I'm trying to wrap my head around something after reading a horns and sepean posts.

I have a need to explain everything that's happening all the time. I thought that I was sharing my frame but I just learnt in an old sepean post that this is not what sharing your frame remotely looks like. I then read an old horns post saying that it's a covert contract and an ego thing. I don't understand what that means though? I might be a bit fucking stupid, but I saw some videos from Rian about how jack use to share his frame and I genuinely thought that was what I was doing. I realise that I do have a frame and it's a bloody good 1 that I learnt from many people here on how to be.

I guess my question is how the fuck do I go on now. I've just spent the last 2 years deering every fucking conversation with the mrs thinking I'm holding my frame. It's a mess and I don't have a single direction to head towards.

Also if I still have ego, is there a way to completely crush it? I use rians 'i ain't shit and that's okay' mental model, but I think I might need a bit more then that.

Just some back story on me. I've been here 5 years, never used OYS and lurked the entire time.

6-3 240

I don't know my lifts in LBS but here they are in kg Bench: 100kg X5 Squat: 150 X5 Deadlift: 180kg x3