I just had dinner with my sister, brother-in-law, and my 3 year old niece. What I observed absolutely sickened me.

My brother-in-law, always the passive beta, sits with dwindling confidence and growing frustration as my otherwise adorable little niece slaps his hand away as he tries to lovingly help her. She refuses him niceties, and it is clear she has zero respect for her father. This pansy of a man just sat there and took it from his little girl. And by no means was this a one night only performance.

All the while my sister not only fails to correct her daughter's rude behavior, but obviously enables it. Treating her husband like the twerp he is: Talking down to him and negating every command he sheepishly asks of his daughter.

I must add that my sister, once a fairly attractive and slender woman, has since ballooned up to unhealthy & grotesque proportions since having their child (3 years ago!).

I sat at the table with a visceral feeling of disgust and, quite frankly, terror! My niece -partly my blood- acting like a miserable, male-hating "princess" (She treats me well because I don't take her shit).

I once casually pointed to my brother-in-law my sister's attitude and the only response he could jokingly shrug was, "she makes more money than me. Ha ha." (This dude makes a very decent living too)

Am I to blame my sister or do I blame this "man" who clearly has given up any semblance of self worth.

Is it time for us to use the female tactic of shame to awaken the average schlub? Shame to arouse counteraction. Would it even work?

If not for us, but for the precious, precious children.

TL;DR Sister treats her husband like garbage, raising their daughter to do the same. When to blame the Blue Pills?

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