Summary

A strong frame is essential to maintaining the woman's attraction to you.

Body

In another subreddit, a 20 year old woman details the reasons why she broke up with her similarly aged boyfriend. Other than point #1 (hypergamy), all other reasons are frame related: https://archive.is/itXcR

edit: as to why I broke things off-

  1. he isn't on the same level as me intellectually nor financially

  2. he doesn't know how to have regular conversation with me

  3. he flip flops on all his beliefs, if I challenge something he's saying he immediately says whatever he thinks I want to hear

  4. he shuts down when anything of importance is brought up

  5. he lies to me on the basis of protecting my feelings (EVEN THOUGH IT IS ALWAYS OVER SOMETHING DUMB, I hate lying, he knows that)

  6. he is just nice to me, he doesn't make me feel loved, he just tries to be "nice," which in turn does nothing since he cannot talk to me

Obviously, the guy is saying and doing whatever he thinks is needed to keep her. This is a big mistake. You cannot fool a woman this way. Women are professionals at lying and your pathetic attempts will look like a child competing with major league players. His fear of losing her is also preventing him from making regular conversation with her. Walking on eggshells and having to rethink your statements will cause every conversation to be awkward. Don't be afraid to offend her!

Conclusion: The basics of frame in terms of behavior

  • Do not lie
  • Do not be fear to speak and do as you must (i.e., don't fear offending or losing her)
  • Do not tolerate disrespect