TLDR: By improving yourself to get the attention of women, you get the attention of women and realize it's not actually what you wanted.

One of the things we like to discuss on here is self improvement for your own sake. Being better for you and you alone. While I do agree with this, I do struggle as I'm sure some of you do with wanting to improve in order to be more desirable to women. Many of us come to the red pill to learn and understand after our failures in the sexual arena due to our blue pill conditioning put on us by our society. We learn the truths about women, sex, relationships, marriage and we make efforts to adjust our lives based upon our new found knowledge. You learn that being a man is nothing like what society has told you being a man is. You change your diet, you incorporate physical fitness into your life, you learn how to stick up for yourself and not be a pushover, you pursue interesting hobbies to make yourself well rounded and skilled, you create your own image through fashion and hairstyle not based on what's trendy but based on what your image of a real man is and you nail it, because it is organic and its you being true to yourself. This process takes many months if not years, and all along the way you are learning more about women and the red pill truths and you're seeing them play out in front of you in everyday life. All of this transformation was initially started by wanting attention from women or even just one girl. And now here you are, you're a man of great power and character. You have gorgeous hair and muscles, you dress in a way that makes others take notice in you. You're knowledgeable on a wide spectrum of subjects and you've developed skills that put you above the majority. You're presence is that of the alpha male wolf, standing majestically on the mountain top looking out over the world. A beautiful creature that cannot be contained, cannot be controlled. So now you're here. All the struggle, the pain, the loneliness you endured to get here while still being invisible to women in the process. Now you are what every woman desires and you want nothing to do with them. All this work, all started by simply wanting the attention of women only to realize what you were truly seeking was to be a real man in a society that is utterly and totally controlled by gynocentrism.