Wondering best methods for hookups/regular sex. So far used bars... takes a lot of time, money, health toll.

bebop_exp · 2024-11-04T00:49:29+00:00

Yeah um, if hoes stop going out of you stop spending on them then you’ve got a different problem dude. Get your grades up , or do whatever you can to get your financial situation good. And get so jacked the hoes stop caring about your money. You got your priorities inverted.

_do_not_read_this_ · 2024-11-04T02:37:49+00:00

you know you don't have to get drunk when you go out.

d_abducted_one · 2024-11-04T05:30:55+00:00

Man I was fully committed to roster management last year and it’s too much effort honestly, my lifestyle was becoming shit and I had too many bullet holes in my wallet just preparing the field…most guys only focus on the actual fucks and not on the footwork prior.

Realistically it’s hard to get a girl to fuck you in the first date or by cold approaching in a bar without enough rapport. I would say probably depends on location, looks and pimp game which would be the most important aspect imo. There’s no escape for dating the girl unless she’s ugly and has no options or she is an absolute ratchet. Your mileage might vary.

Most of my hookups come from Tinder, I would say I’m above average on looks being 6’3 and having my own ride, bishes love that around here. Definitely not the hottest guy around though. I have my paper but not rich either.

Have a few drinks but don’t get hammered, it makes you look stupid literally and more prone to making bad decisions. Drink only one thing, don’t start mixing up beers with whiskey or cocktails, be smart, shit can get pretty expensive.

However time is precious, I suggest setting an actual agenda for these bishes and limit yourself to 2 girls per week max. One mid week and another for the weekend, that allows you some time to rest, workout, study or work without worrying to much. I literally tell them that I treat them like appointments, they get mad and can’t resist. You will still need some text game to keep them entertained but not too much, it’s always good to be a mysterious guy.

Besides this keep focusing on yourself, if you need better grades that’s priority number one. If you work, get that paper first and save some money. Personally I’m done with this shit, I just date a few girls for fun that are loyal to my roster, I might pick some other ones from my insta or maybe tinder if I feel like missing the good old days and that’s it. If a plate drops I don’t care much.

Relationships take effort even if you are just hooking up. I’m no Patrice O’Neal or Rollo, just a regular guy giving his 2 cents, good luck man stay safe too, STDs are no joke trust me and these hoes don’t care.

thespacer14 · 2024-11-06T13:19:12+00:00

Forget about hookups. If you're in college try to find a good woman, they do exist. A good woman is better for your time, health, and wallet than a hookup is.

Best option for regular sex is a regular girl where you're both crazy for each other.

hitlicks4aliving · 2024-11-04T01:10:34+00:00

College is easy mode. Do you go to the college? Get a reputation as the guy with the good dick and a shit ton of cool things in their dorm but don’t talk about it, if anyone asks deny or you’ll fuck up. Netflix (borrow from one of the girls), tv, soundbar, snack bar, liquor, pads tampons towels etc. Fashion nice noisy car? then hit up Tinder after 11pm. You should have a constant supply of girls in your building to hook up with. Make sure to change the sheets every day or two. Pic of abs on your profile helps.

Keep in mind they won’t stick around so don’t try to make them your gf. You’ll get 2 or 3 weeks if you’re lucky or longer and you’ll get bored of them/find out they have an away boyfriend and pull another one. The really good ones keep them.

Where this differs is you’re already filtering your time wasters on tinder if you’re doing it right and you’ll get only the girls that want to hookup and not waste your time. Through your convo/hints on your bio. If they don’t want to hookup they’ll just ghost and won’t respond to you re-engaging, simple.

veepeein8008 · 2024-11-04T16:39:34+00:00

Yeah that shit is a grind. I’d suggest using dating apps more.

Also once you’ve fucked a girl then don’t even go to the bar / club w her anymore, just invite her over to chill.

Andgelyo · 2024-11-04T18:01:38+00:00

Apps (tinder, bumble) , and meeting and talking to people in real life

Jasperbeardly11 · 2024-11-05T15:12:19+00:00

This sounds incredibly empty

Sub8591 · 2024-11-06T08:01:00+00:00

Honestly I feel like hitting the gym and just getting jacked is probably the best move your going to attract the women who want you and it’ll be less work in the long run

Few-Dance-855 · 2024-11-08T12:15:02+00:00

Seriously look into gym

Also - dude it’s a number games. Get in front of as many chicks as possible and TALK.

CuriousityRover_ · 2024-11-10T01:07:21+00:00

I’ve had the experience you’re describing—going to bars in a college town or after college—and I’ve also had the experience of having a lot of women lined up without really trying. The difference was, in the first case, I was just another guy compared to everyone else in the college town, just looking at bars. In the second case, I was a much higher-status man, partly because I was older and making more money, and partly because of where I was specifically.

What this really showed me is that if you want it to be easy and effective, you need to work on yourself. Frankly, you need to work on your money. In general, women in any society try to go for the top 20% of earners, the top 20% of the most popular guys, the top 20% of the best-looking guys, and so on. You need to get into that top 20% minimum. It’s not impossible, but it does take effort.

Think of it this way: when does it become easy? It’s easy when you become desirable—meaning more desirable than most of the men around. And what makes you desirable? What enables that desirability is having money. Once you have money, you’re able to do other things.

For example, you can live in better places. You can have a cool place where people want to be, furnished with stylish furniture. You can have really nice clothes and shoes that people notice. You can drive a good car. You can hire trainers, eat better food, and have better healthcare—even if you’re young and think you don’t need it. You still need a dentist, a good barber, and maybe work to fix your skin or teeth. You can travel, go to high-end places, and take pictures that show you’re living a desirable lifestyle.

For instance, is your Instagram just you at home, having a beer on Taco Tuesday? Or is it you at a high-end resort that’s known worldwide? That makes a huge difference. Once you have that kind of lifestyle, you’ll naturally be around other people like that. You’ll have friends who live similarly, and they’ll have their own women—not just women they’re sleeping with, but women who are their girlfriends, exes, or just friends, all circulating in your social circle.

The key to having a good life with women isn’t about the right pickup line or visualizing yourself as some kind of god, Viking, or lion. Your path to success is money, which upgrades your life and enables everything else.

Now, obviously, if you take some shy, clumsy guy full of acne who plays Dungeons & Dragons and just give him a million bucks, he’s not automatically going to become a player. But if you take that same guy and he knows what he’s doing, that money can help him stop playing Dungeons & Dragons, fix his acne, work out, fix his clothes and teeth, get a better place to live, buy a new car, and transform his lifestyle. He can go to high-end places, take pictures, build his Instagram, and make new friends. That million bucks, when used wisely, transforms him into someone desirable.

This guy becomes the man in popular places—not because he knows the bouncer, but because he can afford a table. Whether it’s a table at a nightclub, a bar, or a restaurant, it doesn’t matter. It’s a high-end place, and he’s there regularly or periodically. He valets his car—a nice one—and it’s parked out front. He’s dressed in high-end clothes, and his grooming is on point. His haircut isn’t from a $12 chain salon; it’s from a $100 barber shop. He can afford tickets to exclusive events. Even if an event was two months ago, people know he was there, and last month he was somewhere else high-end, and so on.

This is how you attract women.

Your location also matters. If you’re in Manhattan, where everyone is a millionaire, it’s tough. But if you’re in a resort area—Croatia, Spain, Turkey, Mexico, wherever—it’s much easier to become the hot shot because those areas aren’t filled with millionaires.

I get that this comes with challenges like language barriers or adjusting to living abroad. But even in the U.S., it’s the same story. Obviously, you don’t want to live in a village or a depressed Rust Belt town with boarded-up windows. Women compare you to the men in their environment. If you’re in a low-quality environment, your competition is lower, but so is the pool of women.

You also need to position yourself near places with a high concentration of women—not just bars, but places like where aspiring models or adult stars hang out. Or think about cultural exchange programs or student summer work programs in the U.S. where foreign students come for a year. You want to be near funnels like these.

But here’s the thing: you can’t just show up at these places without status. For example, a musician has a natural funnel of groupies, but his success isn’t just luck—he has money, fame, and popularity. Even if you’re not the musician, you can be part of his group: the guy who handles promotion, car mods, or something else. Being part of that group gives you access to the same funnel of women.

When women go to bars, they’re often there for attention, free drinks, or just to unwind—not in good faith to meet someone. But when they come to a musician’s party, they’re not there to act condescending; that would be the last time they’re invited. That’s the difference.

Far_Tap_9966 · 2024-11-04T04:04:10+00:00

I feel this 100% . As long as you can get second and third dates, you can keep a solid amount of girls strung along into basically relationship lite mode and then go from there. You already are doing the hard part which is get them into bed, the rest should be easy. Yes working on game takes a toll on health and wallet, but the rewards are very worth it

ixdtechs · 2024-11-12T20:58:27+00:00

I say online. All my plates are from apps cuz it’s just easier.

Online…YOUR GROUPIES WILL FIND YOU!

And be attractive as possible

Striking_Success_981 · 2024-11-14T16:27:32+00:00

if your only goal is to get laid from women in a bar, you will only meet bar chicks.

live your life mate, you only get one

vtec996 · 2024-11-09T23:51:58+00:00

this is why older guys with $ have arrangements/sugar babys. going to bars is a massive waste of time

Accomplished-Faux · 2025-01-18T20:16:53+00:00

“Chase a check; never chase a bitch” - Future

As a older gentleman who enjoys dating women 21-25, the most common complaints college age women talk about is:

Emotional maturity - Acting like a pussy
Poor skills in bed - Self explanatory

Here’s you’re “dating strategy”:

Hit the gym
Get good grades
Don’t drink to excess

Once you have abs, a decent amount of coin in your pocket, and you’ve avoided drugs and alcohol, enjoying a harem is relatively simple.

redarcher99 · 2024-11-05T10:47:41+00:00

A good marriage. I know this isn't what you want to probably want to hear but it's statistically true.

Title	Wondering best methods for hookups/regular sex. So far used bars... takes a lot of time, money, health toll.
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