Usually, with OLD, it's the guy I'm talking to who pushes to take the conversation to Snapchat, Instagram, or text message. I acquiesce when it comes to Snapchat (I never post stories/share my location), don't give them my Instagram/other social media, and acquiesce with the request for my number by giving them my Google Voice number.
I have a bad feeling about the way I've been so willing to comply with the request to move the conversation to another platform. Guys often say it's "easier" conversing on social media/by text than on a dating app, but Snapchat doesn't display messages at the top of your screen as they come in - just like dating apps don't.
The biggest issue I have with giving out my Snap and even my Google Voice number is that I then have to un-friend/block/delete (it seems dating ends in this 99.99% of the time). So it seems like a bad investment for me to make my Snap and Google number available. Additionally, I perceive I'm being tested as to how easily I acquiesce to their requests. They typically ask for my social media after as few as 3 message exchanges on OLD apps.
Guys also ask for my social media to make sure I'm a real person. Do you think that's really the reason? I've always just assumed they were being honest. Ultimately though, it seems unnecessary - especially if we don't yet have any plans to meet up or do a Zoom date. They can always see I'm a real person over Zoom...
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If they want your social media to see if you are "real," counter with proposing a 15-20 minute Zoom or Facetime session.
The handbook urges members to vet over a video call before going on an actual date. It is called a Pre-Interview. It details red flags to look out for: dirtiness or hoarding of his home, negging, turning conversations sexual, dark humor, evasiveness when answering basic questions, signs that another woman is living there.
Also, pay attention to whether he is home or not. Some men push away from these Facetime pre-interviews or take the video calls outside of the home because they are married or have a girlfriend.
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