I tried to post this in FDS but it wouldn’t let me!

So today someone that ghosted me for three months after a first day, reappeared.

This was pre FDS so I did sleep with him, left the next morning after the date and never heard from him again.

His messages all claimed that he didn’t realise his texts to me hadn’t gone through (lies it doesn’t take three months to check that, plus he never sent any) and he blames me in the texts by saying “I just thought you were ignoring me, my bad”.

He guilts me by saying how bad he feels and how sorry he is. I try to knock him down a peg by replying with “who is this?”. He replies with his name and the restaurant of the first date. I stop replying and ignore so he texts back asking if I want to “leave things”.

The sheer audacity of even thinking there’s something to continue after not contacting for three months. These texts were nothing but manipulation and guilting and he hoped id let him back in for more free sex and to reassure him because he’s feeling “bad”.

Well, generally when you do something bad, you feel bad!

This happened to me also where the man waited SEVEN months after ghosting me (dated for 4 weeks) only to say that he only ghosted me because he didn’t think that I was interested in him. This was another very low attempt to manipulate me into taking him back by blaming me and apologising for something he hadn’t even owned up to.

One man ghosted me for about a month after two months of very nice dates. He was honest and took responsibility in this text. I still chose not to reply because ghosting without a good reason is cruel and cowardly, but at least he didn’t barge into my messages and blame me for something he did as (somehow??) an attempt to get me back?

Please be wary of men that ghost you and come back, don’t reply to these, frankly very stupid and foolish attempts to manipulate you.

Also men, don’t manipulate women! They won’t take you back. Be honest and upfront and take responsibility so that still won’t take you back, but you’re at least being a decent human being.