"Here Again" should start getting comfortable, because dating purgatory is where the home is now.

Bruchibre · 2019-01-14T09:45:48+00:00

A Santa Claus list again... you must this you must that. I think some asexual men are looking for companionship and it could be a match.

DeeplyDisturbed1 · 2019-01-14T10:20:36+00:00

Back in the Meat Market 35 (M)

I'm a father of 3 girls 24/7. They will always come first. I work 7 days a week. Rent and bills come first. I don't party, smoke or drink. I'm not here for fun, marriage, or to spend money on you. No chill/enjoy each others company, Looking for something more!!! Casual sex what happened to that??? You must have your own place, car n a job, I live here so please be extremely close.

SirKolbath · 2019-01-14T12:20:40+00:00

For a woman with three kids and no father for them, you sure make an awful lot of demands.

Fantoche_Dreemurr · 2019-01-14T13:20:56+00:00

Still blows my mind how a woman will list her liabilities, demands and restrictions (no sex? I'm sure that'll sell honey) like they were some assets, then sprinkle some attitude on top.

DonLandsman · 2019-01-14T14:30:00+00:00

This is a 35 year old divorcee who's discovered, quite painfully, that she can't "date" (i.e. hook up, have sex, get men to date her and spend money on her) as if she was still 23.

The "my kids come first" is an effort to take and keep control. It's her trying to set the tone for whatever happens after. It's her frame, all the time.

If she's a mom 24/7, how does she have time to date? If she's not going to come to my place and i can't hang out there, well, when are we going to see each other?

Ah, I see. She can make time for me to spend money and time on her at a cocktail bar and a high end restaurant, but not privately. She can make time to sit in a restaurant and eat surf and turf on my dime, but no time to come over to my house to Netflix and chill. She can make time to drink margaritas I paid for; but can't make time for me to run over to her house for a while.

No thanks.

abhilash1991 · 2019-01-14T10:07:04+00:00

r/ChoosingBeggars

ChiTownBob · 2019-01-14T13:13:45+00:00

I'm a mother of three boys 24/7.

And the lack of sleep is getting to me as you can tell by the writing of this profile.

They will always come first

So you'll be a distant 2,504th place in the relationship. If you're lucky.

Rent and Bills come first.

Those are the names of two of her boys.

houseoftolstoy · 2019-01-14T15:31:43+00:00

What kind of man must you be to have the desire to jump through so many hoops to date a single mother who has no time for you? Anything she has, a woman without kids would have far more to offer.

Also, if there is no hanging out at his place, why does he need one of his own? Mu$t be $one rea$on for that, but I can't put my finger on it.

OldFashionMarine · 2019-01-14T13:04:08+00:00

Sounds like every Chad CUMS before your 3 boys....!

lorem6300118 · 2019-01-14T17:00:10+00:00

What happened to dates? Duno, maybe the fact that you have 3 kids and work 7 days a week.

Imagine being dumb enough to take this one out, to be interrupted every 30 seconds because of a phone call

Kartel_Alucard · 2019-01-14T11:50:10+00:00

Zero value

twittyswister · 2019-01-14T16:22:19+00:00

So, let me get this straight: You offer absolutely nothing and are actively trying to dissuade men from even considering you as potential partnership material yet you still expect them to try? What? Are you on crack?

thequarenteenpill · 2019-01-14T15:47:33+00:00

everything else will come first. therefore you will come last.

SupermansLeftNut · 2019-01-14T16:09:04+00:00

What sane man would want to walk into that buzzsaw? There is literally not one thing of value she is offering in return for her list of demands. Some women really be thinking their 4 kid pumping pussies are worth the value of a competent male partner .

muricanwerewolf1 · 2019-01-14T16:29:29+00:00

work 7 days a week

3 kids

dates, what happened to them?

Lady you answered your own question.

brackenz · 2019-01-14T14:12:20+00:00

Why I need my own place if she wont hang out there?

harharry · 2019-01-14T18:45:06+00:00

Not my kids, not my problem.

chris9407 · 2019-01-14T16:31:32+00:00

Last I checked, the estimated cost of raising a child until age 18 is $250,000. Now times that by three. Now add another 250,000 to factor in her "preferred" lifestyle. Who here wants to sign up for $1M contract that you get nothing but bag lady?

Now, I'm sitting here wondering what exactly a woman would have to be/offer to make that seem like an enticing deal?

Men are expected to be several things by default and women just sit and demand men love them as they are. I just don't get it. I mean, I do -- but fuck man. It's depressing.

tralala501 · 2019-01-14T10:11:47+00:00

unreal

Ipride362 · 2019-01-14T16:25:59+00:00

She doesn’t want to hang out, but wants to on a date?

She doesn’t smoke or drink? I get not smoking. That’s a dirty habit. But not even a glass of wine???

And she’s a mother 24/7? No babysitter?

So, she’s not very fun, sits at home, has 3 other dude’s kids with her while he’s out having a fun time, doesn’t want to go out and just have some crazy behavioral issues for a dude with three kids to just abandon her.

I’ll find a girl with no kids who likes to have fun.

byronshadow · 2019-01-14T16:08:51+00:00

Two of her "boy's" will end up in prison. The third will be an eager-to-please soy boy who purposefully picks damaged and/or older women because mom treated him as a husband-surrogate and he never observed what a functional relationship looks like.

askmrcia · 2019-01-14T19:08:59+00:00

It's like well what the hell you want?

Just say you want a guy for your entertainment and a change of things to your already boring ass life.

If your kids truly did come first then why the hell are you wasting time on a hookup app messaging hundreds of guys?

AllahHatesFags · 2019-01-14T19:26:19+00:00

I really don't understand why these women think they can make this list of demands while offering literally nothing in return and expect ~~a quality~~ any guy to cater to them. This isn't even what Rollo talks about when he says "value added" because they are literally adding 0 to 0 and expecting some chump to see it as something other than 0.

oh_no_aliens · 2019-01-14T20:57:26+00:00

what a fucking embarrassment of a want-ad.. Offers absolutely nothing to a partner and expects someone with a place a car and a job? I mean yeah, if you don't have 2 out of those 3 you're probably a loser but just because you have or don't have any of those is none of her fucking business.

I bet she has a friend that says she's "too good" for most men lmao

ricstone100 · 2019-01-14T21:37:44+00:00

"Dates what happen to them???" (sic)

Yes gents, this absolute queen who works seven days a week, has three children, doesn't go out socially and won't even have sex with you... Oh, but you must work, drive and have your own apartment or house!

Christ almighty, can you honestly imagine demanding this?

IcebergHermit · 2019-01-14T22:35:11+00:00

Again it’s all about HER and nothing about what SHE brings to the table

As usual......

alleyteris · 2019-01-14T14:31:03+00:00

This is so rediceulus that belongs to choosingbeggars for fucks sake lol

JakeDC · 2019-01-14T22:15:40+00:00

Fuck what on earth does she have to offer?

NickTesla2018 · 2019-01-14T22:42:46+00:00

Please go away... again.

VanityKings · 2019-01-16T05:28:23+00:00

Ok seriously tho, why would any quality man even consider raising her bastards or dealing with a broke and demanding old bitch?
Some people are plain stupid.

wathon2 · 2019-01-17T08:52:11+00:00

35, three kids, no sex, work 24/7.

What reason would any man have to date this ho then.

Wicket_42 · 2019-01-21T07:04:23+00:00

Someone match to ask which comes first bills or kids

Title	"Here Again" should start getting comfortable, because dating purgatory is where the home is now.
Author	where_muh_good_mens
Upvotes	160
Comments	67
Date	January 14, 2019 9:34 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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