to work with your hands. Building something is very masculine and incredibly rewarding so take some group carpentry classes, or even masonry classes. Hell, even nhave a buddy teach you since there is nothing wrong following at times.

Tips: -abs are made in the kitchen, bottom line. If you're at 20% body fat, your diet will be 80% of your results

-cut out the "enablers" in your group. You wanna quit drinking so much? Quit hanging out with the heaviest drinkers in your group. Go approach and make new friends, literally anywhere.

-read! Just search "books" in this sub and you'll find a metric fuck ton of high quality literature. And not necessarily just RP literature. Books/articles can teach you about different philosophies, religions, ways of life, and can entertain instead hours and hours of tv or video games.

There are so many things to do during your "monk mode" that will keep an extrovert sane.

puah8r · 2014-08-19T04:25:58+00:00

I don't get what the point of monk mode is really. I mean can't you just cut out video games and go jogging/hit the gym while having a healthy social life. Social circle game is arguably the most powerful game and the most important thing to work on in life. How can you be good at small talk and holding a conversation if you haven't spoken to anyone in a while.

Knowing how to be social and charming far outweighs all the language learning and stupid shit you can do in your free time alone. This will sound cliche but look at all the famous people, they had that aura about them like Steve Jobs and his 'reality distortion field.' He didn't learn how to do that by staying locked up inside and reading books, he socialized and interacted with people.

Isolating yourself is counter productive and just a waste of time. When you talk to people they don't give a shit how much philosophy you know or how well you can play the piano.

The real questions are, when you talk to people are you a memorable person? Do you make them feel good? Do people want to hang out with you?

I'm sure everyone knows a cool guy in their life that they always want to hang out with even though they are going to do some lame activity and if you don't then you haven't interacted with enough people. Why not work on social skills to become that person everyone wants to chill with? Then girls will see that and will also want to hang out with you, etc.

tl;dr Monk mode is the easy way out and counterproductive to developing your social skills which far outweighs everything else.

cntthnko1 · 2014-08-20T05:54:05+00:00

You need to look at isolation as a need, because it is. Im just starting and still on the sidebar reading part but still, it you dont like being alone with yourself, you have a hard road ahead, in general life. Youll always be open to giving up control and become lazy; FRAME is key.

MaxPower6 · 2014-08-18T20:50:24+00:00

One thing at a time. Maybe two. Otherwise you will crash and burn.

Booze. Set a time limit for when you drink. Two hours max. So go out later or come home earlier.

Gym. If you want to lose 15 lbs eat a caloric deficit. Get the My fitness pal app to track your calories. Lifting weights is not necessary to do this.

The others are up to you.

Title	Preparation for Monk Mode
Author	BPtoRPconvert
Upvotes	21
Comments	18
Date	August 18, 2014 2:36 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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