Indecision has been at the core of my beta problems for many years. Like most I tend to look at things rationally when making a decision and usually come down to a "what's the worst that can happen" scenario before making a decision.

I 'm good this way with money, with jobs, with dinner plans, selecting with golf club to use... mostly broad based plans.

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On the other hand is making the decision on what I consider trivial things, what color to paint the walls, storage racks, home decor, tv shows/movies.

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My general practice when it comes to things of that nature is to narrow it down to 1 or 2 choices and then let my wife decide which she thinks is best. Since I really don't care or feel that her taste in decor outweighs mine enough, I let her make the final decision.

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The problem however I find myself in a lot of times when I narrow it down and let her decide is that a mistake ends up being made; I'm left to deal with the consequence and then left to decide to abandon her choice (which i steered down to 1 or 2 options originally) to her resentment and what I perceive as beta behavior in not following through

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OR struggle on and follow her choice to my disdain thus appearing to not be BETA but ultimately still ending up there.

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I recall a very specific situation where I finally was done giving her the option to choose something and made the decision myself to purchase an organizer for our entryway. She was pissed but I told her I didn't care, the disorganization was a problem for me and this solved the problem.

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Broken down this went:

I have a problem with the mess in the entryway.

I am willing to let you decide what storage solution you feel is best decorative for the house

I will purchase your choice and it will solve the problem I am having.

I will be happy since there is no longer a mess. I assume you'll be happy because I involved you in the decision.

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However time went on and she never decided on a rack and the mess remained.

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I then skipped the previous steps and went and bought a storage rack.

She was pissed, didn't like it, wasn't going to use it, storming like a kid in target. PISSED

I told her I didn't give a shit what she thinks and bought the rack. set it up and put it in place.

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To this day the organizer is still by the entryway being used properly and I'm satisfied with the result. She swears she hates it, yet there it sits months later, being used exclusively by her and satisfying my problem. = Watch their behavior.

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My reflection comes down to this: More and more I find there are really only a few things that my wife is truly capable of deciding. This is RP 101, ultimately I have a wife that THINKS she is a good decision maker but ultimately isn't, she of course will swear otherwise.

Although I can confidently make and generally execute the decision the ensuing shit tests make me second guess myself or the thought of making a minor mistake or not following through and appearing beta is in and of itself beta.

Many times on AskMRP you'll hear about "well she doesn't trust you because you fucked up the last decisions or steering the ship" I would argue that many guys actually still end up making a better decision than their wife would have, however mistakes in execution tend to be made and that's what gets highlighted especially to your wife and leaves her "dry".

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That being said you're supposed to be the judge of your own actions and therefore might wave off the mistakes and not concern yourself with her opinion therefore becoming the asshole and maybe some alpha.

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Ultimately I think confidently executing decisions to the best of your ability is the correct answer and DNGAF the rest. Even though WISNIFG talks about admitting mistakes I am finding it might be best to admit them only to yourself. Beyond that, a mistake in decision making needs to be glossed over as best as possible and even if it's obvious that the mistake has been made, correcting course and continuing on regardless of her opinion is the best possible action despite your best effort NOT TO BE an asshole.

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If my assumptions about the final decision in regards to the organizer story are correct, I need to adjust my decision making a lot more than I realized and need to execute more along that standard.

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