While in the process, keep talking about sex and sexting or not?

SteelToeShitKicker · 2017-09-15T13:19:03+00:00

I'll give you the advice that I wouldn't have taken when I was in your place.

The best thing you can do is to improve yourself and bide your time. As you improve yourself, everything becomes easier. The shit that I struggled with when I was in your shoes isn't even close to being an issue now.

I know it's not easy right now, the rose colored glasses have been ripped off your face. If you want sex, grab your wife's ass and try and have sex with her. If you get a hard no, do something else, and know that one day, one way or another, you can have someone who is excited to fuck you.

Do not talk about sex. No. Don't bother with sexting if you aren't getting sex on the regular.

red-sfpplus · 2017-09-15T14:28:02+00:00

Never lay off in-person Kino and keep sexual tension between you and the wife always.

As far as texting goes, the general advice for noobs is to keep texting to logistics only. This is sound advice for many guys as they have little to no text game, and come across needy via text.

Since there is no tone over text, and the tone is interpreted by the receiver, you have no control over how it is received. If you wife is tired, bitchy, harpy (because you are slipping in other areas) and you are texting her sexual things, even if your text game is on point, she will "tone" the message wrong.

Keep the sex, kino, etc up in person, but perhaps lay of the sexual texting for 90 days. Give her brain time to get into a positive frame of mind, then when she reads your texts it will be read in a positive tone vs. a negative one.

straius · 2017-09-15T15:12:56+00:00

Always kino, kino is effective when it doesn't lead to sex, kind of the point of it. Always make sexual comments, especially when they're genuine.

When you get all excited and start forming expectations of sexual release, stop yourself mentally and be prepared for rejection by simultaneously thinking about another thing you would enjoy doing. If you try to think of that other thing AFTER the hard no, you're still going to be working through butthurt and likely focused on that instead. The order makes a difference because it sets expectations before you get feedback.

Not getting butthurt from hard no's relieves the stress from the situation which paradoxically allows your wife to get turned on easier because she isn't distracted by what negative shit or attitudes are going to be thrown her way. So she starts thinking about the sex/her feels more than the bullshit surrounding sex.

Same thing with Kino without leading to sex.

Run the full gamut of just a touch on the hand to pinning against the wall for the deep kiss routine.

Have no idea where your body is at so calibrate your expectations of receptiveness accordingly.

Also remember that at the end of the day, if you're not reliable and owning your shit, it probably doesn't matter how much kino you do.

Edit: cpl examples

"Why do you always push" "Well you should be more careful where you aim that fine ass." (Deliver with a grin and a spank and walk away smiling)

"No, I only have 15m" "Well I guess we have to fuck hard and fast the huh." (Pin her up against something as you say it and push your hips up into her, kiss or bite her neck. If she swats you away laugh and walk away to do something more interesting.)

Scurvemuch · 2017-09-15T15:10:26+00:00

real quick, would you fuck you?

Title	While in the process, keep talking about sex and sexting or not?
Author	ice_walker
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Date	September 15, 2017 1:09 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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