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No! I still haven’t managed to initiate the pre date calls or video calls. The concept is so foreign to me! I literally never have phone calls with guys unless we are in long term relationships. I need to work on this but I find it bizarre to transfer from msg to call or to initiate the pre date call! Advice on this is also welcome...
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Yeah I wouldnt really call that ‘advice’. Not sure what exactly the point of a message like that is. Perhaps you could have tried to share your approach to phone calls or something? I find this to be not very constructive in comparison to the usual FDS community vibe.
It’s not a lack of confidence and I have no issue in managing my Queen energy with men. I don’t like phone calls in general in life with men or women, platonic or romantic.
I also don’t think the phone call is necessarily going to make that much of a difference to my vetting anyway. All the guys I’m on dates with are smart and interesting, good jobs, have their shit together etc. This would all come across fine on a 15 minute phone conversation. What I can’t get from this is the kind of chemistry that only comes from meeting someone in person.
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