It's human nature to avoid discomfort at all levels. In a survival situation - in the type of world out of which we evolved - discomfort is the first indicator that you're on the road to injury and death. We are risk-averse, and pain-averse, by nature. But.

Avoiding pain is not the most important thing there is. Pain avoidance comes from fear. In this contemporary world, there are still some things to fear and thus avoid. But by and large, emotional pain is not one of them. Approach anxiety stems from the fear of emotional pain. Biting your tongue in public when every ounce of your manhood is straining to call out the bad behavior of Entitled Princess #773 stems from the fear of emotional pain. Failing to live up to your highest ideals because nobody else thinks like you stems from the fear of emotional pain.

Stop wallowing in your fears. If you have righteous anger, express it. If you have wise advice that contradicts what is socially acceptable, express it. If the right response to a bully is to publically humiliate him by kicking his ass, express this as well. Express your manhood.

Don't fool yourself. Don't feed your hamster. If you're spinning plates because you're fearful of failing in a Red Pill relationship, admit it to yourself. If you're trying to turn your Blue Pill relationship into a Red Pill one because you're afraid you'll fail at spinning plates, admit it to yourself. If you're stuck in a cycle of "next year after I've lost more weight" or "someday once I've saved up enough money," admit to yourself that you're afraid of taking the next step today. Don't be ashamed of your fear; embrace and conquer it.

Stop protecting yourself at the expense of yourself. Your frame is your ideal. Be everything you want to be. Found a girl you want to try a relationship with? Do it even without a guarantee. Eight months in and the relationship isn't working for you? Get out of it, learn from it, and don't let the experience limit you in the future.

Live your life for maximum gain, not minimum loss.