Can you be in love(for lack of a better word) if you believe in TRP philosophy? A well known cure to oneitis is to date many girls at a time or to shuffle plates. I was shuffling three plates lately but there was this girl I liked more than others. It always happens even if you are dating more women there would be a woman you like more and when she leaves these other women would not be able to break your fall by acting as safety nets.

Is not feeling anything in a relationship from the fear of getting hurt brave or a sign of weakness? Also not feeling love and romance and always keeping our feeling under control is tiring. It keeps your from enjoying the relationship to its fullest. Romance, flirting, caring, teasing is all part of the a fulfilling relationship. One feels like giving back all the love and care she is showering on you. Giving feels good sometimes and you want to be generous and give it back. In my last relationship I could not do that, I was too much of a cold fish cause I did not want a commitment and did not want her to get the long signals but I really liked her.

I have tried no strings attached thing and It was not as good as it sounded. We want her to treat us like heroes and worship us. Most girls who would want to do that would also dream of happily-ever-after with you or at the very least something more than just a dry no strings attached.

So what is the way out cause you know there is no magical love and she is attracted to you cause of your SMV its hard to take her romantic side seriously knowing how transient it is and at the same time its good and I think that’s what we want naturally, a lovey-dovey relationship where you are the hero/god and she your worshiper where you give her back when she pleases you and this cannot be just a mechanical behaviour.