Did I overreact?

Nymdox · 2016-12-24T00:44:23+00:00

How would you act if she had no control over your emotions whatsoever?

SexistFlyingPig · 2016-12-24T03:51:44+00:00

I want you to imagine a 6'6" bronzed god, 240lb with 6% bodyfat.

He's the master of his world. Nothing rattles him. How do you think he would respond in the same situation? Is that how you responded? No. It isn't.

So, you fucked up. You had left things in your kitchen for a couple of WEEKS. Finally, your wife couldn't take it anymore and so treated you like the child that you were and told you to clean up your mess. I'm guessing that she also told you to clean up your room before you could go outside and play with your friends.

Then, somehow, you try to claim some moral high ground and tell her that you won't be spoken to like that. You're a big boy! You wear big boy pants! And now you're going to take your toys and go play somewhere else.

There's no advice to give you here. You behaved like a spoiled brat of a child. You should go hang your head in shame.

BobbyPeru · 2016-12-24T00:52:13+00:00

You should have just STFU. Then, go do a few random chores, take a piss.. Whatever. Then, you announce you are hitting the gym, and just take off. Your mistake was trying to argue with nonsense.

When you go back, apply the STFU strategy. Change the subject about what a god workout you had and it got you all worked up. Then, a slap on the ass and a smile. If she's still bitchy, go into STFU mode or fog until she realizes you're not participating in nonsense.

Rinse, repeat.

FireTempered · 2016-12-24T02:57:31+00:00

You should have.......

Fog more, smile more, butt-hurt less.

When you get home......

Fog more, smile more, butt-hurt less.

screechhater · 2016-12-24T11:20:02+00:00

Ever heard of OYS ? Can you read between the lines ? Not only do you need to take responsibility for beymg the person to correct yourself, but you need to be the one that literally owns yiur possessions and anything you physically touch

You think a fucking idiot that doesn't clean after itself is attractive?

stonepimpletilists · 2016-12-24T21:32:16+00:00

Tell me you have more wit or charm than you used in this post.

redearththeory · 2016-12-24T14:40:41+00:00

My wife gave me a hard time for leaving some things out in the kitchen that have been there for a couple weeks.

So this is a classic power struggle, judgement call issue. Assuming you didn't leave things out that will spoil and cause a food safety issue or commit earlier to putting them away. Tidineess is generally a good thing but its your house and your kitchen and as a grown man can decide whether you put things away. Your wifes unreasonable tone waa a shit test. You failed it because you tidied up on her command (which may have been the right thing to do) but more importantly you only left after she suggested leaving.

What should I say if she calls me out on it when I get back?

Tell her that you'll do what you decide is right, now and in the future, and you're not concerned what she thinks about it.

GargantuaBlarg29 · 2016-12-26T18:58:09+00:00

Stop getting drawn into straight on battles with her. When she starts bitching about whatever it was she was bitching about you either tease her "Awww, you still mad? You need a little hug?" or amplify it "You're totally right! I say we do something about this. Where's my pitchfork?"

Anything but actually considering what she has to say seriously including not addressing it at all is success. If she lures you into an argument, she's already won.

BluepillProfessor · 2016-12-24T15:47:54+00:00

Feels like a failed shit test.

At least two- the compliance test at the beginning and then the flurry of whining, bitching, and bad attitude to verify that you are in fact her Beta Bitch.

She said i should leave if I didn't want to hear her talk... prepped my gym bag and left.

3rd Shit Test in the series but at least you didn't fail.

What should I say if she calls me out on it when I get back?

First maintain frame. Next, try to introduce Amused Mastery. Treat her like a whining little girl if she wants to keep bitching when you get back. I wouldn't leave next time. Send the bratty little girl to her room. Don't take her seriously. She is cue-ing off of your emotions and is acting like the typical, entitled, Western woman who has her man on a short leash (and secretly hates it).

Title	Did I overreact?
Author	Fucklestick
Upvotes	0
Comments	13
Date	December 23, 2016 11:48 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askMRP
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