Everyone has fantasies, everyone wants to escape this drab reality that has surrounded us. That's what we have entertainment for. To fill this fantasy. I listen to a trance song and I imagine that my body and spirit is being transported to a fantasy world where reality melts away like a popsicle under the southern sun.

Everyone has their fantasies and everyone wants to either believe that they are true or wish they were true. With this idea in mind, let's examine how we can use this idea in our everyday and lives.

I want you to think of your fantasy, mine is to be dominated by a girl, doing something dangerous like rob a bank and then have some hot passionate sex in a public place. A fantasy doesn't have to be sexual either, although sexual fantasies tend to have the greatest control over people due to the intimacy linked to them. Now imagine, meeting someone that fills the fantasy, they don't have to fill it perfectly but they have to be someone that you can idealize as a person that can provide such a fantasy. You have to THINK that they can be the mediums for your fantasy.

Guess what happens when you meet such a person? You become open to their charm, you let them control you and eventually seduce you. They gain immense power over you just by the fact that they can provide you a fantasy that you have longed for.

A brief story, I met a girl that at first was just like any other girl. Then after a couple dates I started to fall really hard for her. She was the exact type of girl I fantasize about. As a result I constantly think about her. Eventually my neediness drover her away and guess what? She STILL has power over me, I still think about her and I still wish I didn't fuck everything up. This is all because she fit my ideal fantasy.

Now on the flip side, yesterday I started to message a girl on tinder. After messaging for some time I started to understand her fantasies and what her insecurities were. Once I knew this I became the person she wants and used her fantasies as a medium to seduce her. In her messages I got the sense that she had body issues so I made sure to compliment her physical attributes often, even before she sent anything I made sure to call her hot. She also alluded to a wild side so I made sure to show mine as well. She was also slightly shy so I took lead, in fact I pretty much asked for nudes. I said "Send me a pic of your body, I bet it's amazing :)"

During our little sexting session she said to me, that she was angry I made her get horny and very wet. All I did was read the emotions behind her messages and crafting mine so they provoked a specific response that ultimately would lead to seduction. That's actually another point I'd like to talk about that I just learned recently.

When seducing, you are in a hundred percent control. Every single thing I did during our messages was a step to getting her into bed and while I didn't exactly accomplish that yet. I'm happy with what I have done so far. People enjoy being taking on an emotional rollercoaster. Being common is boring and un-seductive so when she first messaged me I made sure to throw curve balls in the conversation. Some questions of hers I completely ignored and others I answered. Sometimes I gave short responses and sometimes I gave longer responses. The thing is though, I knew EXACTLY what I was doing. I knew by ignoring her questions she would become more interested. Once you learn that you have a hundred percent control and whatever you say is designed in a way to seduce then that's when you really start to turn women and people on in general.

As a fun little test, go up to a friend and say to them.

"I did something really bad yesterday"

Obviously, this is going to have them ask.

"what?"

Then you say

"I….I can't it was bad. I cant say it."

This is going to make the other person interested and NOW they are going to pester you and keep asking what you did. The reaction in the example is predictable but it illustrates the concept well, once you can predict a person reaction to what you say you gain all control. You are a puppeteer pulling the strings. When you gain such a role you can get a person to do whatever you would like them to do.

Some of you can argue that I manipulated her, and to be honest. I did. Now you could say that is a bad thing but I disagree. As I said earlier people WANT their fantasies to be fulfilled. It's a manipulation but a manipulation where both parties win. After having sex with me she's going to look back and say damn, that guy on tinder was fucking awesome I'm so glad I met him.

A slightly off topic question but, how is my writing? I'd like to be a writer one day