She doesn't understand why Good Looking Chad doesn't care about her life like all the other guys she's slept with. "I feel like he shows no interest in my life. Meaning, he doesn’t ask me any questions, shows no curiosity about what I do, where I come from, what I like, who I am . . . anything."

whitemike40 · 2018-03-16T13:54:46+00:00

he wants her to shut up, if he wanted to listen to someone yap he’d go home to his wife

BewareTheOldMan · 2018-03-16T13:00:45+00:00

Classic line - "You don't like silence very much, do you?"

Does she not understand she is there for the sex and sex ONLY?

Keep the mouth shut, put out the sex, and nothing more. Chad doesn't "do relationships." There's just too many other women vying for his services.

Getting to know women requires remembering details like favorite colors, birthdays, and favorite movies, etc.

Chad is way too busy for such trivial knowledge and personal interest. She's going to blow another 18-24 months of prime husband-search years and show up somewhere talking about the dearth of Good Men.

Cue the whining and caterwauling in three, two...

oicurdumb · 2018-03-16T14:25:55+00:00

Despite this, I am somehow still attracted to him and somehow still think he is a good person.

Good Looking = Good Person. Always. No matter what.

She's just proving why he doesn't want to waste his time on her pointless blabbing. She's stupid, shallow, vapid, airheaded and spends all her time rationalizing her dumb decisions. I bet if he allowed her to talk, she would spend the entire 3 hour car ride endlessly buzzing in his ear like a mosquito about absolutely nothing at all.

Listen, toots: You are tits with legs. That is all you bring to the table. Fortunately for you, that is all he wants & expects out of you. He's got friends and family and people around him he can trust to talk to. He doesn't need to waste his time telling a total stranger desperate enough to travel across the country for sex about his life. You need him a hell of a lot more than he needs you. Why else do you think he's only seen you three times? You're a wet hole for him to bust his load in and then continue on with normal life. A normal life which doesn't include you in it.

If you want to talk to someone who cares about the meaningless thoughts buzzing around your empty skull, go buy yourself a diary like all the other girls in your idiotic gender. Men have got way better things to do with their time than to pretend you have anything to contribute to their lives after you're done spreading your legs open.

gods_bones · 2018-03-16T11:08:50+00:00

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You’re not compatible. Sorry.

You want to develop an emotional connection with this guy, but he wants to talk about himself and look at his phone. He’s not curious about your life and he wants you to be quiet. He’s not a bad person, he’s just wrong for you.

It sounds like you’re sticking around for the sex. You’re attracted to him and you like that part of the relationship. If there were a way to enjoy him with no strings attached, I’d say go for it. But you’re already in too deep and you’re clearly looking for a real partner. Sex can’t keep a relationship together. I mean, it can . . . but not for very long.

Let him go and find someone who wants to know more about you. Leave him with his quiet time.

MEREDITH

You need a reality check, honey. First thing’s first: Why are you meeting people online from across the country?? What is the point of this relationship? You guys have seen each other three times in seven months??? Of course you have nothing to talk about . . .

SALMONSAM26

This is not a relationship, this guy is not interested in you as a person. When you want to learn more about him and converse and connect, he basically tells you to “shut up.”

WIZEN

When you’re only spending maybe 15 days out of 7 months together, 100% of the time should be an absolute blast.

FLETCHLIVES

I’ve seen a lot of people meet and fall in love and none say, “It works because we have similar family backgrounds.”

NANCY

The good thing is that you can see the red flags waving. The bad news is that you don’t take action. Why is that? The man doesn’t respect your needs when you voice them. Time to walk away gracefully with a semblance of esteem in-tow.

PENSEUSE

This isn’t going to work. This is his personality — who he is. It’s not who you are or what you need. Lots of people are good looking and good in bed — go find someone else who can give you the rest of what you need. This is WAY too forced.

SUPERCHICK

You can get sex a lot cheaper than the cost of air fare. As a matter of fact, you can probably get it for free.

SOFTPATINA

He sounds like a strange bird to me. I don’t know how you can say you have an absolute blast with him at times when he doesn’t know the first thing about you. I’d say sayonara to this one.

GOINGUNDER

I dated someone long distance (MA to NJ) and the only reason it survived as long as it did was because we had so much to talk about and were emotionally compatible. If all you have is the physical, this is not going to work. Sorry.

MSLYNN586

Say goodbye. He probably won’t even ask you why.

REB64

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p3ngwin · 2018-03-16T14:40:41+00:00

had three dates, already gave out the sex, complains they haven't gotten to the stage where they are "starved to learn about each other" ....

You got it the wrong way around toots.

fasterfind · 2018-03-16T14:44:32+00:00

Sigh... it takes women decades... decades to learn the fact that they aren't special snowflakes. They aren't special. Each woman is tits and ass, they bring little else to the relationship.

I know, not all women... but most. Most women don't have interesting conversations, insights, ideas. There's nothing going on like that. There's sex... and not much else going on.

Your love of music or travel isn't going to save you. Think about how many women will talk endlessly of that time they went to Paris and sat at a cafe and it was so romantic!!! - But if you read them one god damned poem, they've got their face in their phone. - That's women. They can't form real connections, and their brain doesn't do real work like a man's brain.

Read a poem to a guy, and as long as it isn't a shitty poem, he'll be able to expound upon it. He'll have ideas, feelings, and he'll be able to articulate something intelligent out of that input.

Women can't do that. They don't produce intelligent output from almost any kind of input at all. For that reason, they aren't special. But they're just CONVINCED that they are.

Really? You can't read a book and learn from it. You can't watch a documentary and then remember any of the facts in it. You just have music, doggies, and all the same female likes and hobbies as every other girl... and it's all stuff that's superficial as shit.

Not special.

I don't understand WHY they think they're special in any way. They have nothing to share, and no skills or innate abilities. Their observations about life are dull, limited, and devoid of insight. They produce nothing of value, brilliance, or attraction.

LewisCross · 2018-03-16T16:09:05+00:00

Translation:

I am good to him. I give him the secks. I gives him the BJs. I let him fuck me in all holes. He so good, he so fine, he so hot.

Why he no care bout me? Why he no talk to me? Me want relayshunshipp. Why he just fly in from West Coast, fuck me, and go home?

AllahHatesFags · 2018-03-16T15:52:13+00:00

You are there for a pump and dump, so you don't need to open your mouth unless Chad wants to put his dick in it.

ZOGabominations · 2018-03-16T12:11:22+00:00

Beautiful family in the making.

Redemption888 · 2018-03-16T16:38:28+00:00

Despite this, I am somehow still attracted to him and somehow still think he is a good person

hamstering 101

lorum_ipsum_dolor · 2018-03-17T12:12:35+00:00

Always say less than necessary.

TEMystic · 2018-03-16T11:13:39+00:00

Then wtf are they talking about the 99% of the time they are apart. This chick thinks she is doing work but all she is doing is asking questions and pouting.

When he asked about her day after they spent to together she should have said "wonderful because we spent it together" not "er, um, you were there." She just wants to be wooed (he does all the work).

They are probably both virgins.

BachelorInc · 2018-03-26T09:03:17+00:00

This is so transparent.

I don't buy that this lady is simply utterly flabbergasted at the dynamics of the relationship.

She's hamstering the fact that the guy sees her than nothing more than an easy cum bucket when he's in town.

I like him. He's a good person...and he's good between the sheets...but, he doesn't show ANY interest in me.

Hmm...Good between the sheets...Doesn't show ANY interest in me.

He's FUCKING you. Period. That's it.

Lady, you're one of MANY vaginas he's temporarily borrowing to master bate into.

We were in a car ride for three hours and he hand't said a word.

I literally imagined the guy just turing to her to and saying -

"Oh, I'm just trying to decide what hole in your body I'm going to blow my first hot, steamy load into for the night, when we get to the Easy 69 Motel" w/a devil may care smirk.

There are some times that I have an absolute blast with him and we have similar goals and desires

<----*her legs are hand cuffed to the bed posts while he's jack hammering his man-meat down her willing and eager throat.

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