Self-Reflection post over the last 12 Months

red_gerb · 2015-12-02T23:02:05+00:00

I wouldn't laugh, but yes. I thought I was a 'big boy' at 21. when I hit 26/27, it was then I could look back at see the change and progress and chuckle a bit. Big 21, soldier boy. she luv you long time. ;-) Keep it up.

Invalidity · 2015-12-02T23:19:32+00:00

The problem is that your expectations are way up at the top. As people get older, they simply lower their expectations. But the hope is that TRP helps you realize what is and isn't possible, so that you can maximize the results you want to see.

FemtoG · 2015-12-03T00:24:43+00:00

the only thing u shud be concerned about is getting bumped off course.

Thotwrecker · 2015-12-03T01:59:52+00:00

You do not know what you want to do with your life. Which means you have no way of measuring up whether you feel like you are succeeding on that path or not.

You know that there's more to life that fucking thots, that's why you are deriving happiness from sex. You know there's gotta be something better than sacrificing your time and body for a steady military wage, so even if your military career start is something you want for yourself, you do not know how to feel about it.

You know that you are capable of great things (in 1 year you probably learned a shit ton, got results with fitness and chicks you didn't think possible, and saw what you can do with hard work). But you do not know what great things you want to do, so you feel like you're headed without direction and purpose.

You need to find out what you want to do with your life. Make a 10 year plan, a 5 year plan, a 1 year plan, and a "next month" plan. If you know where you want to go, you can at least get started making progress now and you'll feel purposeful even if you're far away.

At 20 my only purpose was "I want to make more money that people thought someone like me from a simple, humble immigrant background could make." I looked at my skillset - good at bullshitting and cold approach, doing decently well in a top school for CS, and (I thought at least) good at writing. Sales, software engineering, or writing were my potential paths to the money (my attitude was "I am not passionate about anything, I just want to bank like crazy and retire early). So I stuck with CS, got my internships, and at 24 I'm banking decently well for my age.

But what happens is now that I am on track to decent money and financially I'm doing much, much better than my peers, I feel empty again. My purpose was not a real "purpose" - it was just my boyhood need to feel better than others and feel like I "made it". So from 23-24 I felt like you - I'm fucking up some commas, I have a great plate and side chicks, I am living the life, I like my work environment and I'm not burning out, so what's the fucking problem?

Stagnation is stagnation; the money or pussy might help, but if you're stagnant, it's going to eat at your soul. I am trying to discover now what I want to become at 30 and get to working on that. I have a vague idea, and I believe soon I'll have a crystal vision. That is essential; without that, how can I feel satisfied?

Men are mission-driven. We don't know what the fuck to do with ourselves if we don't have a mission in life. This is why rich male celebrities will do a lot of coke, fuck ratchet groupies and strippers, waste their money, and be all edgy (fuck the fame bro I was happier before!). Their mission was "I want to be famous and rich" and when they got it... then what?

You need to find your "then what?"

cmkinusn · 2015-12-03T00:54:50+00:00

You are about to go officer, don't worry about where you are at now, focus on your future and follow the advice of TRP and of whichever branch you end up joining. Focus on improvements you KNOW will be powerful tools in your near future. You can REALLY make a killer living as an officer if you know how, and that means being as influential and alpha as possible.

PROVERBIALLEMONADE · 2015-12-03T01:02:53+00:00

Good that you're doing that. Also be wary of women that want you because of your upcoming position. Military wife's can be the worst

SkorchZang · 2015-12-03T02:13:53+00:00

A lot of that 21yr'old anxiety is built in, it's organic for that age span. Get yourself a little closer to 30, and most of this bullshit will taper off all on its own and you will gradually feel normal. I think it is like the anger phase, meant to be taken advantage of to the max. So give yourself room to be restless, be anxious.

The anxiety is foremostly sexual-related, even though it will wear all kinds of masks. Keep in mind, it's all because of the bitches - and it gives you clarity to laugh at yourself in certain situations and avoid the traps. It's all about that natural urgent male need to spread the seed during the 20-30 decade. That's why you can expect to feel off and have to "iron will" yourself into certain directions you know are good investments in yourself, but really don't feel that good right now.

Most people will live life without such self-knowledge and as a result they will be chasing everybody's expectations, anxious to "succeed", they will unconsciously submit themselves to everybody's arbitrary points of reference because they lack any notion of "options". So it often happens that people aim for every goal except for the only one that actually matters - reality's piercing spearhead in the present moment, the true rotational axis of their world as it is.

Frigzy · 2015-12-03T13:06:42+00:00

Never forget to enjoy yourself.

Seriously. TRP is probably the best online self improvement community for men, but by focusing so much on 'getting there', it becomes easy to become too serious about life. Do not make this mistake and remember to have fun while making the right choices, rather than to make the right choices as if that's all that matters in life.

Also, don't be too hard on yourself all the time. Usually a setback happens for a reason. Find what you were missing and pick yourself up with fresh strength. You can not fail, you can only keep learning.

Balance is key.

Other than that, seems like there's been some great advice coming your way already. Hope I've been able to contribute to that.

ellmeno · 2015-12-06T13:08:02+00:00

Good luck in the military as an O! there's plenty to practice on especially the enlisted, but stay away from them.

ComradeCynic · 2015-12-03T01:10:24+00:00

So my question is, do you have already have some buddies who are in the service, or were? Those guys will understand and have your back, with advice on every topic.

Find an older guy who has been there done that and shows a good level of success in his life; and try to figure out what he does, that you should emulate.

gonorealover · 2015-12-03T06:01:07+00:00

I know that being 21, no kids, no girlfriend and a promising future is a good thing.

You are already more successful than many redpillers here .

Be smart , dont live the mistakes but rather observe other people's mistakes. Use other people's stupidity as your advantage.

BradPill · 2015-12-03T07:00:13+00:00

Hook up with older guy(s). Maybe even 40 or 45 years - listen, don't talk, ask smart questions, and learn from their life-stories, mistakes and experiences.

Many people think they know what they want (even at a young age), but it is equally important to know what you don't want (office job or over-attached GF or kids before 30 etc.) - so you can avoid it. And if you're not sure, give it a try ("I'll try everything at least once in my life"). Find a hobby.

And try to become financially independent (don't get married, don't have kids!) - so you can walk away from your employer (any employer, that is) when the job (usually: the people) becomes totally unbearable.

Title	Self-Reflection post over the last 12 Months
Author	Namaste1994
Upvotes	6
Comments	30
Date	December 2, 2015 10:52 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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