TLDR: Wife decided to stay up longer skiing. Didn't call to discuss. HOw best to handle it.

As I have said wife and the kids go skiing Friday-Saturday. Typically leave early Friday morning and return around 6:30pm Saturday.

This time around it is her moms birthday. This was a known thing but nothing was made of it. NO one said anything about things happening. What neither of us knew is that one of her sisters and her brother were showing up as well. This I absolutely believe to have been orchestrated to manipulate my wife and her mom. MOre on that, but her brother and sisters are not the most convert people. They don't just randomly do things. There is always more under the surface.

A bit background on her family is that they are all manipulative, and none of their lives are together (one sister factors the over draft into her monthly budget). Every member of her family has been divorced at least once....at LEAST (my wife is the oldest at 38). The sister arriving has two kids from two different guys and in the RP world rides the carousel pretty regularly. Years ago I told her, in response to why she can't get a good guy, is she is what most refer to as a practice girl. Didn't go over well....but there it is. Before I get the "why I linked up with this family" my wife pretty much moved out at 17 and has been on her own since. When I met her the youngest was like 10. So this entire soap opera has unfolded during my marriage. Her mom isn't too much of a stellar person either. Nuff said.

Any case all these people arrive. My wife and I didn't know.

During the trip so far she has called me a few times. Like way more then she would have normally...well anything higher then zero is way more (maybe RP is working?). She even chatted for a bit. So then I hear nothing only brief texts about how her one sister is coming. Then dark until a few minutes ago when I hear about the brother and how they haven't hit the slopes yet (At 2pm)....original plan was to be on the hills by 10am so they could leave around 3 or 4 to be home on time. My wife's family is notoriously slow. They think time will literally wait for them. I've seen make plans for a day trip together, buy tickets, the whole thing then waste it fucking around until they realize it's 6pm. They have no concept of a schedule. My wife is not like still she lets it influence her.

Then just now I get a series of text about how they are just now getting up and around. Looks like they won't be home until 11pm. Fuck. I know how this will go especially with tomorrow. Our Sunday mornings are pretty busy. I am a little miffed I wasn't called and consulted on how long they would be staying but I can't control that from here and...well it's her family. No matter how much I hate them and how much she complains...it's still family.

I am not going to argue. That's pointless and exists in her frame.

My plan is to have a series of tasks/projects to limit attention and time I spend in the house for the rest of the day tomorrow. I also plan on being in bed by the time they come home since I want to be at the gym by 7am and don't want to be up all night hearing the latest Days of Our Lives drama. Good plan?

I am sure there will be shit and comfort test all over Sunday. . Still I know she will at some point I know I will hear: Are you mad? Because she knows I will be. Despite how upbeat and cheerful I appear to be.

How do you answer that question correctly. Is it really a shit test? If it is I don't think ignoring it is the answer. I already know her excuses for why she is being late...all are bullshit but there's really nothing to do about that now. I wasn't consulted....as this is what bugs me the most. It is a decision that impacts everyone. Even in drunk captain mode this wouldn't have been something she had done without talking to me about...even if I was or wasn't there. There's more to this story I am sure.

Again more pissed I wasn't in on the decision and will have to deal with the fallout of tired kids, tired wife tomorrow. Plus I don't get to see them until tomorrow.

On the docket today is to replace all electrical sockets with dual prong/usb sockets. Reorganize the basement. Shovel more damn snow. This after having made crockpot chili at 6am (damn it smells awesome), lifted for an hour, and taught karate for 5 Hours.

Fuck. It ain't even 3 yet.