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LIES MEN TELLsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 02:24 PM
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REMINDER 👑socalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 04:12 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 04:57 PM
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MOOD FOR LIFEsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 06:45 AM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCEsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:18 PM
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STRATEGYsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 01:01 AM
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FDS MEMESsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 04:19 AM
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socalqueenofcheese/r/askFDS04/09/21 03:38 PM
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LESSON LEARNEDsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:17 AM
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QUEEN SH*Tsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/20 10:45 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 07:35 PM
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LEVEL UPsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:39 AM
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SEEKING ADVICEsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:10 AM
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How-To High Valuesocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 01:35 PM
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DISCUSSIONsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 01:42 PM
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SEX STRATEGYsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:56 PM
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NAH, SISsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 04:04 AM
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SEX STRATEGYsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 02:54 PM
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SEEKING ADVICEsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 10:32 PM
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MINDSET SHIFTsocalqueenofcheese/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/20 03:02 PM
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I think the most you can do is when you see him again mention a restaurant you'd like to try and see if he bites. "Like I've heard xyz is so delicious, have you tried it? I'd really like to go." See where it goes from there. If he doesn't ask you out with that gentle nudge he is either too dumb or has a girlfriend.
/r/askFDS03/04/22 05:19 AM
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🤮 And he was working so Enterprise and she probably leveled up his career so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/22 10:57 PM
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Preach!! 🙌 Hero talk right here! ☝️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 04:37 PM
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Exactly! I just broke it off with someone exactly like this! Is that the God Complex you think? Like yeah we had some good spiritual times but can you do laundry and pay your bills too? 🙃🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 04:35 PM
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Talk to themselves 🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:12 PM
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This is something to think about!!! Very interesting and so relevant to my personal dating life. Thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:11 PM
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🙌 💙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:09 PM
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This is such an interesting observation and I think you're onto something. These city boys have carefully observed what gets them laid fast...we are onto them though. Now I want a simple country man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 05:42 AM
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And! If you ask them to ACTUALLY self examine; perhaps even therapy to figure out their shit before they figure out the world. How dare you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 03:53 AM
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And..."that doesn't really apply to everyone" lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 03:51 AM
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Lol!! I actually had the thought "how do I dumb fox this?" Thanks for the advice! 🏆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 03:50 AM
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My kindred spirit. We have had similar paths. OMG if another man I'm interested in says they are going to write a book I'm done. I have never heard of the theory of psychedelics inflating the echo with people who have personality disorders....Although this totally makes sense as they already have synopsis misfiring. Toxic positivity is real and noping out early of that is key. Happy to hear I have a friend that deals with this too. Thank you for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/22 02:02 AM
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This makes an interesting point. Sadly I was married to a man that I'm not sure he even liked me; looking back on it. I was just his version of a trophy wife. I think we all deserve to be with someone we find attractive but the disparity in genders is stark.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 03:57 AM
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Damn. This is the straight truth!!! 🔥🔥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/22 12:00 AM
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Well this is awesome! I love cats too!! ☺💙
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/22 02:14 PM
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Thank you for the education! 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 10:41 PM
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You're right! I just screenshot it as I thought it was sad/funny. Had no idea it was incel 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 10:40 PM
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Thank you for sharing! I'm getting educated today. Love it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 10:39 PM
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Snap I didn't even notice. 🤦‍♀️ Oops big time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 10:38 PM
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I figured it was bullshit but damn it sure feels like the chances are that low.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/22 10:36 PM
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Men always make it sexual. Practice flirting IRL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/22 07:29 AM
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I do not see this as a problem if, as you stated, it seems he is acting accordingly everywhere else. He is treating you (hopefully) like a grownup capable of driving home safely. Additionally, I think this can be a demographic thing. Where I used to live/when I was younger. This was standard. Now where I live and I'm older this just doesn't happen. With that said; bad weather or something like that....I could see that being a red flag. I'd say if everything else is lining up; this is minor. Or h…
/r/askFDS25/02/22 12:17 AM
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From personal experience and speaking with professional on this matter. Stay out of it. It was a one off, it was a kiss. You may lose your both friends out of it and cause a lot of unnecessary heartache. Encourage your friend to be honest with herself about why she cheated. That will yield the best results. Good luck.
/r/askFDS10/10/21 03:25 PM
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It is like you stepped into my previous marriage and took notes. Thank you for helping us to articulate these traumas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 11:28 PM
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Phew! I was worried there for a sec. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/21 01:22 PM
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Just to clarify. You're not going on date 5 correct?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/21 11:19 PM
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Damn. I'd give this the truth award. 👑👑👑👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:49 AM
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True and maybe....buttttttt....this has happened, enough times. THIS time in particular I just didn't have the emotional bandwidth to placate to his feelings before my own. Anddddd. Crickets from him. Not a text or a call. ⛔
/r/askFDS06/09/21 01:37 AM
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Well said. Excactly. Show up as a good man or don't bother.
/r/askFDS05/09/21 05:27 PM
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This is so true but also the shit part. He has helped me. There for me, not always when I need him, but definitely more often then almost any other man I've been with. It is absolutely INCREDULOUS TO ME how he could fuck up this weekend. He knew how crazy it has been for me. Incredibly selfish...sorry mini rant there
/r/askFDS05/09/21 01:31 PM
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My friend you are right on. His response was No, lets get you to dinner (passive aggressive/manipulation
/r/askFDS05/09/21 05:07 AM
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Sound advice about when it happens.
/r/askFDS05/09/21 05:05 AM
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You're right. Thank you for replying and concise words. Happy day to you 👑
/r/askFDS04/09/21 08:33 PM
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Your message made me happy and made me laugh. Thank you for your 👸👑 response. Much love and respect.
/r/askFDS04/09/21 08:32 PM
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💙🥰
/r/askFDS04/09/21 08:31 PM
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But..AITA (am I the asshole?)
/r/askFDS04/09/21 04:55 PM
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Has to be a joke. Chicks this desperate cannot spell.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 03:31 AM
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This! 👆👆👆👏👏👏
/r/askFDS11/08/21 10:35 PM
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Every. Single. Time. I read your posts it is a mini-education. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and time with us all.
/r/askFDS07/07/21 11:54 PM
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You said it. He is an asshole. Who cares about the rest. Let it go girl. Block him. Level up. Best of luck.
/r/askFDS19/05/21 01:09 PM
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Love this post!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 01:44 AM
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I get it now!! Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:52 PM
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I don't get this comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 04:51 PM
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Corporate gaslighting on point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 06:51 PM
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Lol!!! Do they have no updates bc of fucking lurkers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 08:38 PM
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Nice you have the self love and work! Surely you know the quote. "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time." Maya Angelou Pay attention. Learn to call things out as you see them (in a respectful way of course bc sometimes we lash out bc of our own shit). Keep FDS'ing the shit out of him. Sending love vibes to you.
/r/askFDS05/04/21 04:40 AM
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I'm going to be gentle because I'm pretending you are my mom (who is dipping her toe into dating pool after decades of bad relationships. So I feel you. 1 YOU. HAVENT. MET. THIS MAN YET. You know absolutely nothing about him. You are trying to figure "him" out and lady friend, this is not where you start. ALL MEN ARE GUILTY UNTIL PROVEN INNOCENT. Saying this as tough love. You have more to learn about yourself before you wade further in into the deep end of dating. It is messy and ugly out there…
/r/askFDS05/04/21 02:41 AM
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DTMFA (Dump the mother fucking already) This is just the beginning of his bullshit. You instincts are to run. I suggest you listen.
/r/askFDS30/03/21 08:12 AM
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Absolutely. Monster was an incredibly haunting true story. I appreciated it because it was more nuanced in the abuse. Which, I believe, in our society is more common. Sure men murder, rape, and physically abuse but far more common is blaming the victim, gaslighting, outright lying, and guilty by association. Not sure if that makes sense....I LOVE a good women power shoot em' up movie but this movie personally spoke to my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 06:33 PM
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But this film is an authentic depiction of how we can push back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:55 AM
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Your bf sounds like he really cares about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:43 PM
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Well said! Thank you for sharing! I found it so interesting that even with that ending I walked out happy and empowered. I gladly paid $18 at the movies to watch this as I want theaters and movie producers to know, as a consumer, I will always pay and go see these movies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/21 01:42 PM
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She is my hero.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 03:38 PM
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For those that haven't seen it this movie can trigger. There is some violence at the end but generally just very uneasy as most (read ALL) of us have experienced some type of trauma at the hands of men. With that said. I found this movie to be extremely empowering and plan to rewatch anytime I need a reminder of lies men tell. Also for us as women to collectively push back against patriarchal bullshit. Not to mention to always keep our guard up because even "nice guys" would fucking kill us. Tak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/21 01:25 PM
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"Where are the redeeming qualities?" LOL. Gold!!!!
/r/askFDS12/03/21 04:31 AM
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Just do it darling. Every day you stay is another day wasted. You won't miss "him" you are just afraid to be alone. You will be fine, better than fine, you WILL be happy again. Break up with him immediately. Level yourself up. Just go. Run, don't walk.
/r/askFDS11/03/21 03:11 PM
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Ending the beautiful response with "Go fuck yourself". God I love this sub and am grateful for it every day. Thank you mods for all you do for us. Truly truly truly 🙏❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 05:30 AM
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Cheers to you darling! Congratulations to you and Congratulations fo your friend! Strong, successful women learning how to handle their lives. Bravo! Sending ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:38 AM
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Great post. Inspirational, life changing, AMAZING GRAMMAR!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:25 AM
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This 👆. Then you have 2 options. Immediately block and delete. Or. Bring it up. If he has anything other than I'm sorry that is fucked up. Leave. He isn't looking up these women to ask their advice. He wants to fuck them.
/r/askFDS23/02/21 04:53 AM
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Needed this. I tell myself this often.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:12 AM
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Is this your belief too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:41 PM
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Wholesome...but men...I'm just packing lingerie and basically nothing else 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:40 AM
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Omg I love her!! Almost makes me want to download tiktok and look her up. Hilarious. May we all be this fucking funny and yet serious!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 07:01 PM
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Great advice!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:58 PM
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I agree 💯! Men could turn anything into a cheating apparatus. Although I must say! I used this feature on Tinder Gold and boy did it help me sift through garbage. Only men who I wanted to see me, saw me. Not to mention my ex stalking me on every platform available. 👋👋 Hi! So this tool offered me privacy, from tools! Lol!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 05:19 PM
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This needs to go viral!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 05:04 AM
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For sure! I feel like in a HV relationship important conversations should be held face to face. Text is for pleasantries and logistics. In my personal experience this is the most HV option.
/r/askFDS15/01/21 04:55 AM
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Not to be rude but this is not good advice. FDS is all about remaining firm in our boundaries and writing a man paragraphs about how bad he sucks is definitely something any HVW knows isn't worth it. Respectfully.
/r/askFDS15/01/21 04:03 AM
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He won't "be fine". He will continue to self destruct and you will go on your merry way. Let go of any attachment to this. Who cares. You won't change him, he can't destroy your life anymore. Stop wasting energy on worrying about him and another women. Just level up. ❤🔥🙏⬆️
/r/askFDS14/01/21 03:03 PM
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Darling girl. He doesn't want you. He doesn't want you. He doesn't want you. As a previous person says. Work on your self esteem (why would you want someone that doesn't want you)? Seek therapy. Surround yourself with people that actually love you. Read books. You're begging a man that literally fucks other women instead of you to be with you. Move on. Be warned. This man will come back. He is a narcissistic lying asshole. When he has no other women around to feed the supply to his ego he will c…
/r/askFDS08/01/21 02:12 PM
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Move. You stated you wanted to. You'd "be happier" people get you. That is your intuition telling you to go and do not look back! After 2.5 years he doesn't want to marry you and wouldn't consider a move to make you happier. He sounds decent, at best. Actually. He sounds terrible. Dump him. RUN don't walk. Go!
/r/askFDS04/01/21 11:30 AM
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How can you not uninvite them? You always can. This is a very easy situation and I'm surprised you had to "Ask FDS". Uninvite. End of story.
/r/askFDS27/12/20 03:19 PM
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Not at all. Women everywhere are waking up to being objectivide. These games are projecting these unrealistic ideas of women as passive and sex dolls. Solid. He won't change. New year. New boyfriend
/r/askFDS23/12/20 06:29 AM
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This!!!!! You cannot let it destroy you too. The best way to honor your grandmother is to be the most leveled up lady you can be. Sending your grandmother healing love and may you both find peace. ❤
/r/askFDS22/12/20 02:14 PM
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👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:38 AM
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My grandmother, since passed, had a similarly remarkable man. I believe her spirit is what pulled me out of my ex NVM. She guides me. Thank you OP for this story. Made me think of my grandmother, my life, and sending love and joy to your family. Merry Christmas all you beautiful queens!☆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 03:10 AM
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It seems he is really into you and worth checking out. Sounds like he has healthy boundaries with his phone (who knows but just a thought) and maybe you are too emotionally dependent on his reply? I'd say best case is to send whatever you have to say then forget it. Assuming you aren't texting him first, in accordance with FDS. This MAY not be your case but when I was first dating my bf he would leave time between text messages and phone calls. Then once we really started to get into it the resp…
/r/askFDS19/12/20 03:05 PM
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Speaking from a mature women's experience....You actually sound like a very well balanced and healthy individual. Too many young people (definitely myself included back in the day) sexualized themselves from a young age. This was absolutely to their (my) detriment. Think, not focused on school/work. Focused on sex, fake love, and being a cool girl (me). Many of us like this had childhoods that were less than and looking for validation. You darling sound like you are absolutely focused on the cor…
/r/askFDS07/12/20 04:45 AM
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👻👻👻👻
/r/askFDS02/12/20 04:01 AM
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Get on long term birth control, IUD if you can. There are so many disturbing things in this post I don't even know where to start. I don't even think I will suffice to say immediate birth control and therapy for yourself. You're deep in the rabbit hole of self pity and abuse. Good luck to you and your child. Truly.
/r/askFDS18/11/20 05:15 PM
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This is a GIANT RED FLAG!!! You're here asking us so you obviously know it isn't ok. His response is a cop-out. However the issue is this is what you've already agreed to. So your only option is to break up with him. Don't settle for this bullshit darling. He is carrot dangling marriage. If he really loved you this is not how things would have went down. Don't walk. Run.
/r/askFDS01/11/20 06:38 PM
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Just stop giving a shit what other people think. The people that matter, matter. The ones that don't. I personally don't try to teach anyone NOT to be a pick me. I just live it and maybe I'll inspire.
/r/askFDS28/10/20 10:43 PM
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Keep us posted on the website! We want to support our queens!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:40 AM
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Jesus. This story is so similar to my own. Happy leveling up to both of us!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 03:38 AM
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And...Not to say I don't love your "board"....I stopped to look bc it is my life re-invented after a LVM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:55 PM
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Truth!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:54 PM
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I'd call it advice and to me, in FDS world, the queens should give direct advice. I, personally, love that about this community. Personally, I've found, video chats and phone calls save me precious time, even if it just shows how much effort he is willing to make. Good luck to you out in dating land--although it seems you don't need it as "ALL" the men you date are so smart and together. 😊
/r/askFDS18/09/20 01:40 PM
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Lol. Gold. 👸🧡
/r/askFDS18/09/20 01:34 PM
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This!!!!
/r/askFDS18/09/20 01:28 PM
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There is so much wrong here I don't even know where to begin and I won't waste my time. Read. The. Handbook. Grow yourself. Seek therapy. Level the fuck up. (Said with love💗).
/r/askFDS17/09/20 03:34 AM
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Not to sound harsh....but it may....if you're not confident enough or comfortable enough to politely request this then you are confident enough to date. Just saying. Work on your queen energy first. Then seek
/r/askFDS17/09/20 03:31 AM
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Yup. What my brilliant therapists says verbatim. This is great advice.
/r/askFDS17/09/20 03:22 AM
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Approval please if the queens allow it! 👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 04:37 PM
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Definitely following this as I'm hoping for a few sleeper movies. Although I have to say as a mom of a little girl Frozen II is surprisingly HV. Two strong women dependent only on their strength. The man in the picture is unconditionally supportive and introspective. Just saying. A strong movie even if you don't have kiddos. 😉
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:05 PM
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👸💯🧡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:34 AM
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I'm going to re-read this a few times so it really sinks down deep. When I re-read my post (a time or 2) I had the inkling I was missing something major in my post. Ie, you hit it. I'm giving him too many "outs" due to respectful tendencies and not holding him accountable for ensuring me of our exclusivity. I've definitely been "available" although I still stick to FDS once a week maybe 2 rarely. Back burner is easy this week as my friends are knocking... Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 04:16 AM
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Your ability to articulate these things is a true gift!! Thank you for sharing that gift with me. I am thinking about waiting a few weeks and if the right time presents itself to say I'm re-thinking my stance comes naturally that may be a great option. Thinking more clearly on it (thank you FDS community) I'm definitely thinking it is that 3 month window where it is a stay or go situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:54 AM
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I loved reading your insight as each individual person and situation is so different. I would absolutely not have been ready 3 weeks or 5 dates in. I likely would have thought he was future faking or moving too fast. To each their own I guess. Good food for thought though. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:49 AM
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Absolutely awesome advice and much appreciated 👸. Mistakes were made in the beginning by me and my (recovering) "cool chick" declarations. Absolutely brilliant advice about sending mixed signals. He has been so freaking on point and has absolutely pivoted if I so much as breath a sigh of discontent. His actions continue to show he is committed. I'm likely the wild card at this point. How do I easily and lightly broach the topic that I'm interested in GF status?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:39 AM
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Totally 💯. However my only thing that makes me think he isn't bullshit is he is 100% about respect and has shown this AT. EVERY. TURN. On the daily. Like he is a bit older than me and I'm almost 38, I think he'd laugh at the thought of seeing other women because he has been so obviously committed to me. Ya know? Like does it ALWAYS need to be said? His actions are always on point with respect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 01:32 AM
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Yeah I definitely dropped the ball there. I guess I didn't expect to meet someone in OLD that I actually click with. I am still in active recovery as a cool girl. Ugh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:45 AM
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I think your post is creating a wider (bigger than you) discussion on HVW and material things. I would try not to take it personally as there is a lot of good information here. I can definitely see how you'd feel attacked though. My advice (if you give a crap) is just brush it off and look at how all of these amazing women, including yourself, is leveling up. 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 02:56 PM
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👏👏👏👏 Once more for the ladies in the back! Actually for me right here! Lol. This is exactly it. Spotting those red flags because those things don't impress. What does impress is authenticity, being able to make it in the world, kindess, sense of humor, constantly leveling up, and on and on! Well said. You're killing it queen. Congratulations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 02:51 PM
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Damn. This screams of truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 02:47 PM
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Exactly fuckly. So much of this post was spent talking about the insane amount of cash she will spend to look amazing. Maybe OP owns a home, etrade account, healthy savings, and a solid education. If not, sorry (not sorry) but a pickmeisha in recovery that has relapsed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 05:05 AM
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Literally no women with self respect has an answer for this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 04:52 AM
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Happy birthday week!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 12:37 PM
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Do you actually tell the guys, I'm not going to message you back for X days? This seems off to me. An example would be, you're say, at a bus stop. "Hey stranger next to me, I'm not going to talk to you until 10 stops from now". Stranger-"uh ok". See what I mean? Maybe I read your OP wrong but these garbage cans don't deserve an explanation. Just do what works for you. A few things that worked for me. Making time limits, say 30-60 minutes, after my housework was done, then DEFINITELY no engaging …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:40 AM
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This. This concept isn't discussed here much and I wish it was. I have no problem vetting right now. It is the trust part once vetted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:00 AM
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This is stupid. He should be calling you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 08:43 PM
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It is because HVM are rare. Worth holding out though. I fucked up and married a LVM, had kids with him, didn't wait for the good one. It is better to wait. Hold out. Better yourself. Don't settle. Better to be alone than with a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 05:44 PM
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He likely won't say yes (bc men lie so much) but you'll know if he does or not by his response. If he watches porn, block/delete. You dont want that in your life. If he doesn't. Maybe he gets next level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 02:28 PM
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You said it yourself. Keep reminding yourself he wouldn't be as kind. Because he wouldn't and hasn't been. He ghosted you then told you all about his day and you're like ok, lets hang. You gotta be cruel to be kind sometimes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:35 PM
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One month. So 3-4 dates? Or how many? I think it IS important to go fairly early, like before sex. See how he lives, see if you can kiss/cuddle and he respectfully stops or doesn't try anything. Don't stay long, watch how he is closely. You'll learn something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 01:30 PM
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Yes. Directly but cute. Work it in as soon as possible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/20 12:50 AM
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Dude I'm feeling this too. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:21 PM
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Gurl. Block delete on ALL platforms. This is wishful thinking and only hindering your growth. Level up. Fuck that guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:20 PM
3

Tough question and a tough answer. I hope others chime in but I tend to lean toward he already has to be HV
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:12 PM
7

Yup. I just ask directly to catch them off guard. Works. Every. Time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 08:10 PM
6

Love this queen shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 03:33 AM
4

Definitely was hard for me as my kids are such a personal part of my life. But if I was OLD I had to suck it up and write something...very quick, no details.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 01:14 AM
8

Bad bronzer 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 01:11 AM
7

All that taco bell and beer 🤣🤣and cheap ass makeup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 01:10 AM
9

Definitely. Here in CA it is all outdoor. Pretty romantic summer vibes for sure. Me personally, hiking is so intimate, I would never do it on a first date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 12:51 AM
3

Saving this video for my kids one day. Rock fucking on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 12:50 AM
16

I thought you were in a low case area? Just saying. Ive been on plenty of outdoor dining dates these last months. Dont give him a pass, the 1st date sets the tone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 12:38 AM
6

Likely. 🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 12:37 AM
9

"The world is rigged...Be smart!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/08/20 05:52 AM
6

3-4 months seems very fast. Especially if you wait 3 months for sex. I'd say 6-12 months is ideal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 10:10 PM
6

"Learn to identify what is feels like to push forward with a guy that your stomach can't digest." This is incredibly concise and provides an instant imagery of listening to your body. Bravo queen! Well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:09 AM
8

Fucckkkkkk.👸 This shit needs to be engraved in stone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:04 AM
5

Another pro divorce here. It isn't easy, but the other side is freedom and love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 10:59 AM
2

Way to hold your ground lady. Hats off to you. 👸💚
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 10:57 AM
22

This will certainly not get the love it deserves but I heard it, loud and clear. The discussion is really the important part. Being able to articulate WHY it is bad to one's self but also to each other. This is were the real growth occurs. More conversations on patriarchal beliefs and what we can do, boots on the ground, to change it. Thoughtful comments like this do change things. ☝️💚🔥👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 10:47 AM
8

This. 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:33 AM
5

Write a letter to yourself while the pain is fresh in your mind! It will help you remind yourself why you dumped his ass. Also, just in case you didn't block AND DELETE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:22 PM
7

This is some queen poetry. 👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:20 PM
44

I have to laugh at this or I'll cry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 01:09 PM
8

"Semi-hard"...🤣🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 10:35 PM
11

My guess is some pickmeisha long ago fell for something like this one time. Now this garbage can thinks THiS wOrKs EvEryTiME! Also, I 2nd this....You don't have to he nice. I probably would have heard him out in case there was an actual problem but rolling your eyes and walking about is always acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 10:13 PM
140

Girl. This. Was. Your. First Date. Just ugh. Take a breath. You know nothing but his actions and you're posting here. Says something
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:37 AM
6

Thanks for this perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 03:49 AM
9

Something to think about. From what I've found and I know this isn't universally true everywhere. But men tend to leave you the fuck alone when you work on your badass bitch energy. Think confident walk, passive gaze, a fucking death stare/eye roll if they so much as utter something under their breath. I personally dress classic but classic sexy. Just tossing another perspective out there!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:20 PM
7

Sending healing!!! Sounds like, if youre able, you need some sort of time in nature! That always heals my anxiety. 💗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:16 PM
3

Well good for you lady!! Killing it! Do you find since there are so few women that you get mansplained to? Maybe not so much in online? Just wondering. Either way....awesome work!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:14 PM
6

Awesome level up!! Good luck on your classes! What are you studying?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:38 PM
21

Same. After a slew of online dating I find having whole conversations over text is a mother fucking waste of time. ANYONE can be good/bad at text. Case in point- you. You are charming and interesting but your text (you think) convey the opposite. I'll text a bit then casually mention I like a video chat and phone calls. From what I've seen HVM will happily oblige as they want to make you happy and want to chat with you. LVM won't follow through as maybe they were just looking for an ego boost or…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 11:37 PM
47

Tinder has told me for 2 days "there are no new people in my area"....I'm in SoCal....looks like I weeded through all of them.🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:53 PM
9

Man on a boat: Not his boat "I'm hilarious, sarcastic, funny" "Hard knock" under life **any drinking pictures" "Easy going guy" (clearly looks psychotic) "Surf, snowboard, golf, " 🙄 "Regular guy looking for a unique women" Just read this one, verbatim. SO MANY BORING dudes want not so regular women 🤮 I sometimes get actually nauseous looking at all the garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 01:56 PM
5

🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 01:46 PM
6

This is insane.3-4 dates a week would kill me. I pay to upgrade to where they can only see me if I like them first, then my profile is visible to them. Isnt perfect I decide what trash comes in
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:12 AM
7

👸🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:06 AM
11

I'd reconsider dating until you have a job? In school? Datng is a lot of work. Also, if you have to ask...."how do you not sleep with someone on a first date" you have So. Much. To. learn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:02 AM
21

I just quickly unmatched with an obviously wealthy, smart, interesting man because in the course of messages he wrote "young old all women are crazy"...when I asked him to elaborate he told me to "ask his therapists" THIS is my point. Ask specific, non-emotional, cute but direct questions. You'll get to the root...quick! There are just too many to mention. I love reading all these though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:55 AM
4

Bravo queen!!!! This is so well written I'm going to screenshot. Thanks for your insight! 👏👏👏👇
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:16 AM
3

Well said!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 04:12 AM
18

Doesn't necessarily have to be "dating"....Just conversations with other men, even swiping. I've found if I do this it helps me to not think so much on the man I'm dating and vetting. Makes me feel more confident.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:12 PM
7

Girl. You're getting great advice. Move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:21 PM
12

Lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 11:18 PM
6

In this case I've just said, "I understand" and see where he takes it from there. He will likely ghost...just fyi
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:34 PM
20

Little miss nasty said the lady in the video was basically just a fat lady stealing content from social media. 🤣 Then she said since I commented that I'm a butthurt fat lady. Lol. So...I feel sad for her and her mental space but I hope she gets banned from any and all FDS. Likely pickmeisha that thinks the whole world should look the same. Ugh. Sigh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 12:43 AM
13

Hardly darling. I'm stunning and I have a feeling your insides are as fake and ugly as your outsides. Hopefully you'll get banned from this community of queens on all platforms because you don't deserve knowledge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 12:41 AM
20

What the fuck! Moderators help help! We got a rogue pickmeisha that needs to be removed! 🚯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 10:13 PM
5

Damn. This was awesome!!!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 10:09 PM
10

Is anyone going to tell me why she *edited and freaked out and cursed at the community? ** I''m not understanding it. Maybe it doesn't matter. Also, thank you to the poster that said dumb fox is only used for covert first couple of dates....Play dumb fox long enough then don't you BECOME the dumb fox?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 03:06 AM
1

Safe travels love!!! Congratulations on your new journey! Sending healing and positive vibes!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:20 PM
8

Thank your grandma for paving the way for us!!! Sending 💓
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:18 PM
3

I was just watching this last night and loving it!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:59 PM
3

You did the right thing. Keep no contact and stay positive. Pamper yourself. You made the right choice. Sending you love and healing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 04:49 PM
33

You did the right thing. This is absolutely scary shit that may not seem big to you as you're been in it for so long. The next time he could harm you significantly or kill you. While it is all fresh in your mind write down all the horrific things he has done to you. This will help once the pain of this passes and you need to read these things to avoid any empathy for him. I hope you have some means to process this trauma as it will likely live inside you until you do. Take care. Be well. 🧡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:56 PM
9

Yessssssss. 👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:57 AM
8

What has been working for me is setting the precedent very early on....dont get me wrong it is still a cesspool AND after all my vetting (phone call, zoom chat, lots of text messages) I was still catfished, HARD. I digress. Setting the precedent I say in a nice way...I like a little zoom chat first then a proper date. Plain and simple. Helps to easily discard the guys looking for hookups and ones who want to make no effort will show themselves. Hope this helps!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 02:55 AM
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I think I said ALL of these thing the other night when I was catfished! I used it as an opportunity to practice all my FDS on him. He even cried at one point. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:15 AM
27

The fucking incredible advice from these queens never ceases to amaze me!!! ❤👏🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 12:09 AM
17

I would be too! I'd love to hear the full story😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:50 AM
4

The things you listed are the most basic of the basic. Like just basic human things to do...A HVM has a high level of emotional intelligence. Ie., if you have to ask why you'd need therapy you arent there yet. Adding to other's responses, read the FDS handbook, all of it. Does any of it upset you? If anything does. Find out why. This is likely something unresolved in yourself. Additionally, reading the handbook and understanding a women's perspective with take you far in life as well as dating. …
/r/askFDS26/07/20 11:44 PM
16

Did it after divorcing my LVM. My house is so fucking awesome. It can be done ladies. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 09:57 PM
1

It shows a high level of immaturity when one would compare a pickmeisha/HVM to a "good" mom/bad mom. Apples and oranges so it is a poor arguement. Definitely not "up in arms"...The post and these comments are tasteless and not even about dating, I'm just calling it out. If you ever become a mom you'll see it isnt so black and white and life is complicated. No one is all "bad" or all "good".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:10 PM
2

Not self congratulatory at all. I just know my worth as a mom and as any HVW does. Is it seen as self congratulatory when we are proud of ridding ourselves of scrotes? I don't think so. This is so ridiculous and so juvenile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:37 PM
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🙄 No offense but I think you have a lot to learn about life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:31 PM
5

Thank you for sharing!!! I cried tears of happiness at her strength and being a collective voice for us! 😭👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 02:08 PM
3

Wow! This is such a level down post I am absolutely shocked and saddened by this usually thoughtful and intelligent group. First, if you look for trash, you'll find it! ie, TikTok and Breaking Mom (whatever stupid show this is). Either way- Do you think it is developed by a clever HVW portraying women as terrible moms? Noooooooo.....it is some garbage male that surely had a shitty childhood taking revenge on his mom for being shitty. Allowing yourself to watch trash is becoming a part of the tra…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:34 PM
5

This sub is changing the world one post at a time. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 02:19 PM
1

You're so right. Thank you thank you! I mentioned this to another person but a few good dates and a kiss and my brain goes haywire.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:20 PM
3

Yup yup. Absolutely....great point. I definitely say no to same day invites. Just getting hard in these 4 + months of quarantine. I cant go to movies, yoga, nada! I need to focus though. Have two zoom chats tonight and a few other interesting conversations. Funny how a few dates and a kiss can make me 🤪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:18 PM
2

Exactly. Thank you. Needed that 👸 reminder that they will, of course, except it. Thank you for taking the time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:14 PM
3

I gotta admit. Part of it IS that check to see if he is still into me!!! What is that? Pick me? 🤢🤯🧐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:03 PM
2

I actually don't want a committed relationship just yet. He is fun to hangout with and I know he enjoys my company.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:59 PM
2

Well said and yes I can definitely overthink it! Hmm...it is a challenge bc so far he has been VERY respectful of the time when I'm with my kids. I get a very unexpected free night tonight and well--Want to in a very natural way tell him. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:57 PM
2

Great advice! All YES instead of official commitment which is absolutely what I want right now. I know he is very respectful of my time with my kids so I kinda want to say hi...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:54 PM
6

You're in the shit now. Just know if you keep doing the right things you'll get past it. Keep seeing a therapist, read books that inspire, work on yourself, do things that make you feel good, read FDS constantly, check out Dr. Ramani on YouTube (specialized in narsacists), research trauma bonding. I was also fortunate enough to get to go to a Spiritual healing retreat. Which sent me next level. Even if this isnt an option for you being able to do the hard work involved to get better WILL make yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 04:24 PM
17

What a fucking garbage can. I hope he falls flat on his face today and breaks his ugly ass teeth and is too fucking broke to fix. Now he has to walk around with his front teeth missing because this would be an accurate picture of how fucking stupid he is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 12:30 PM
2

Yup. OP hasn't even met him yet. I see red flags everywhere. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 12:27 PM
11

Move. In. Silence. Preach girl. Spoke to me. 🙏❤👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:14 AM
13

I fail to see the high value in this to the point where you'd post as a success. These are supposed to inspire and encourage. This makes me indifferent. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:09 AM
16

So you've never met this guy and he "seems" HV and bc he has cancer what?....Dont confuse men in a vulnerable emotional state with HV men. Men in this state have been humbled and looking for a LTR bc....why? Not to be a b but to be felt "taken care of". This SCREAMS pickme all over it. I'd step back. Tell him you're interested but want him to focus on healing himself first. If he is truly HV and meant to be your man he will circle round. If not...he is looking for an emotional caretaker or a "mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:03 AM
7

Well said!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 08:03 PM
15

👸🙏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:02 PM
19

I enjoyed it but definitely a turn off when he talked about sexual "misunderstandings". Huh? Is he implying that sexual harassment, dick pics, overtly sexual text messages, etc., are misunderstandings? Ugh. This was almost a great video. Goes to show even woke bros ain't always as woke as we think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:46 PM
3

Unfortunately I think stupidity and laziness trumped this situation and that is why mom didn't go to jail either. You're so right on about dads exploiting this to be lazy pieces of garbage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 12:37 PM
8

Maybe. I'm also contemplating other business ventures that are amazingly for me. I've made peace with it and came to know my entrepreneurial spirit can do other things. I'm a cautionary tale that thank god broke free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:49 AM
16

Yup. Literal next door neighbor dude hit his newborn repeatedly and broke both of his legs, 3 months old, he was watching the baby while mom went to work. Classic NV people but damn. Mom didn't even notice until a week later when baby wouldn't stop crying. Dad didn't even go to fucking jail. This is far more common than people realize. So yeah. I personally get why women (and I) gave up everything (for a time) to keep our babies safe from these mother fucking scotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:44 AM
3

A garbage man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:39 AM
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I have...but I love my job now, I'm financially independent, and I enjoy my free time with my kids. Student loans are paid off... Kinda letting it all go. Now I'm just a therapist to my friends. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 03:09 AM
4

😂👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 01:18 AM
1

Happy cake day!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 01:15 AM
178

I gave up my masters that was 65% complete because my EX wouldn't watch our young son 1 night a week for 4 hours. 👿 I was a new mom totally on my own. If I knew then what I knew now I'd of hired a nanny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 01:04 AM
3

Nice words. Thanks love. 🤗☺
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 11:26 PM
2

Exactly the conversation I'm having with another queen after she was complaining (wrong word but cant find another) about this guy's posts. I get that he is a white dude telling women about women things. But sometimes we need to see a hard message in happy balloons to get it. I hope since you say you "needed this" it can serve you today to make yourself whole. Sending 💞
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:35 PM
5

I don't mind the other point of view at all. I just like and constantly working to see all sides. I wish one of the badass creative ladies on here could send these messages to women--maybe for now it is just a yuppie dude? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:32 PM
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I absolutely agree on this point but I also see the other side. I'm the OP who posted the meme that got the traction recently of this guy. I hope I can politely agree and disagree without getting banned. 🙂 While I absolutely agree taking advice from men should be throughly scrubbed and most often overlooked AND this guy is likely a piece of garbage. However, obviously the message resonated with some ladies, 800+ upvotes, so that mean 800+ women saw a message today which maybe some of them really…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:02 PM
2

Totally! Also I don't know about you ladies but it took me lots of years to learn this shit. I do wish it was a lady in her 30's though....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:25 AM
32

Yes!! I love that! I log onto reddit and read posts from inspiring queens to stay grounded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 05:24 PM
3

Damn. This advice is so good. You're a queen!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 03:51 AM
1

Truth. Great point. Luckily one does have a job. I went out to dinner with a friend last night and he called the restaurant to send us over a very nice bottle of wine. I'd say this is HVM behavior. Understated and charming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 04:38 PM
2

Good point!!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/20 04:37 PM
-1

Thanks and good point. I may be in the wrong sub but what if I'm not looking for a husband and just casual sex/dating with a HVM. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 08:19 PM
1

Now that I'm woke I sure as hell would these days!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 01:53 AM
3

I want to see her response 😬😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:42 AM
12

My ex-husband paid me $500 when we were dating to throw my antique ouija board in the trash. He also secretly tossed my buddha's when I wasnt looking. 💥🚩 He was confident in bed is my only defense. 😔 Good advice though!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/20 02:37 AM
9

Damnnnnnnn. I needed this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 02:52 AM
2

Ha!! Hell no girl! Not anymore! Lol. Those days for me are over. The virtual date didn't perfectly align with my busy day so I told him I'd catch him when I got back. ✌He was gracious about it. So that's cool I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 10:08 PM
2

Definitely an interesting topic. I dont demand or ask for things. He offers it HVM, doesnt he sucks. Will be interesting. Probably a loser so I dont get too pretty.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:13 AM
2

Sound advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 05:12 AM
4

Totally. But one of the posters also has a whole post on the importance of a video call to weed out losers. He is good on messaging and not overly complimenting...just so far respectful and responsive. Now I need to see his face, even briefly on a computer screen..I'd hate to waste my time with an in person date and have a terrible one bc I hate his face 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:55 AM
2

This is gold for sure. Thanks! Definitely easy breezy not opening that file yet! Thanks for taking the time to write!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:50 AM
3

That would drive me crazy! I have a very busy day so he will just have to get me as tousled and hopefully cute! Bed or couches? At least you immediately know they are garbage!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:49 AM
2

Now with that context is makes sense! Great advice yes. I got the I dont give a fuck-it is getting trapped in LVM territory by emotionally investing in the sob stories. No more!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:47 AM
1

I would think that response would make men very suspicious. I know I'd be--lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:43 AM
6

Are you joking? Asking them to Venmo me cash for a bottle of wine? This seems wrong and like not very good advice. It's mostly just to vet. More like a little chat to see if the date will be worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:42 AM
6

Great advice! I also read FDS a lot about revealing too much too soon. I'm often an open book with all people but realizing that beings in LVM. What are good ways to deflect personal questions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/06/20 04:24 AM
1

I think you're dating my ex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 05:05 AM
4

bossbabe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 03:33 AM
8

DTMFA, Dump the mother fucker already, as Drew Savage says. You sound like his mom too. Having to tell your man to stop jerking it? 🤢Good luck! Move on. Level up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 03:40 AM
5

I am probably going to be on the minoity here but I say yes!!! Go on a date with the dude. I mean why not? It is a date. Not a lifetime commitment. You might even have fun with a chubby man. 🤯 In your 20's, just guessing, you think the number of nice, good guys, on and on and on, are endless supply. They are not. Maybe he has other issues (which make him LVM) but weight you can work with. He may even treat you like the queen you are. Although, being superficial will get you nothing and definitel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 03:33 AM
84

"Idk I couldn't really keep up" is the most telling honest phrase here that he wrote. I think men feel this way towards women then it manifests into anger. Holy fucking shit. This post wrecked me, I've literally been wrecked like this before. I need rainbows and puppy dogs now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 03:16 AM
2

Just takes time. Delete everything associated with him. Find a great hobby. Time really does solve all the wounds
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 04:06 AM
21

Gurl. You serious? You should seriously be dating other men until you guys have been dating for months. This question tells me, and I swear I'm not being mean, you have a lot to learn. Like we all do. This is why we are here. But seriously....you havent MET him yet. In real life is the only way to know someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 03:54 AM
17

Lady darling angel friend. Here are a few words that jump out at me from your message, "I'm so depressed, hopeless, feeling completely miserable". Now I know that was in the context of a bad day and I know these are crazy times and OLD is absolutely beyond garbage and how do you know that guy eyeing you on the street is single!? I get it. Since you didn't write anything about yourself I'm going to take a gigantic leap and say maybe you're coming off a tad....Are you secretly kinda sad? Dealt wit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/20 04:25 AM
1

"Changing characters" is exactly what we should be doing our whole life. I don't mean shape shifting or acting like a different person. You are you at your core. All that changing you are doing is literally getting WOKE, learning to become a HVW, and learning about life and love. I wouldn't personally say guarded. There is something so intelligent and real about remaining open through pain and changes. Smarter yes. More discerning. Not necessarily guarded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:56 AM
5

Definitely eye-opening and makes me feel more supported. Dont want this to happen to others but nice to know I'm not alone!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:44 AM
11

My ex-husband did 5 minutes of soul searching to discover he is an "empath". This is why he would have wild emotional swings, gaslight, and literally make up lies about me. Claiming he thought I did whatever bc he could "feel" I did it. This "empath" stuff to me, as far as his story goes, always felt to me like unresolved trauma, a very subtle form of abuse, and caused me to doubt myself. Even if I knew he was wrong. I still deal with him every day bc we have 2 kids. Rant sorry. Still working on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:26 AM
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Yes! What a well written article. Thanks OP. This sub gives me so much strength as a women. Also mostly I just got my flair today so wanted to post!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 03:04 AM
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The way to talk to this poster and shut him down is my absolute life goal. You're my hero of the day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/20 02:16 PM
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Darling! Grab you and your board!!?? Oh hell motherfucking no ....Get pissed!! Meek and mild will not cut it with these assholes. They think you're playing hard to get. If anyone try's to grab you again in your FIERCEST VOICE (practice in your house or car)....tell him not to fucking touch you. LOUDLY! There are surely nice guys/humans there that will take notice if you're yelling at some dick. Safety in numbers. Also, why crack your window to talk? Nope. You dont owe him a response. Either driv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:19 AM
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Great advice!!!! I'm on my 2nd breakup with my ex-husband and holy fucking shit it sucks. Especially because we have two kids. Anymore insight you have I hope you'll share!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:57 PM
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Congratulations on walking away! I'd say the most important step now is to move away from fear. Be vigilant of course but worrying if he is going to be violent will just make you go insane. Block him on social media, your phone, email. Ensure he cant reach you. Like you said, give him time and he will at bare minimum drunk text/call. Dont leave that option open. This is a time of joy and renewal. Move on. Men are scary testosterone soaked dick monsters (as Drew Savage says) but statistically spe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 01:43 PM
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