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| 6 | Vetting tip: watch out for LVM who try to get you to associate your positive moments/traits/accomplishments with negative connotationsI was dating someone who knew I was too good for him and he’d definitely act like it. I got a huge opportunity to be a published author and I was in tears of joy telling him over the phone. He didn’t even acknowledge what I had said or ever bring it up again. I wish my poor 20 year old self knew that had nothing to do with me & everything to do with him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 02:50 PM |
| 3 | LVM infiltrate our spaces constantly and I’m sick of it: A Case StudyI’ve seen a lot of situations where a (albeit well intentioned 😞, sweet woman) will rush to tell a man/woman in a relationship that they are being cheated on, only for the couple to work things out and direct their anger toward the messenger | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/22 02:45 PM |
| 72 | LVM infiltrate our spaces constantly and I’m sick of it: A Case StudyDon’t tell the husband, unless you are friends with him beyond casual acquaintances. It isn’t good for yourself to put yourself in that drama despite already being unfairly dragged into it. Block and cut her off, and if people want to know why tell them the truth (your friend cheated on her husband etc.) Taking the high road is hard but it preserves your energy and sometimes even with good intentions, getting involved in friendship drama / couple drama put you in a bad position | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 03:38 PM |
| 2 | Feeling hopeless this Holiday season *trigger warning*I feel your pain. I spent all of yesterday in tears broken down because I just feel so helpless trying to overcome my experiences with SA. I have days where I am so happy and lively and then I struggle to enjoy them because I know it’s only time before the next breakdown or god forbid, I get taken advantage of again. Everything you wrote resonated with me. The holidays are rough, especially because everyone puts their best show online and it’s supposed to be a time of joy. I hope you have a rela… | /r/askFDS | 30/12/21 10:54 AM |
| 10 | Find this on my local city subreddit. Seems pretty thoughtful. It's not that difficult.This is so thoughtful; for the girlfriend, her dog and the environment. What a clever and empathetic person | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/21 03:17 PM |
| 4 | help with a situationThank you so much ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 18/12/21 09:49 PM |
| 3 | He found me.I don’t agree with the people saying they’re not happy. They might be, because if he is abusive there is no telling how long he will pretend to be a good guy. I have been through this many times, dated someone great who has turned out to be abusive and then they move on and treat the next woman like gold. But trust me the other shoe will drop and he will reveal his true colours. Trust in your experience and knowledge of who he really is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/12/21 01:56 AM |
| 99 | See how he treats his family, especially the womenDefinitely this, just want to add though a man can treat his family like gold and still be abusive/terrible in my experience. Use it as part of vetting but don’t immediately think he’s HV just based on family treatment alone ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/11/21 06:16 AM |
| 1 | ConfusedSTD check is a good idea, thank you for the advice ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 23/11/21 07:50 AM |
| 1 | ConfusedVery good advice, thank you kindly | /r/askFDS | 23/11/21 07:50 AM |
| 2 | ConfusedThis was so helpful, I can’t thank you enough ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 23/11/21 07:50 AM |
| 3 | ConfusedThank you for responding ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 23/11/21 07:50 AM |
| 7 | Needing supportThis is really helpful, thank you 😊 | /r/askFDS | 01/11/21 06:58 AM |
| 21 | Is it okay to not want to date in your 20's?I’m with you here. I feel like I’ve wasted 15-22 focusing on obtaining a relationship and it has been a huge waste of time and energy. At least it has been an experience and I can reference it when I feel like going back on my standards lol. But I’m hoping to spend the rest of my 20s on myself, friends, hobbies, travel. I am never happier than when I am alone and focusing on these things | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 03:44 AM |
| 10 | frustrated with guys lying about their height, and how i’m respondingI went on a date wearing tall heels so I was around 5’9/10, and my date was about 5’5/6. He tried to convince me the whole night that he was taller than me.. even without heels I was a good 2 inches taller lol. He also said he was 6 foot on his profile. But women are the ones who lie, sure jan 😩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 02:33 PM |
| 1 | A rantThis really helped, thank you! | /r/askFDS | 09/09/21 03:05 AM |
| 1 | A rantjust wanted to paint the picture as best I can 💀💀 | /r/askFDS | 09/09/21 02:53 AM |
| 12 | Don’t respond when your ex reaches outI’m so sorry you’re hurting. Don’t feel bad for giving the wrong person your love, it will be returned to you one day / through yourself. Take care | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 09:37 AM |
| 2 | JealousyThis was really helpful, thank you so much ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 30/08/21 02:52 PM |
| 7 | Remember ladies, any man who makes being liberal or a feminist part of his dating persona is a wolf in sheep’s clothing//TW The guy that assaulted me on a date posted in support of women speaking up about r*pe the very next day 😐😐. I was still in denial and that made me question my experience even more. This post is absolutely correct | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 02:43 PM |
| 1 | Women and social media activismThis makes a lot of sense, love your comments as always :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 02:06 PM |
| 101 | Dating Proverbs Updated 😃My favourite is, if you love him set him free. If he comes back, no one else wanted him 😂. I use it to remind myself that exes coming back aren’t genuine, just lonely | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/21 01:38 PM |
| 4 | Women and social media activismIndeed 😊❤️ it’s good advice though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 10:04 AM |
| 1 | He’s dumb af if he thinks we won’t be able to pick him outHe’s literally proving us right lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 08:36 AM |
| 4 | LVM who share their relationship trauma with youMy friend dated a guy that pulled the “I got cheated on” card really early, like second date. He used it to guilt her for wanting commitment, and would move goal posts of when he would be ready to commit. She left and to get her back he changed it from 6 months to 2 months and unfortunately it worked. She finally got out, and next girl he dated he got into a committed relationship with immediately. She still defends that they had a “genuine” friendship and connection and it breaks my heart becau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 08:35 AM |
| 22 | Women and social media activismI said dated once, it was an anecdote from a long time ago to support my overall question/point in my post | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:23 PM |
| 7 | For The Lurkers And FDS Members Who Wonder Why Men Are Banned Here....I was a in a local group not long ago and it was so WONDERFUL. It was full of great women and even some men where we’d share literature, dating advice, life tips etc. It grew quite big and became a really nice community where not everyone agreed with one another but the basis was to have respectful debate about topics (within reason). Eventually some men caught onto it and made troll accounts and would spend all their time posting the stupidest shit to rile everyone up, ruined every post with in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 02:46 PM |
| 30 | Things that I noticed in LovebombingCould you elaborate on “devaluation” if you have the time? This sounds like someone I dated. He lead with future faking and love bombing and it slowly moved toward being really critical of me. Sounds very familiar and I’d love to know more | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 02:16 PM |
| 30 | Things that I noticed in LovebombingSomething I’ve learned is to ask don’t tell when talking about relationship expectations. For example, I went on a few dates and I told him, “I’m only looking for a serious relationship, nothing casual”. This allowed him to say “oh me too!” And subsequently lovebomb and future fake to me based on what I told him I wanted. If I had asked him what he was looking for first, I would have had a better/earlier chance of seeing his true colours as he would have admitted he wanted something casual, or s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 02:14 PM |
| 1 | Ladies, please stay safe! This was couple of days before the British incel Jake took lives from people.They are also shamed by other men for displaying emotion in “feminine” ways, a notion that was created BY men because of their misogyny. Instead of working toward abolishing misogyny and in turn, toxic masculinity, most men want to blame women instead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 01:39 PM |
| 17 | Women need to know never to ask Reddit for advice. This woman was violated and berated DURING SEX – her husband covered her mouth, accused her of being an attention-seeking slut and now has zero remorse. All the top comments are about how he needs mental help, might be trying sexy talk or a new kinkWhy would he engage with sex with her in the first place if it made him uncomfortable that his family was home / could hear? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 03:58 PM |
| 47 | Made a 3 min tiktok about how dangerous life is for women, and pointing out actual male privileges. I pointed out that even if men actually experience more violent crimes, those crimes are pulled off by... MEN.I studied criminology and when I first started, I was pretty shocked by crime statistics. I didn’t expect them to be 50/50 but there are some crimes were 80%+ of the perpetrators are men. I was reading about serial killers from the 70-90s era and the statistics were similarly disproportionate, way more men than women. After joining this sub it made a lot of sense as to why so many men feel entitled to commit violent crimes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 12:43 PM |
| 26 | Ladies, please stay safe! This was couple of days before the British incel Jake took lives from people.Anyone that says women are more emotional hasn’t read their history books, lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 12:39 PM |
| 105 | A TERRORIST murdered five people in the UK. Women should learn a lesson. (Context in comments)They do and then they abuse the women there too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 01:00 AM |
| 9 | Left-wing men are just as misogynistic as right-wing menI dated a guy who was very leftist & wore makeup sometimes, painted his nails and regularly spoke out about sexual violence against women. He ended up sexually assaulting me. Don’t give anyone the benefit of the doubt | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:20 PM |
| 8 | ReminderGod this reminds me of an article I read where men who “realised” they had assaulted women in the past talked about their guilt and the fact they didn’t know better and needed better sex education. It was beyond me how this got a positive response, there’s no way they didn’t know what they were doing was wrong. We learn social cues and communication skills from a very young age. I’m so sick of male violence being treated like an innocent mistake rather than an intentional crime, they will blame … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/21 03:13 PM |
| 27 | PSA: For rohypnol you have 12-25 hours for a blood test, 60 hours to 28 days for a urine sample and 90 days for hair strand analysis.You are so kind, he is long gone. Thank you for this post | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 06:24 AM |
| 62 | PSA: For rohypnol you have 12-25 hours for a blood test, 60 hours to 28 days for a urine sample and 90 days for hair strand analysis.I really wish I knew this before. I went on a date a while ago and had around 7-8 drinks but I felt way drunker, and I had eaten / have a really high tolerance. I can have 15 + drinks and still remember what happened but I can barely remember what happened on this date and I was so ill the next day. The reason I suspect drugs is because he made a joke about rohypnol right before I went to his house 💔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/21 04:27 AM |
| 14 | Red Flag Or Deal Breaker?I like to think of red flags like STOP signs when you’re driving. You’re supposed to stop and acknowledge it and think about your next move or the potential danger. In a relationship context this could mean evaluating whether this red flag is going to harm you in some way if you don’t stop to really think about it. Or you could just keep driving through it, but that could potentially cause an accident. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/21 02:39 PM |
| 32 | Marriage is a bigger commitment??? Huh!?!I have an acquaintance who has 3 kids with her boyfriend, but her one dream/goal in life is to get married. Which is fair enough, it’s her dream. Except she’s been with her boyfriend for 10 years, and he’s never proposed. Don’t convince yourself someone with incompatible wants is your soulmate, it’s not worth it. Breaks my heart every time I hear her talk about it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 07:37 AM |
| 1 | Women choose to reduce their quality of life to let a man go raw and I‘m tired of itIt’s posts like these that make me wonder how I would see the world without this subreddit. I very foolishly said yes to unprotected sex once (one time!) and my ex at the time ended up getting tested and turns out he had something. I was extremely fortunate that I didn’t get it, but the money it cost to go to the doctor, the emotional energy, the STRESS, the tears of the situation, would not be worth even the best sex in the world. I wonder if I hadn’t found this subreddit how many more times I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Women choose to reduce their quality of life to let a man go raw and I‘m tired of itWow this is sickening. I am so sorry this happened to you, and so glad that he is far away from you now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 03:05 PM |
| 83 | Am I overreacting?He could have ideally sent you something along the lines of “Hey I know you can’t text at the moment, so no need to reply or take your time but I am hoping you feel better soon take care”. This way he is letting you know he cares whilst not putting the responsibility of a reply on you or crossing your boundary. Agree with the others saying he was shit testing or just ignorant | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:53 PM |
| 10 | I am enraged.I actually had a mental breakdown at one point because of this when I was younger and I threw a plate of old food that he had left in the bathroom, around his room. It seemed only fair since it was his mess that I return it to his own room. Unsurprisingly, my parents were FURIOUS and I was in big trouble, because it’s not okay when I do it 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/21 04:03 AM |
| 24 | Once a liar always a liar?I know this is confusing but sometimes people aren’t entirely awful or entirely good. Yes he helped you when you were sick and you love him, so he seems like a good person in your eyes, but seemingly good/average/adequate people can still be bad for us. I know it’s hard to leave because it’s easier to only remember the positives about your relationship, but his actions have clearly upset you and would be dealbreakers for most. I hope this has made sense, you will be okay & best of luck to your h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 03:15 PM |
| 5 | I effed upYou sound so lovely. Please don’t feel stupid, you can do everything right and things like this will still happen. He is the one who should be feeling like an idiot, but I’m sure he thinks otherwise. Take care of yourself ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/21 11:17 AM |
| 26 | After years of wasting my time going on dates with losers, this subreddit helped me become selective and considerate of my time/understanding how much skin I really have in the game.There isn’t anything that men won’t try to get out of women for free. Plus I imagine they’d rather that than outsource and ask family/friends to show them around or use the internet, like a normal person. disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/21 02:24 AM |
| 6 | There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being high maintenance.I stopped getting/wearing false eyelashes for this reason! I love the way they make my eyes look and complete my eye makeup, and they allow my natural lashes to grow without interference from mascara etc. I stopped wearing them & looked down at women who did during the whole “take her swimming on the first date” era and began to associate wearing them with trying too hard, being high maintenance etc. Still unlearning the idea that caring about your appearance is high maintenance especially in re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 03:11 PM |
| 2 | When a man cancels on the first date, don’t reply and just delete him. Learn from my mistakes.It makes me laugh that men are so hard to want that they have to play games like these to attempt to arouse/keep the woman interested | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 12:50 PM |
| 18 | A man texted me out of the blue a little over a year later to apologize... (story in comments)I am SO sorry you went through this. I just wanted to say that when I was assaulted I also asked to see the guy again because I was deep in denial thought that if I acted like I consented then I would feel better, so I appreciate reading that I’m not alone in this. I’m so sorry this happened to you & I hope you can heal ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 12:20 PM |
| 5 | I would choose meMe too :( bless her heart, but it was a win in the end ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 04:14 AM |
| 1 | Things to avoid saying in early stages or on OLDThank you!! Yes it was very unfortunate but I learnt my lesson the hard way! I second your comment and I am the same, i find it hilarious that women are the gold diggers of society when men will try to deceive you and rob you of everything you have. He was more well off than me in the first place too, truly loser behaviour | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 04:14 AM |
| 2 | I would choose meThey have been cut off thankfully! I am still friendly to them of course, he can barely look at me when I run into them lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 04:10 AM |
| 3 | I would choose meThat sounds incredibly hard, I feel your pain and I wish you all the love & healing ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 11:17 PM |
| 26 | I would choose meMy favourite mantra is “rejection is protection” ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 10:32 PM |
| 50 | I would choose meThis is exactly how I feel. He obviously gives me a very bad vibe because of the way I was treated and I actually caught him lurking on my social media recently which is so weird! I hope she wises up before it’s too late | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 10:30 PM |
| 27 | I would choose meI think I really underplayed my feelings in this post, I was basically kicked out of my friend group over this situation and my friends stopped inviting me out and looked at me like I was a homewrecker for having a relationship with this man right before she did! I was extremely hurt and angry especially at her, but when we ran into each other recently she admitted that she was insecure and felt threatened by me and was really apologetic. I no longer hold onto any of that anger toward her and I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 10:24 PM |
| 45 | I would choose meI use duolingo! I find that it’s great for learning basics and then I will do my own practice by listening to podcasts/YouTube videos while I sleep or exercise, I have also done a few short college classes in various languages & would highly recommend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 10:18 PM |
| 1 | I wish I would left my ex so much earlier.I admire you so much for this, you are so insightful and wise! I hope you heal from this & enjoy your beautiful life free of regret ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 02:48 PM |
| 3 | Things to avoid saying in early stages or on OLDCan I add not to share details about finances or advertise that you’ve had a significant financial win? I posted about a popular stock that I invested in that was very popular this year on my social media and either received hate/nasty messages, or sudden date proposals from men. I ended up accepting a date from a guy who conveniently appeared (friend of a few months) after I posted about my success with this stock and on the date he was overly interested in my finances and would ask lots of que… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/21 01:36 PM |
| 20 | (Tw) why did he do thisThank you very much ❤️❤️ bless you | /r/askFDS | 09/07/21 09:40 AM |
| 1 | ONE YEAR WITHOUT SEX!!!!! Here's what I've learned!!!!I could’ve written #3 myself, so proud of you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 12:53 PM |
| 11 | 64% of men 'believe women should contribute to the date' but 76% 'feel guilty taking women's money'. Make it make sense 🤡I went on a date where he made a big deal about this. He claimed he would pick me up and pay for everything when we planned the date and then slowly backed out as the date got closer (car “broke down”, asked me to split). After we ate he continued to joke about splitting it because he knew it made me uncomfortable, and then paid for the whole $8 meal that we shared lol.. truly manipulative weirdo behaviour Edit - then he bragged about paying until I left. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 12:02 PM |
| 16 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.they’re telling on themselves. I know that quite a few men will see it and start sweating because they’ve never stopped to consider consent in their life 😅🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 06:38 AM |
| 4 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.I just found it thank you so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 06:37 AM |
| 6 | Some important changes in the prosecution of rape cases made in NSW, Australia yesterday. This makes me feel so hopeful, and proud of the progress being made in Australia. I hope these laws can be an example for law makers around the world and more widely adopted.Where is this source from! I’d love to be able to share it on social media 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 06:19 AM |
| 1 | Recent dating experienceWow this is so true. I’m just shocked I fell for it because I’m so bitter usually lol, and I’ve been on fds for so long I thought I’d be able to see through it. Thank you ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 03:41 AM |
| 1 | Recent dating experienceThank you ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 24/05/21 03:38 AM |
| 16 | Recent dating experienceI feel like this is all true. I just can’t seem to view people objectively and I’m always told that I’m too “nice”. Thank you for your comment | /r/askFDS | 23/05/21 01:29 PM |
| 8 | Recent dating experienceThis is really sweet and kind, I really appreciate your honesty, thank you | /r/askFDS | 23/05/21 01:28 PM |
| 2 | How to manage expectationsSo true ❤️ thank you | /r/askFDS | 13/05/21 12:54 AM |
| 4 | How to manage expectationsThis is really helpful! I definitely don’t see myself in a good exclusive relationship until a few years down the line, thank you 😊 | /r/askFDS | 12/05/21 10:55 PM |
| 3 | How to manage expectationsWow I love this, thank you :) | /r/askFDS | 12/05/21 03:08 PM |
| 6 | How to manage expectationsWow this is excellent advice, thank you so much! | /r/askFDS | 12/05/21 01:50 PM |
| 59 | Why do men hate us? My theory.I’ve always felt like men are jealous of the way women are so open emotionally (with friends and family) and how creative we get to be with things like fashion, makeup, self expression etc. These things are oppressed in men due to toxic masculinity, but instead of changing it within themselves and challenging society they just blame us because it’s easier to | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 01:39 PM |
| 11 | How to manage expectationsI know how disappointing that feels, although I always think of it like I’ve dodged a bullet! Hope you heal soon ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 12/05/21 01:23 PM |
| 3 | How to manage expectationsThis is so helpful! I will definitely keep it in mind, and I think on the next date I will ask what he’s looking for, I usually bring it up on the first to avoid confusion but we got along so well I completely forgot. Thank you for your reply I really appreciate it! | /r/askFDS | 12/05/21 01:09 PM |
| 6 | Women Experience More RejectionI’m so glad this is being talked about. From 18-20 my friends and I experienced this kind of thing a lot and it is painful and dehumanising. I always thought it was “over emotional” and “dramatic” because I’d be upset that a guy would ghost me after a few months or after having sex. Please keep talking about this, I don’t want younger women to have to grow up like this, it’s fucked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/05/21 12:08 PM |
| 7 | Casual sexism or unprofessionalism?This is infuriating. I second the person saying to give the lecturer a bad review or if possible report them to the university | /r/askFDS | 02/05/21 09:47 PM |
| 17 | Facts ✌I just read a thread about rare illnesses and one was brought up a lot that is caused by a lack of vitamins in food, it seemed a lot of older men got this illness because they’d only eat one thing like pot noodles or yoghurt because their wife had left them and all the comments were really sympathetic toward them. Bro how hard is it to learn how to cook for yourself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 09:43 PM |
| 7 | Why I don’t feel bad about having uncompromising standardsProud of you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 09:09 AM |
| 8 | Tell me about your HV first date with someone who did, in fact, turn out to be HVThis is so sweet 🥺🥺🥺🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/21 08:50 AM |
| 1 | This OLD bio made me puke in my mouth 🤡, men are getting delusional.The only thing I’m laughing at is him 💀 what a freak | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:50 PM |
| 2 | No ones asked for your opinion and you have no room to talkTell him you’ll straighten your hair if he does his too ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:40 PM |
| 2 | "Let him go and we see what him does!" - Life mantra from a 3-year-oldThis is beautiful & I love it so much. I’m definitely going to add this to my mantra’s. May they rest in peace | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:14 PM |
| 1 | How to push parents off from marriage pressureI saw an article about a boundary setting tactic where you basically just repeat the boundary to the other person. In your case when they bring up marriage you can say something like “I’m choosing to wait until I’m older” (just an example). When they push back you just keep repeating it. I feel your pain though, my parents call me a “man hater” and have accused me of being a lesbian because I gave up on constantly dating and worrying about marriage/kids. I choose to just ignore these comments an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:11 PM |
| 3 | Tiny quick vetting method: MEN AND CATSI wonder if this is why old unmarried ladies and cats are so closely associated, they know their boundaries and don’t tolerate shit from men 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 04:00 PM |
| 9 | Health benefits of leaving a LVM and NVMWhen I dated my ex a year ago, a few months in he began to lose the nice facade and begin the emotional abuse. Around this time I got very sick and it almost felt like a perpetual flu, every few weeks I’d get a sore throat, fatigue etc. and then I’d recover briefly and repeat. This went on for about 4 or 5 months and i nor my doctor could understand why I was getting so unwell. I woke up one day and blocked him and soon after found that I stopped getting ill and I haven’t had so much as a cold s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 03:56 PM |
| 17 | An FDS guide to tradcon intellectualismThis is a brilliant post. My last situationship would try to discredit every one of my opinions on feminism, racism etc. BUT I could never be mad because he would preface it with “I see what you mean but!”. Even if I had perfectly and articulately argued against his opinion (which was always devils advocate or the opposite of mine) the conversation wouldn’t be over until I agreed with his views. He was a regular defender of JP and JR, defended Incels and minimised their violence and misogyny and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 12:54 PM |
| 2 | TimeThank you kindly! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:30 PM |
| 1 | TimeThank you ❤️ wonderful advice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:30 PM |
| 2 | TimeThank you so much lovely! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:30 PM |
| 7 | FWB Because You’ll Be Fucked Either Way And Not The Way You Like!It’s almost like they desperately want you to be emotionally invested so they can use you 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 03:28 PM |
| 126 | FWB Because You’ll Be Fucked Either Way And Not The Way You Like!My old fwb was adamant that we weren’t friends, yet would unload all of his mental health issues onto me. It’s a scam if I’ve ever seen one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 01:37 AM |
| 18 | This is my year!Proud of you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/21 01:35 AM |
| 7 | TimeI’ve been pondering this the last week here and there, because it’s happened quite often in my dating journey and even in the last month or so. I have no idea what they gain from this, I guess it’s a way to get you invested in them without any effort on their part? It’s still so weird to me. The man in my story did admit he felt very nervous asking me out so it’s possible he just didn’t feel confident enough to do so. I try to remember that as you said when someone’s wasting your time, their was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 02:31 AM |
| 8 | Three German Men Market a Hot Pink Glove to Dispose of Period Products Like a Doggy Poo BagTo follow up, why are men so pressed about women’s hygiene? It’s so disgusting and weird and clearly for profit / to shame us as historically women have had harsh beauty standards imposed on us (and still do). They need to put this energy into more products for men, such as good skincare, body wash, moisturiser etc. Stay out of women’s business. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/21 12:54 AM |
| 18 | TimeThank you so much ❤️ i hope every person here is able to get to this place, I still struggle too but it feels so good to have made some progress with myself ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 09:21 PM |
| 65 | Three German Men Market a Hot Pink Glove to Dispose of Period Products Like a Doggy Poo BagMen can’t even wipe their own ass yet they invent this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 03:17 PM |
| 12 | How do I stop being angry at the past LVM in my life?I am also very angry at past Lvm and the negative impacts they had on my life. I like to use the anger to write and fuel my activism toward women. I am also going to go to therapy to manage it. Talking to other women helps a lot too, but I feel you and it’s hard to not let the anger consume you. I also take myself on nice dates to restaurants / shopping to remind myself of my worth but I think it just takes time to heal. my messages are always open ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 08/04/21 02:11 PM |
| 14 | Just because I was a pick me doesn't mean I deserved LVM treatment right?I have been a pick me for years and I’m just beginning my journey to un-do all of the harm to myself and possibly other women. It’s not easy and no it isn’t it your fault, it’s social conditioning from a very young age and it has seeped into every part of society. Feel free to message me anytime I’d love to chat | /r/askFDS | 06/04/21 03:42 AM |
| 7 | Posts about male/female privilege on popular sub. TW: horrifically misogynistic, racist and hateful. This *really* is their perspective; and it's frightening AF.He should just say he’s uneducated and doesn’t understand gender and go.. how embarrassing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 06:34 AM |
| 6 | LVM Narc ex sent me a handwritten letterCan you elaborate on the fact he said he jumped into a relationship without attraction? I had an ex that when I brought up exclusivity, said he didn’t find me attractive. He ran back on that a month later though so is it just another way to put you down? | /r/askFDS | 29/03/21 02:34 AM |
| 50 | A thank you letter for my HV boss.It makes me cringe thinking about what would have happened if I ended up in his car / going on a date somehow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/21 01:48 PM |
| 34 | A warning about older men!Also important to note that your brain isn’t fully formed until 25 years old. This affects decision making and maturity which can be a bad dynamic in something like a romantic relationship involving an older man. I dated 24/25 year olds when I was newly 18-20 and one in particular would bring up the fact he knew I was much younger and ‘my brain wasn’t fully formed’ as a way to control and manipulate me. Not saying 18-24 year olds aren’t mature or capable of making good decisions but you’re more … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/21 02:23 PM |
| 4 | This person criticized kinks on a debate dub and they're getting ATTACKED for it. These comments are disturbingStudies have literally proven that violent porn leads to real life violence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/21 07:38 AM |
| 45 | VIBE CHECK: Scrotes who play devils advocate 🤡Men love to comment and theorise about experiences and topics they know nothing about and will less likely have to experience themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 01:06 PM |
| 55 | “Doesn’t like men”I was curious about the statistics behind this and this is what I found: • Animal abuse from women occurs more often due to neglect rather than violence/abuse • Domestic violence and animal abuse are very closely linked. I could only find statistical data from an Ohio 2008-2011 study) but it highlighted that, Men made up 67% of animal abuse cases to the 32% women. I have reason to believe that data in most other locations will reflect the same disparity. What you’re saying is not only common sen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/21 11:36 AM |
| 32 | Should I dump himFlag parade 😂😂😂 thanks so much for commenting! Consider him gone | /r/askFDS | 14/03/21 06:15 AM |
| 31 | Should I dump himI’ve distanced myself quite a lot after these incidents so I don’t feel too sad about it. Thank you so very much for your kind words | /r/askFDS | 14/03/21 06:00 AM |
| 2 | OLD Red Flags and Field Report: Catfishing, Heightfishing, and more.My friends have noticed a pattern with height, if they’re shorter than 6’0” they will usually claim to be 6 foot exactly or 5’11. The reason being that these heights are still quite tall and they can still get you for a date, but you aren’t going to realise from their photos that they’re lying which you might if they said they were 6’2+. I’ve been on 3 dates now where they’ve said they are 6 foot or 5’11, and they’ve barely been slightly shorter than me (5’7). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 02:03 AM |
| 2 | As we all know. Dominique Sisley recently posted a wild article on FDS. Apparently she can’t take criticism either. This is what happens when you try to explain what FDS’s main purpose is.I laughed at that last sentence for a good ten minutes, you’re the real writer here 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 04:07 PM |
| 4 | Anyone notice how toxic masculinity has now become the ultimate excuse against bad male behaviour?There was a trend on Facebook a few years ago in my country where men would post a selfie and tag friends to raise awareness for Male Suicide. It was great and it reached so many people, I think every man on my friend list was participating. Same with the ALS ice bucket challenge. Raised ALOT of money and awareness. But when it’s time to talk about sexual assault, gender based issues, domestic violence, I see ZERO men participating in the conversation. No shares, no posts, no promoting other peo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 01:00 PM |
| 2 | When men lead you on...I love that! I do the same. It just pains me seeing so many other people going through this without realising it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 01:18 AM |
| 4 | Men Always blame women for everything, including toxic masculinity. It is laughable easy to prove them wrong. This guy whining about toxic masculinity on Vice twitter and then he literally has this posted on his own Twitter. They really do tell on themselves. Sir, you are a part of the problem!A lot of toxic masculinity comes from a fear of femininity, you’re so right | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 03:53 PM |
| 25 | 6pm curfew for men suggested by Green Party, views?Most of the police are the men we are trying to protect ourselves from unfortunately, so I don’t see them wanting to enforce a curfew or caring about women’s safety | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 02:58 AM |
| 3 | Krystyna Paszko created a fake online shop for cosmetics that actually connects women with DV resourcesI was going to post this here because this (wonderful) woman and her invention was posted on a popular subreddit recently and all the top comments were “jokes” about domestic violence against women. I don’t know why I’m even surprised anymore I should probably just expect it of Reddit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 02:46 PM |
| 4 | Donna Meagle and Leslie Knope from Parks and RecreationThis is a great post!! Parks and Rec is just such a wonderful show. Funny, clever and so wholesome. I cried when the last episode aired ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 01:07 PM |
| 8 | Dating Red Flags to Watch Out For: Submarining and Temperature ReadingI went on a date with a guy and slept with him (pre-FDS). I never heard from him again. 5 months later he text me, saying “oh shit, I didn’t realise I never messaged you haha”. His genius tactic was to blame ME because HE thought that he sent me a message that I didn’t reply to. I was shocked but I shouldn’t have been. Absolute trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 12:08 PM |
| 3 | I have decided to abandon my “situationship”Just want to say I’m really proud of you. I know how hard it is to walk away from a situationship especially as a woman when you have everyone in your ear telling you that you need a relationship (even a terrible one) to be worth something. My messages are open if you need support! | /r/askFDS | 04/03/21 05:19 AM |
| 4 | I guess this is my cue to delete bumble cuz I’ve finally seen it allReport him for using someone else’s photos if you are still able to. What a fucking idiot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 02:06 PM |
| 13 | Why can’t men quietly enjoy things?LMAO | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 09:08 AM |
| 7 | What is the opposite of the Cool Girl?I second the commenter who says “the bitch” is the opposite of the cool girl. I know I feel like a bitch when I’m challenging patriarchal ideals, and I think people make you out to be a bitch too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 04:47 PM |
| 5 | Communication IS NOT keySo so true. You shouldn’t have to beg someone to try to understand you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/21 06:50 AM |
| 49 | Communication IS NOT keyGod this subreddit makes me feel so sane. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 10:27 AM |
| 17 | Low value man - cause of anxiety?Hi! I have mild anxiety that affects me in day to day life, but it is mostly manageable with a few major flare ups per year. When I’m in dating situations similar to yours, my anxiety gets bad to the point where I am almost unable to function. I definitely think these kind of avoidant men can trigger anxiety so you aren’t alone. I find once I break up with them, take care of myself and have time to heal my anxiety goes back to being bearable. Feel free to message me if you need to talk, I’ve bee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 08:12 AM |
| 43 | Why “as long as it’s consensual” is a shitty argument for BDSM/abuse kinkA lot of people (men particularly) still think consent is as simple as yes = consent and no = no consent. What they fail to do is look at the circumstances around consent in sexual settings and look for things like coercion, past trauma, intimidation etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 08:05 AM |
| 59 | Communication IS NOT keyPreach! When I was younger especially I used to fall for those “inspirational” quotes or memes that placed immense importance on communication and being good at communicating. While it is important to know how to do so, communication with someone who is committed to misunderstanding you or taking advantage of you, is absolutely useless and you’re better off preserving your energy and moving on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 07:19 AM |
| 8 | Communication IS NOT keyYou are so welcome! Hope it’s helpful | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/21 05:47 AM |
| 4 | How men/society shifts the goalposts when it comes to explaining why women get treated badly in romantic relationships, and how it lets men off the hook.I’m sorry to you to. It’s very evil. Knowing he was doing it behind my back to hurt me even after I’d blocked him was the worst, but I’m much stronger now. It’s a shame that they can’t see past the illusion of misogyny, male validation is never worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 02:52 PM |
| 9 | How men/society shifts the goalposts when it comes to explaining why women get treated badly in romantic relationships, and how it lets men off the hook.I was used for sex once by someone I was dating. One day I found out my best friend was talking to him behind my back. She claimed it was all friendly & innocent but even so, she was engaging with someone who had manipulated me and destroyed my mental health. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 02:43 PM |
| 8 | I need to get it out in a safe spaceI’m so sorry. I’m going through the same so feel free to send me a message anytime ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 03:08 AM |
| 5 | For the ladies interested in investing — an example of a well diversified share market portfolio I found <3I posted in female level up strategy a while ago and created a discord! The link is https://discord.gg/thXXXTEQ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 06:10 AM |
| 27 | What’s the right response to a dick pic that you didn’t really ask for?Agree with all the comments saying to block and delete. If a man came up to you in the street and whipped it out he’d be arrested. Men seem to think that the anonymity of the internet makes sexual harassment acceptable. I’m sorry you had to see / go through that. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 12:20 PM |
| 10 | Just a reminder: if a man is rude or stereotypes women from his own race, bet he will also mistreat you.If he’s racist, sexist, ableist etc. he clearly doesn’t care about other people so why would he care about you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 05:31 AM |
| 14 | No questions. Blocked 🙅🏻♀️🚫Period, point, blank 💅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 11:20 AM |
| 7 | Slow FadeThe slow fade is essentially emotional manipulation so while we can protect ourselves as best we can, but let’s not place the blame on people that don’t know any better or make a mistake because it happens. I think the younger generation have it really tough as well, most have been fed lib-fem nonsense through social media since they were really young. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 04:03 PM |
| 2 | Slow FadeI am grateful I get to use these experiences to inform my future. Hopefully this is useful on here as well ❤️ don’t want other women making the same mistakes if they can help it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 03:44 PM |
| 7 | Men on dating apps looking for casual sex:Period! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 03:33 PM |
| 11 | Slow FadeI was secretly hoping that this post wouldn’t resonate with anyone and I just encountered one shitty sociopath. I’m sorry you went through that! I hope we can all use this experience as a guide for the future ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 03:33 PM |
| 14 | Slow FadeHe did I ran into them when I was out LOL | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 09:53 AM |
| 9 | Slow FadeThis is less for women that have been on FDS for a while and more for lurkers or younger women that are still unlearning being a pick me. It’s easier than you think to fall into the trap of putting all your eggs in one basket particularly if you have been told by society that your one goal and purpose is to have a relationship. I know I used to be willing to put up with nonsense just so I could say I had a boyfriend. I agree with you though! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 07:34 AM |
| 4 | Slow FadeI’m sorry this happened to you! I’m glad it resonated though, hopefully we can all recognise the signs in the future although it’s so hard to catch.❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:29 AM |
| 28 | Slow FadeI think you’re right unfortunately. What I want people to take from this more than anything is that if this happens it is not your fault & your feelings are valid. When it happened to me I was quick to label myself as silly or crazy for being so upset over a ‘situationship’ even though they were clearly intentionally using me. I hope they stop this shit in the future | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 10:12 PM |
| 38 | Slow FadeThat’s awful, same thing happened to me. It’s particularly cruel because they can claim to other people that you were never officially dating and what they were doing wasn’t wrong. Truly evil behaviour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 10:11 PM |
| 48 | Slow FadeIt was similar for me. We met on a dating app and once we met up in person it was constant messaging and compliments. The second I’d leave his side we’d be messaging & he was always talking about how much he liked me, how beautiful he thought I was etc. One day there was no good morning text and my anxiety went crazy. Then I only heard from him once in a very vague snapchat and I felt physically ill. Then he disappeared entirely. Overall just a very hurtful experience that could’ve been avoided … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 10:09 PM |
| 16 | Rubbing his adoration for porn stars in my faceThat is quite a large gap which might be contributing to the power imbalance. That behaviour is completely unacceptable and if he’d rather fawn over a porn star than have an actual, wonderful girl then let him. You’re too good for this. Good luck ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 26/01/21 03:12 PM |
| 61 | What's with the spreading of complete lies about fds?FDS is a massive threat to the patriarchy because we take away the power from men in one of the most important societal areas that they dominate which is marriage and dating. People aren’t going to accept FDS as long as we live in a patriarchal society and Liberal feminism is going to be seen as the only acceptable form of feminism because it is palatable & watered down to secretly benefit men. People are going to stay mad but we have to just keep doing what we’re doing, for the benefit of our o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 02:53 PM |
| 17 | Why do we seem to take rejection more personally than men?Rumpelstiltskin 😂😂😂🤣 | /r/askFDS | 21/01/21 12:58 PM |
| 75 | Why do we seem to take rejection more personally than men?I think it might come down to women being socialised to base their self worth on having a man / keeping a man so when we are rejected or “fail” at this, it feels like we are fundamentally flawed. Whereas men are socialised to sow their rolled oats as they please so rejection is seen as a bump in the road because they know their will be more to come in the future. I struggle with this so much so I’m glad you brought it up! | /r/askFDS | 21/01/21 12:15 PM |
| 3 | Internet pushing me to do porn?!There’s a few popular creators that do make a lot but they are the minority is what I’m saying. However they advertise their lifestyle and it makes people think that sex work is a great option (I nearly fell for it) but as discussed on here it’s not a good road to go down | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 10:20 AM |
| 712 | This is nice but if you’re on a date at Hooters it’s already not going well.A lot of bars where I live have this exact same code word and system. They only put them in the female bathrooms as far as I know so that says a lot about the way women have to be alert and anticipate trouble on dates and out in public. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 04:25 AM |
| 21 | Proud of myselfI am extremely proud of you, and I guarantee you will feel good in this decision for a very long time. Way to go 💐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 02:09 PM |
| 8 | Why friends with benefits is rarely a good ideaPrecisely. This guy used me for so much emotional support that I now need therapy. He projected his issues onto me and it went as far as him confiding in me about suicide plans and of course I was “the only one he told”. But when I wanted reassurance or emotional support I was shut down. So despicable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 01:53 PM |
| 11 | Why friends with benefits is rarely a good ideaYes!!! I had a FWB who specifically referred to me as his FWB, but he threw a fit when I referred to him as a friend or what we had as a friendship. He was infuriated that I’d even say that because I think he wanted the absolute least amount of commitment or labelling possible and if I called him a friend it would mean him actually treating me as a person. Wild | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 01:15 PM |
| 8 | Why friends with benefits is rarely a good ideaI would like to add that I think a big part of the imbalance in FWB relationships is women are socialised to want a relationship. We are basically told our entire worth & existence is dependant on having a relationship so that can add to why women would commitment more. How I wish I saw this post/community when I was younger because I fell for the “casual and FWB is better” rhetoric so hard. I used to spend hours researching how to oppress my emotions so I would be able to engage in casual relat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 01:11 PM |
| 3 | Asking for advice on Reddit hurts and confuses womenThis reminds me of the book ‘the girl on the train’. For those who haven’t read it the narrator of the story for most of the book reminisces on her violent and abusive behaviour due to alcoholism. Toward the end of the book it is revealed that her ex husband was abusing and gaslighting her and she was the victim all along. People will always jump to conclusions especially to villainise women. I’m sorry this happened to you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 02:13 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, how much do men you date tend to spend on you, per month, during the early phase?He thinks because they are exclusive he can stop courting her. I hope she dumps him for someone better 🗣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 06:16 AM |
| 6 | Advice for Finding Quality Female Friends? & Leveling Up In General Before Attempting to Date?I just want to congratulate you on ending things with those 5 men that weren’t treating you to your standards, that’s incredibly strong of you to do as well as recognising why you don’t want that kind of relationship. That is tough that you can’t afford therapy. I was in a similar position so I took to online communities such as the anxiety subreddit as well as self help books (really recommended what a time to be alone by Chidera Eggerue). These are not substitutes for therapy but they can be a… | /r/askFDS | 04/01/21 03:17 PM |
| 5 | Did I do the right thing?In the early dating stages, talking to you is a privilege and if they don’t utilise that privilege to ask you on thoughtful dates and treat you with respect, it gets taken away. You did the right thing! Proud of you ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 03/01/21 06:43 AM |
| 5 | My shopping haul from today, featuring my two cat sons (left cat has been known to attack guys I date when they don't respect his boundaries or he gets a bad vibe from them). I've been single for 2 months now after dating an LVM and I'm spoiling and treating myself in ways he never did!Your cats are so sweet!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/21 04:57 AM |
| 2 | Radical feminism on social mediaChidera was a client of Imani and allgeadlly stole content from her :( I was so torn because I love them both | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 02:54 PM |
| 1 | Radical feminism on social mediaI forgot Imani because her and Chidera aren’t on good terms. I love both of them and their work however!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 11:08 AM |
| 6 | Radical feminism on social mediaPrecisely | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 04:22 AM |
| 12 | Need reassurance I made the right choiceFirstly, thank you so much! It took a lot of courage. I absolutely agree with that, and there is still some healing I need to do because I should have blocked on moved on. I have anxiety and had some friends in my ear assuring me that he was just busy and probably was “scared I wasn’t into him” so I fell for that rhetoric and decided to reach out. Thank you for your wisdom ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 29/12/20 03:23 PM |
| 15 | If a man says they are ______. They aren't.I dated a man that said “I love independent women” after I called him out for putting me down based on my age. He was 26 and I was 20, and as independent as I am I was still much younger with much less experience or ability to understand he was emotionally abusing me. I guarantee he only pulls in girls he can manipulate because no independent, strong woman would want his abusive ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/20 04:36 PM |
| 6 | Just broke up!I am so proud of you! I agree with the comment saying to make a list of why you left, you can refer to it in doubt. I also like to compile a folder of inspirational quotes/images to refer to when I’m feeling sad. Eat good food and drink lots of water. Do things that make you happy and honour your emotions, good and bad. One day you will look back at this time and smile because you will have moved on. You’ve got this ❤️❤️ | /r/askFDS | 28/12/20 02:10 AM |
| 9 | Being dickmatized doesn’t exist. A majority of women think sex with a toxic man is so great because what they’re experiencing is actually trauma bonding. Water tastes like heaven when you’ve been thirsty for days.I had a fwb that was mean and emotionally abusive. Sex was the only time that I was experiencing any kind of positive dialogue and touch from him so of course I went around saying that it was the best sex I’ve ever had. I also felt addicted and it was a massive struggle to overcome that feeling and leave but it was worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 07:22 AM |
| 13 | I turned down someone I really liked thanks to FDS.I’m so grateful this resonated with you! I think he was a nice person and I did really like him, but I found myself enjoying the time I spent before going on dates with him more enjoyable. I felt happier in the lead up doing my makeup or getting a coffee by myself so I just realised very naturally that it’s likely I just really love myself & was projecting that love onto him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 07:13 AM |
| 12 | Just because he respects or has a good relationship with some women in his life does not mean he’s a hvm.I recently fell for the “well he treats his sister well so he must be high value”. You’re bang on here!! Brilliant observation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 07:02 AM |
| 6 | I turned down someone I really liked thanks to FDS.Bless you! ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 06:00 AM |
| 9 | I turned down someone I really liked thanks to FDS.I look forward to rejecting many more men that have nothing to offer me! Thank you so much ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:41 AM |
| 3 | I turned down someone I really liked thanks to FDS.Thank you so much, proud of you too ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:41 AM |
| 3 | I turned down someone I really liked thanks to FDS.Thank you!!!! ❤️❤️💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:40 AM |
| 4 | I turned down someone I really liked thanks to FDS.I appreciate that! Thank you so much ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:40 AM |
| 16 | I turned down someone I really liked thanks to FDS.You’d be correct! He never straight up said he never wanted to be with me and only wanted casual sex/attention, I had to re read it so many times to understand what he meant. He basically said in a very long paragraph, he liked me a lot and wanted to keep seeing me, but he didn’t see it becoming serious or being able to have a committed relationship with me. It was very confusing and at first read I thought it meant he was having a hard time but still wanted to be with me. My friends saw right t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:39 AM |
| 9 | I turned down someone I really liked thanks to FDS.The main reason I decided to walk away, was I could either feel the pain now and move on, or continue the casual relationship and feel the pain later. ❤️ thank you for the response | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:34 AM |
| 6 | I turned down someone I really liked thanks to FDS.Thank you! Hope you step into it soon ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:00 AM |
| 6 | I turned down someone I really liked thanks to FDS.Thank you so much!!❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/12/20 02:00 AM |
| 31 | That's why don't do girlfriend /wifey things for your fbwAbsolutely! Sorry I misread the title. Great message 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 02:17 PM |
| 143 | That's why don't do girlfriend /wifey things for your fbwOr better yet don’t have a fwb 💐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Texting response times?This could definitely be the case. When things ended the first time I did express that it was a bit too intense and he was aware of that. Thank you for your response! | /r/askFDS | 19/12/20 11:21 PM |
| 2 | Texting response times?Wow this is such a thoughtful response thank you!! I completely agree, that is so reassuring thank you. Good luck to you too lovely ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 19/12/20 11:20 PM |
| 0 | Texting response times?Hi! He works a labour job yes, and even on weekends or days off he still takes longer than 5 hours to respond. But! When we are together he barely touches his phone if that, and he claims to be spending time with family/friends or needing to sleep due to the job when he finally gets back to me. I still feel like it takes 5 seconds to type a quick response. I’m a little confused because he otherwise seems interested and we do have a date scheduled. I am thinking that after the dinner I will be ab… | /r/askFDS | 19/12/20 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Translation “how dare attractive women want to date someone as attractive as them AND be treated like a human being beyond their good looks.”Forgot to add that most men will never date down and will scoff at the thought, yet they want to destroy women for having the absolute nerve to want an attractive guy, who is probably her equal looks wise. Okay luv | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 11:34 AM |
| 3 | Wait...isn’t Torey Lanez the guy that shot Megan? (I don’t even follow pop culture that closely) Why do I feel “crazy” right now?My heart hurt so badly for her after the incident. How traumatic AND she had to walk out of the car, after being shot in the feet, over to the police to explain what happened. I really hope she only has good people around now & has healed. I hope Tory burns in hell for what he did. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/20 05:21 AM |
| 6 | Wait...isn’t Torey Lanez the guy that shot Megan? (I don’t even follow pop culture that closely) Why do I feel “crazy” right now?He did shoot her, I read that it was because she rejected him (may need to be confirmed) and he shot her in the feet which is extremely malicious when you consider that Megan is a dancer/performer. No one should be supporting Tory. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:59 PM |
| 7 | Have you guys read this? "Unattractive women need FDS"What ageist moron wrote this article, why would they not have had a woman write an article about a woman’s space / women’s issues? Probably because she wouldn’t have reduced an entire 100’000 person community to being old and ugly... Christ. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:52 PM |
| 2 | Mom is a pickmeisha - please help me learn to forgive her and prepare for the worst.I know it’s not on the same level, but recently it hit me that mother is a massive pick me. I realised I can either cut her off and leave, or set a boundary and accept her for who she is. I chose the latter because luckily she is a wonderful person outside of her terrible dating advice but I could relate to your struggle as I sometimes am the one helping her solve her problems. Hope you take care ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 06:23 AM |
| 2 | Mom is a pickmeisha - please help me learn to forgive her and prepare for the worst.I don’t have much advice, but I just wanted to say I’m sorry you had to grow up and experience that. You sound like a profound person to have overcome that to complete University and forgive your mother. I do agree with the people saying to cut her off, perhaps you could set a boundary by moving out and living elsewhere. It might be possible to still have a relationship with her then without being her parent. You sound very strong and I hope you find happiness ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 02:05 PM |
| 9 | I FINALLY BROKE UP WITH MY EX!!!!So happy for you, may you have all the happiness in the world 💕💕💕💕💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 01:25 PM |
| 15 | Being a good husband is now called "simping"It’s a way for men to shame other men that potentially treat women well so that the bar isn’t raised all round, so women continue to be starved and therefore more likely to accept crumbs of respect. They couldn’t anticipate that we don’t need them lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 12:43 PM |
| 264 | Being a good husband is now called "simping"I hate that word so fucking much. I dated someone for a while who would treat me like shit and then say it was because he didn’t want to be a simp anymore. It’s pathetic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 01:39 AM |
| 2 | She quit faking orgasms, now husband refuses to even TRY sexA lot of them just don’t care. Bless the ones who do communicate though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/20 01:37 AM |
| 6 | She quit faking orgasms, now husband refuses to even TRY sexRight! You’re telling me you watch porn 7 days a week and don’t have any clue what to do? I’m not buying it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 02:55 PM |
| 79 | She quit faking orgasms, now husband refuses to even TRY sexI’ve seen so many posts that blame women for faking, and blame them for not “teaching” their boyfriend/partner and claim they’re robbing the next girl because the guy is too entitled to use google or learn anything for himself. Yet every woman I know has been constantly told what they should being doing to please men (I.e accept choking or hair pulling). What crack are some people on, truly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 03:18 AM |
| 15 | LVM/NVM thinks gift cards are an acceptable gift for GF. Thread is full of neckbeards defending him/telling her to cOmMunIcAte her needs to him.Those comments are atrocious. I fell for that way of thinking for SO many years. I thought that men’s behaviour should be excused always, and women should take the blame for them. It’s so so harmful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 03:10 AM |
| 14 | Sex with a NarcissistI’ve been in a super similar situation where I was on a date and we had sort of eluded to sleeping together after but I changed my mind and told him to drop me home. When driving me home he deliberately missed the turn off to my house and pulled into a dark driveway at a beach and asked to kiss. He then said we should have sex in the car which I refused. I eventually agreed to go back to his house and have sex. It’s very confusing and because I did consent I was very confused for a long time abo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:33 PM |
| 433 | This RIDICULOUS New Yorker Cover is SUPPOSED TO BE an accurate reflection of today's modern woman and her love life. The cover is called " Love Life" and the illustrator's name is Adrian Tomine...Is this not what every mans room/house looks like?? On a good day too??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 01:23 PM |
| 5 | He asked me to split the bill on our 3rd dateI went on a date where the payment for dinner was a huge contention. He messaged me the day before in a sweat over who was going to pay even though he had asked me to dinner. My best friend joked and said “you’re basically taking yourself out to dinner if you pay, except you have to share it with some loser😹”. We go on the date and again he makes a huge deal about splitting the payment. This was pre FDS so I agreed to split it. I have him my cash and went to the bathroom and when I returned he h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/20 03:07 PM |
| 3 | How to deal with a pick me mother & inconsiderate brotherMy brother had a spout with drugs as well. Surprisingly they held him very accountable and he is clean now for some time. Funny how when it’s drugs it’s a huge deal because it affects him and them, but when I bring up concerns about our living space no one cares because it only affects me and they don’t want to push him. | /r/askFDS | 25/11/20 01:21 AM |
| 4 | How to deal with a pick me mother & inconsiderate brotherI appreciate this. I am looking at moving out at the moment but I’m afraid to do so because of money. I will definitely start taking photos so when I do move out I can’t be blamed for “overreacting”. Thank you so much for your kind comment | /r/askFDS | 24/11/20 10:46 PM |
| 28 | Okay do these posts piss anyone else off? The same couple of incidents are reposted to make it seem like it happens all the time, and everyone in the comments are more pissed off than if an actual rape occurred.So glad this has been brought up here. I see maybe 3 or 4 posts per day online about false rape accusations, usually posted by men. How many posts do I see from men supporting female rape victims and advocating for them? Absolutely none. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 01:26 PM |
| 19 | Is this behaviour ok?So true! Thank you | /r/askFDS | 18/11/20 05:47 AM |
| 16 | Ghosts returningThat’s true, I’ll keep this in mind thank you | /r/askFDS | 14/11/20 07:53 AM |
| 0 | Incel, Feminism and FDS megathreadWomen are disproportionately pressured into spending a lot of time and money on appearance though? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/20 07:24 AM |
| 1 | My horrific experience with a manWow you sound like an absolute legend and I love to hear it!!! It was the same in my experience. He would constantly compliment my beauty but it would always be followed up with “why do you like me then” and “you’re so beautiful why do you choose me” and “why don’t you have a boyfriend yet”. I follow r/ seduction and it’s honestly the saddest thing I’ve ever seen. | /r/askFDS | 06/11/20 01:02 AM |
| 1 | My horrific experience with a manWow! Honestly same here, he would only talk about past exes / fwb’s. Such weirdo behaviour and I regret all the time I spend listening. Definitely to get a reaction. I don’t think men like that can get female attention without manipulation. Glad you got rid of him! | /r/askFDS | 05/11/20 03:01 PM |
| 56 | One Red Flag is Too Many For Methis! lazy or malicious they’re both bad 😒 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 10:39 AM |
| 2 | My horrific experience with a manWow that is absolutely horrible. You sound like such a strong person and I hope you are nothing but happy now! Thank you so much for your lovely comment, I am feeling better but it will take some work. Same to you :) | /r/askFDS | 05/11/20 01:14 AM |
| 3 | Ladies he wants to split the bills and might even make you a HARD BOILED EGG 🥺🤗🥚😮Dipshyt is correct 😹 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 04:57 AM |
| 6 | My horrific experience with a manThank you for those kind words! Same to you :) | /r/askFDS | 03/11/20 10:55 PM |
| 55 | My horrific experience with a manI’d like to add that my mental health was so fried that I was walking around constantly triggered. I was so anxious I would cry and i would have to listen to podcasts at night to calm myself down. I wasn’t living. Please put yourself first and move far far away from these horrible men | /r/askFDS | 03/11/20 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Comment here to become an approved userRequest to comment | /r/askFDS | 03/11/20 02:08 PM |
| 11 | How do you ladies navigate living in a world that glorifies pickme behavior?Brilliantly put 🙌 I definitely used to have the lack mindset but FDS has helped me move away from that | /r/askFDS | 28/10/20 02:47 PM |
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