Inspired by a recent redditlog submission, I thought this would serve as a good reminder/tool for you all to keep in mind.

Here is the submission: I'm scared to death that my wife 33F - 8 months pregnant of 8 years doesn't love me anymore

Of the many, many red flags addressed in a /r/TheRedPill discussion, the following stuck with me the most:

The sex we do have has been pretty bad lately. She enjoys extremely specific things and barks orders out as to what I need to do

This put me back into my first LTR. The one where I was with a 9/10 who I thought I was lucky to be with. The one who I was terrified of leaving me, and the one who I showered in gifts and praise.

You know, the one that cheated on me while finding herself on a vacation?

I remember when things got bad. When I knew something was wrong, so I got panicky/clingy. The sex became infrequent and more work than fun. I had previously never understood how sex could be bad, but I learned. It became a chore of fucking her in the position that made her cum quickest, then me blowing my load and then we move on. Yea, I got off, but was never really fulfilled in the way that an hour long romp'em stomp'em fuck-off would make me. There were a couple times where we had to stop because neither of us could get off. That was a terribly low point. It made me feel like I was failing, and inadequate. I started to wonder if she was even turned on by me anymore.

This was a stark contrast to the beginning of our relationship, which involved blowjobs, sex in the car, sex in the shower, sex in front of the mirror, biting, hair pulling and swallowing. In fact, in the beginning, she hardly ever spoke during sex. In the beginning, she would briefly fight me before giving up and letting me under her skirt in the kitchen.

Even when it got bad, there were a few times where the ghost of our previous sex life would show up, generally as a result of an argument where I yelled. Two times I remember raising my voice and telling her she was behaving like a kid. One of them we had to pull over into a dark street to fuck in the back seat, the second we were in bed and I refused to let her touch me (at least until my shorts were suddenly being untied, and we got nasty).

Two times, in an ocean of hundreds of times where I just beta'd out and did my best to appease her.

In the dying months of that relationship, I was reading TRP. And I simultaneously began to understand how to handle her and understand that I didn't want her. For the following few months, our infrequent sex was great, but I ended things with her.

Everyone seems to have an understanding that a healthy sex life is absolutely vital, and yet it's considered a societal norm that LTR's are supposed to decrease in frequency and intensity. No wonder it's also a societal norm for divorce and adultery to be occurring at such a high rate. How many sitcoms and movies lampoon married couples? How many horny husbands have we seen pathetically beg for sex, while the wife is too tired and bloated to allow him to seize on top of her for 5 minutes? It would be funny if it were the exception, not the rule.

I see this in so many of my friends and family (most notable my brother in law), who have dead bedrooms, and have no tools with which to repair it. Two people frustrated that their partner isn't meeting what they want. The woman frustrated at her man's lack of masculinity, and the man frustrated at his woman's lack of appreciation for his "sensitivity".

Seems like everyone is just lost at sea without a fucking paddle.

What is the explanation of this inevitable rule of the sexless marriage/LTR?

Simple: It is biologically imperative that a woman vet out potential DNA donors by means of the "shit test". Men are being conditioned to fail these tests, thinking they're passing. The woman, through no fault of her own, is being turned off by this failing, as she recognizes it is a sign of bad genes which she doesn't want. And so we create "beta bux".

This is no revelation for TRP, but it's a reminder.

Sex is a rock solid indicator of your relationship status. If the woman is leading, barking out orders or otherwise unfulfilled, you are failing.

Be the leader, pass the shit tests, pull her hair and command her to cum.

To finish, I'd like to borrow another quote from the redditlog submission. In fact, it's the quote that he opened with:

Let me begin by saying that my wife is a wonderful, outgoing, giving and trustworthy person. But I feel like I've sucked all the fun out of her.

You are correct. You have sucked all the fun out of her.