Summary: Marriage was a solution to a specific problem. That problem has now been solved by other means, therefore marriage is obsolete.
Body: A friend of mine is going through a phase which seems common amongst right-leaning White/European men, especially those with above-average IQ's. This phase can best be described as 'I/we/you should be getting married and having children because it's our duty to our people/race/culture, etc.' This is usually a reaction to seeing the dire situation that our (Western) culture seems to find itself in, namely demographic decline due to feminism and the resultant solution of importing a mass of third world foreigners to make up for our lack of babies.
While I agree with the analysis and prognosis, I disagree with the solution. Getting married was only ever a practical solution to one problem: how does society feed its dependents, i.e. women and children? For the last few thousand years, and across most cultures, the best solution we could come up with was 'make a single man responsible for taking care of a woman and their children.' We called this 'marriage'. As the centralized state has risen in prominence, we see the decline of families. The state has a direct incentive to raise your children for you, because the state wants to raise mental slaves.
Here's a thought experiment: if the state could raise people in test tubes and laboratories, with no parents involved, do you think it would? The answer is obvious: OF FUCKING COURSE. But guess what, they don't need to. They've found an even better way of farming human slaves. By liberating women from the shackles of marriage, the state has created a system in which women will get impregnated, and then figure out how to get a man to pay for the kid. This is far more efficient than the government trying to produce and fund the slaves itself. It's like the difference between FedEx and USPS: one guarantees your package gets delivered tomorrow morning, the other makes you stand in line for 40 minutes just to be told by a sassy black woman that you filled out the wrong form.
Trying to get married today in order to provide a stable household for raising children is a fool's errand. It's like trying to catch a bullet for your friend to save his life, but that friend doesn't even like you and the bullet wasn't going to hit him anyway. 100 years ago men get married because they were forced to, not because they thought it was fun or their duty or a good idea. Today, nobody is asking you to get married. Nobody wants or needs men to get married, because the initial problem of how to provide for women and children has been solved.
I get that guys want to 'Save the West.' In a sense, I do as well. But getting married isn't the way to do it. Hell, there may be no way to do it. We may be entering a new age of society, similar to the transition between hunter/gatherer cultures and agricultural ones, or between agricultural and industrial. Maybe fighting to save what he had is as useless as trying to save the Native American way of life from Imperial Americanism.
*Note: I'm not saying I agree with this system. If I had a choice, we'd all be living in a hard right dictatorship, and our cities would look like medieval Europe on steroids (think Lordran from Dark Souls). I'm just calling it like I see it.
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