The 1,000 Rejection Approach--Overcoming Your Fear of Rejection By Leaning Into It

Getting rejected by women is something that men want to avoid. So what ends up happening is they land themselves in the friend zone. They pay for sex to increase their chances of getting laid. The problem with these two methods are they turn you into the person you don't want to be. Men don't want to be tricks and they don't want to be a woman's "friend with no benefits". The only problem is getting rejected sucks.

Well, what if instead of avoid rejection, you leaned into it? You focused on taking action and embracing rejection. You're not trying to get the girl, you want to tell the girl exactly what you want from her right upfront. I got this idea from a YouTube video where the guy purposely went out and asked for something that would increase his chances of getting rejected. Doing this experiment, he realized that started to get what he wanted because he asked. Here's the video:

https://youtu.be/-vZXgApsPCQ

Ordinarily, I prefer men don't think of rejection or success when approaching women, but just going up to the woman and seeing what happens. For some men this works, for other men, the unknown is worse than getting rejected. So, here's what I suggest. While you're on your purpose or just casually going about your day, when you see a woman you're sexually attracted to, go up and approach her. This is where game can help. Not to deceive her into sleeping with you, but to know how to interact with women to where you're comfortable.

"This is stupid. Why am I purposely gonna get rejected?"

If your goal is to get rejected, would you be more braver and bolder with your approach? Alan Roger Currie's Mode One comes to mind when approaching women. You let them know what you want which lets you know if she is interested or not. You're not in limbo because she's stringing you along. Either she wants to or not. There is no,

"Well, I don't know"

You also want to get a "genuine rejection". Sometimes women reject you out of embarrassment because you told them something they felt was inappropriate and they felt the need to reject you to save face. You want the rejection to be because she's not interested.

I suggest tracking your rejections, not your successes. If you have a success, the approach doesn't count (but enjoy the success though). What may end up happening is you'll become so confident talking to women that you're having a lot of success. You're walking around with your chest out more when you interact with women because you're not afraid of being rejected. You actually need the numbers.

You can also journal this whole experience. Writing down your feelings towards the process can be very therapeutic.

Doing this little experiment you'll notice you're taking more action. The moment you see a woman you are sexually attracted to, you're ready to approach.

"1,000 rejections? That sounds time-consuming and a waste of time"

It's not time consuming at all. How many women do you see on a daily basis that you are sexually attracted to (they don't have to be 8s, 9s, or 10s)? If you approached 3 women a day consistently for a full year, you would have approached 1,095 women. That's actually over 1,000 women. You may have days where you approach 5-10 women a day because you're in a venue where there are a lot of attractive women. You may have days where you don't feel like going outside and want to stay in. Getting rejected doesn't take long. You can get rejected in under a minute. The time-consuming part is the build-up and getting yourself to approach the person. Something else that consumes your time is trying to convince the person to be with you. In this exercise, you make your intentions clear and direct. If she rejects you, you don't push the issue. Think of it as asking someone if they would like a cup of water. If they say no, you leave them alone about the water, but you can still interact with them on other things if you have to. So if you ask a woman out, and she rejects you, you don't have to hate her or avoid her. Be glad you got your answer upfront and she didn't waste your time. This will keep you out of the friend zone because she knows that you want to fuck or date her. You know that she's not interested, so you may not interact with her frequently unless you have to, but it can still be cordial.

I don't suggest you start doing this in your immediate area where you live, work, or places you frequent. Go out of your neighborhood just to increase your confidence of not having to feel awkward if you see this person around. When you become more confident and callous towards rejection, start approaching women in your immediate area. That cute girl who works behind the counter when you get your lunch is fair game.

"This is the wrong mindset to have. You want to think of getting the girl, not getting rejected."

There are two things that can happen when you try to get women. She's either interested or not. She either likes you or she doesn't. You either successfully get the girl you approach or you get rejected. Men don't want to be rejected and they have a fear of action. By focusing on the thing you fear, it loses it's power over you. You're leaning into the rejection. You're telling women exactly what you want from them. For example, if you want to take a woman on a date and have sex at the end of the night, you can say something like,

"I wanna take you to a lounge on Friday night, have a good time, and head back to my place or yours at the end of the night"

If you tell a woman this who is not interested at all, she'll give you a quick "no". This is nice and quick and you got your answer. If a woman is interested, but has a boyfriend or husband, she'll tell you she is spoken for, but if she happens to break up with this guy (or wants to cheat), you may be the first guy that comes to mind. If she's, what Alan Roger Currie calls, a "Wholesome Pretender" she's gonna act offended. Just let her vent. Don't apologize, don't hang your head in shame. Stick to your guns. Sometimes women need to act offended, but end up sleeping with you once they see you're not phased by her "theatrics".

This whole process is not about putting yourself down, but taking immediate action and taking more action. It's about being clear with your intent and embracing rejection. Just like judo, you need to learn how to fall before you can be a master of the sport. A boxer rolls with the punches instead of run away from the person trying to punch them. In the military, they train you for the worst case scenario so you will be ready and actually comfortable when it happens. A fire fighter runs towards the fire when everyone is running away from the fire.

Do you get my point? You're not running away from rejection but actually acknowledging that it will happen but you're not phased by it and can be regular with the woman who rejected you. You're not bitter or angry with the woman because she not interested. You don't even push the issue because you're clear that she's not interested, and you're on to the next woman.

Something may happen to you while doing this exercise. After a while, you may find it harder to get rejected. Not because you're so good-looking, but because women will feel how confident and honest you are. You may get a lot of numbers. You may get a lot of dates. You may get a lot of friends with benefits. Hell, you might find a girlfriend during this whole process... but this is not our goal. Our goal is to become callous to rejection and start taking immediate action and approach these women, letting them know what we want.

"Can I use the indirect approach?"

The indirect approach is to help you fly under the radar with your intent to get the girl. Our intent is to be bold and direct. This doesn't mean you have to be crude and say something like,

"I wanna eat your pussy right here, right now"

Your approach should express:

1. Interest in the woman
2. Your Intent is clear and upfront
3. Allow her to reject you so you know for sure she's not interested. If she is interested, you'll get EXACTLY what you wanted.

What indirect approaches do is give her an option to string you along. You're trying to maneuver around her barriers. With direct approach, you're at the front gate, letting the woman know you want direct access. She can either grant you access or deny you access. This little exchange can be less than 30 seconds:

You: "How you doin'? You look very youthful. How old are you?"

Her: "20"

You: "Good. What's your name?"

Her: "[HER NAME]

You: "Nice to meet you, I'm [YOUR NAME]. You're a very attractive woman and I would like to get your number so we can get to know each other better and have the chance to enjoy each others bodies once we do."

Her: "Excuse me? No, I'm not interested"

You: "Aight then. You have a wonderful day [HER NAME]"

That was only seven lines and it would probably take you less than 15 seconds to get your answer. Keep in mind this is an example, not a script. Let the woman know what YOU want. You may want a girlfriend and not looking to "play the field". You can tell these women you're interested in getting to know them with the possibility of having a monogamous, polyamorous, or open relationship. Whatever you want, you're seeing who is willing to reciprocates your desires.

As Rollo Tomassi talks about in his works, you want a woman's genuine desire. By having a better relationship with rejection, you'll become the Alpha male that women desire. How? You're fearless where the average man is fearful and that's telling women what you want from them.

What are your thoughts?