Hey besties. So, this is something I think about a lot and I’m looking for some insight.

Background: I have a boyfriend (24m), I am 19 but turn 20 in a couple weeks. We are both students, him biology, me IT&Business management, with a plan to go to law school after I finish my degree. Our values and goals closely align and despite us having the same job and hours, he makes me a financial priority and puts a lot of effort into our relationship. He is an effective communicator, emotionally intelligent, caring, helpful, receptive, etc. Though I am still vetting. So far this seems to be a HVM and HV relationship, and I really feel as though it could be a forever thing.

This brings me to my question(s): I don’t want to be a forever girlfriend. I refuse. I don’t want to move into together until we are engaged, however, given my taste in rings and our overall life/financial situation, I don’t see us being engaged too soon. FDS has made me feel like being in a relationship for more than a year without engagement is wrong...but tbh I just don’t feel like that’s realistic in my situation nor do I think I would be ready this soon. Is it okay to move in together at some point even if we’re not engaged? Basically, I just need some advice on how to navigate this relationship. Should I go back to the single until I’m married mindset? That would be very hard because I would not be okay with him seeing other women and I am not intersted in anyone else. Basically I want to be with this guy..so yeah. Please give me some advice and insight here.

Hopefully this made sense. Thank you! I’d be happy to give more info also so lmk.