Summary: Women covertly use compliments to get you addicted. Being stoic to female validation will protect your sense of self as well as her attraction to you.

I felt compelled to write this because I haven't seen it explicitly mentioned anywhere in Rollo/Pook/sidebar.

If you've internalized the Red Pill and have improved your SMV, you've probably left a lot of previous vulnerabilites behind; most importantly, you can no longer be convinced that She's the One good girl Unicorn that's worth dropping your own priorities and dreams for.

Hopefully you've gotten more pleasure out of your growing sense of self than any women/sex, but with this comes a new vulnerability. And women can smell it on you: it's your growing ego.

Their strategy is this: make him feel alpha, he'll get addicted to the feeling and start to lose interest in women that don't make him feel that way. The same way women feel "chemistry" when a guy is attractive, a reformed beta will feel "chemistry" when their girl treats him like a king (Please note: "strategy" does not mean conscious long-term strategy, it means women like the reaction/commitment they get when they display this behavior).

The first time you get these compliments it feels like victory, like you've finally made it and all that work has paid off:

  • "I didn't know a dick could feel so good"
  • "I've never been fucked so well"
  • "You are literally the best looking person I know"
  • "You have the best body I've ever seen close up"
  • "That was the best orgasm I've had in my life"
  • "You're the smartest person I know"

Look familiar? Yeah, she tells me the same shit, bro.

Girls you're not fucking will admit to you that they will give false compliments to "make their boyfriend feel better". They can see the effect their compliments have on you - you're suddenly more open and appreciative of her. It's a tool they're using. You're still not a special snowflake.

Regardless of whether the compliments are genuine or not or somewhere in between, this is the lesson.

Lesson: You must ignore female validation. Your ego and sense of self are still developing and ultimately must stand strong without external (especially female) support. We can talk about the theoretical ego vs self-esteem vs. egolessness later - you're not ready for that discussion until you establish a strong worldly (i.e. rooted in reality) pride first.

So take the compliment, enjoy it like you would any shit test or tactic - ignoring it will imply that you're used to getting these compliments all the time - and smirk knowing that she has no more power over you now than before.