27 and lost my virginity today

MattyAnon · 2018-01-07T21:25:25+00:00

I took a gas station pill that I bought and that shit didn't work as advertised.

Well fuck me... a gas station vending machine $5 pill isn't as good as prescription drugs. You don't say.

so the lady is massaging my penis and I bust. I'm beyond embarrassed because that wasn't supposed to happen.

who the fuck cares, you pay her for a good time.

t. I can't Beleive this was something I was waiting for, for my whole life and it was nothing like I expected it to be. I

Unless it's a girl you like and are attracted to, the experience can be awful. I'm not saying "marry and fall in love", but you'll find genuine sex to be better than paid for. And it needs time, practice, and to be relaxed before your brain can properly focus and enjoy it like it should be enjoyed. Stress kills most of the pleasure.

I do feel somewhat like a weight is off my shoulders though

Right.. now get out there and do it properly.

fnordsnord · 2018-01-07T21:43:04+00:00

And now you've learned something.

Banging is a mechanical skill, like playing guitar or welding. It takes practice to get good at it. Most people suck their first time out of the chute. It gets better.

And yes, paying cash to fuck is expensive.

empatheticapathetic · 2018-01-08T00:41:12+00:00

I went at 25. Had erections problems throughout life.

Was scared shitless. Escort was considerate enough and showed me a good time, I was absolutely terrible and had trouble getting hard. Did oral and doggy. Popped and left. Went back 4 days later and was a bit more confident but she was a bit less enthusiastic. Actually thrusted on top of her at an OK speed for maybe a couple mins. Was completely unplanned, just did it instinctually. She said "that was really good, if I had to rate it'd be a 9/10." My friend said to stop cynically picking the compliment apart and accept it as the confidence builder it was supposed to be.

Went back 3 more times. She had zero enthusiasm and I had zero erection. Can't remember what happened honestly, it's a blur of confusion and frustration. I was scared to be vulnerable enough to show her I was enjoying anything in case she ridiculed me.

Went one more time 6 months later. This time I had no expectations. Just sat and chilled with her, didn't give a fuck if I fucked her, if I wasted my whole paid time just chatting, whatever. Told her about my oneitis and how crazy attracted to each other we were when we met. She used this as pre selection and got really excited for me and went to town on me. I couldn't get hard and stormed out.

Went to a new one 4 months later. This girl was as amateur as it gets. She had an amazing personality but she did not show any enthusiasm towards escorting. Took a viagra before but I did nothing and I failed to penetrate for more than 5 seconds. Did other stuff and I was kinda happy and she only perked up when I was ready to go.

That was over 12 months in 2016. Worked a lot on my state of mind, fitness, diet, life, stresses, confidence, game, dress sense, career, physiology and everything else since then. Live in a new place now where my SMV is much higher and I can definitely start getting a lay or two soon.

Good luck, see you on the other side.

Edit: viagra

g4casting · 2018-01-07T23:07:01+00:00

Sex is now 1000x better than it was for the first times for me. Find someone hot that you care for, get her on an IUD and you can have raw animalistic sex everyday. Condom with a random prostitute is worse than a wank for me.

Thunder_banger · 2018-01-07T23:13:53+00:00

Porn and sex are two different things, you're a veteran at porn, and a novice at sex, with time and practice it gets much better. You have to stop comparing them.

TehJimmyy · 2018-01-07T21:12:14+00:00

How did you quit porn ? Did you still masturbate ?

Aarxnw · 2018-01-08T00:09:38+00:00

Fucking a girl you care about is good, but fucking a girl who you made want you in just one night (and didn't pay for) is a million times better. Also very empty.

nofilmynofucky · 2018-01-08T11:21:19+00:00

Dude I literally didn't come the first 3 times I had sex, shit was awkward af

You'll get better at it

mattizie · 2018-01-08T07:45:37+00:00

My "first" time I popped while she was bent over and I was still looking for the hole. Tried again an hour later, lasted 1 min, but that counted.

Don't have that problem anymore.

And now that it's not a big deal anymore, you can start focussing on progressing with your life and lifting. And next time you fuck a chick you won't be as nervous.

chjako1115 · 2018-01-07T20:51:19+00:00

Congrats, but I can promise you it’ll be better with someone you care about when that time comes.

mrcuckhold · 2018-01-08T03:52:07+00:00

Honestly don't beat yourself up over busting quick.

If you fuck a girl & bust early just pretend like it was your plan. This will get girls chasing like crazy because it will seem like you're aloof enough to not care about her pleasure. She'll keep chasing you to get that validation she never received.

Smigg_e · 2018-01-08T09:40:46+00:00

When I lost my virginity I busted instantly and the girl called me a dick for a year because she thought I got up because I didn't want to fuck her. You lost your virginity. It's not going to be all roses and ponies. Especially with an older asain lady at a fucking message parlor. Who cares if it wasn't good? The point is you have the experience now to do it again.

exscionewhuman · 2018-01-08T11:14:46+00:00

I "lost my virginity" at 27. I can't really call it that though. More like an experiment. I guess I technically lost it because my dick was inside some pussy but... I had spent 2 years going out and practicing socializing, making up for a lost childhood. Oh god I was bad... I got better though. When I finally put my dick in a pussy, I was 75% hard as you say, not all the way into it. I expected rainbows and magic sparkles, it was a big let down.

It was years later when I finally relaxed with a girl, didn't give a fuck. There wasn't anger or hate or anything like that, I just finally relaxed and was going to do what I wanted. Turns out she liked that too. She's the only girl I've really been with, and it was only after 4 years of shitty sex that I finally relaxed.

Anyways, you're doing everything exactly is it should be. None of these guys have walked in your shoes. I'm proud of you. Now just keep learning to relax and love yourself and enjoy life and share that with people (not just women). Who knows you might end up in a 100% hard situation.

furiouszeno · 2018-01-08T13:04:12+00:00

You have put WAY too much pressure to perform on your shoulders. Its like if you wanted to be a piano player and all you have ever done is watch videos of other people playing the piano, then you expect to walk into a symphony hall and be an expert at playing the piano. Yeah, how well is that going to go over? So stop expecting it.

From your submission, it is crystal clear that you have put mountains of pressure and lofty expectations on yourself. If you want sex to be fun, you need to let go of those imagined expectations and just let it be what it is. Don't try to re-enact porn. Honestly, stop doing "kegels and breath work" and all that bullshit, you are just fucking yourself up mentally treating it like you are training for the goddamn Olympics. The difference is that an Olympic athlete can still perform under immense pressure and nerves, unfortunately your dick can't (like any average guy).

"Training" for sex is one of the spergiest things I have ever heard (And is only pushed by sex toy and porn marketing companies). Billions of years of evolution have prepared you for sex, you do not need to fucking train for it, you will instinctively know what to do and how to do it. That shit is just going to fuck up your mental state.

Relax man, it's not a triathlon, it's just sex.

Conor_Niggregor · 2018-01-08T13:29:38+00:00

I thought it was so special, holy etc but it's not.

omfg i'm tired of u virgins having half-assed sex where u basically just laid there like a 12yo girl then talking about how sex/pussy in general is overrated. how dare you

korben_manzarek · 2018-01-07T22:49:34+00:00

did you use a condom?

brinkleybuzz · 2018-01-08T00:34:54+00:00

I almost want to say sex is overrated

So you reach this conclusion after your first time? Come back and post after you reach 1K+ lays. If you're doing it right, it gets better with time.

PrepositionalChi · 2018-01-08T01:09:21+00:00

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first off my pockets are hurting. so I went to a massage parlor today. I took a gas station pill that I bought and that shit didn't work as advertised. it said it would make you have strong erections and help you lost longer. I quit porn because fapping fucked my penis up. so I took the pill in case I couldn't get it up. I only got 75 percent hard maybe a lil more and I didnt last longer. so the lady is massaging my penis and I bust. I'm beyond embarrassed because that wasn't supposed to happen. I been doing kegels and breath work and when It came to today I forgot all about them. well it was time for sex. she rode me and I popped again after 2 min or so. talk about embarrassed, I couldn't wait to get the fuck out of there. for my 1st time it wasn't great and it wasn't what I thought. I can't Beleive this was something I was waiting for, for my whole life and it was nothing like I expected it to be. I put this pussy up on a pedestal since I was born and I finally get some today and I ask myself how can I put this pussy up a pedestal? I thought it was so special, holy etc but it's not. now I need to learn to last longer and stay hard on a side note. but once I came from her riding me I was like, " this is sex?" I do feel somewhat like a weight is off my shoulders though. sex wasn't what my mind made it up to be. and for those who are still virgins I get it, but listen don't wait for that special person to lose it to, because first there are no special women. 2nd I say get it over with if being a virgin feels like it's holding you back in some way from being a better man. get it over with and you will see.

I almost want to say sex is overrated because that's what I thought when I came. but I can't fully say that because I'm not qualified to say that. people who have had lots of sex could answer that question. to be honest when my sports teams win I feel more euphoria and happiness than what I felt today after finally losing my v card

Have you ever heard the statement, "you get out of something what you put into something?"

Think for a minute if actual castles and princesses existed. You took a sword and killed/murdered 3-4 people to rescue a hot, sexy princess who undressed after you rescued her and told you to fuck her. Do you think you'd feel guilty or "in your head" about fucking her?

No it's because you murdered some random terrorists with a sword and you saved her life, so she's spreading her legs for you as quid-quo-pro (for being rescued).

The more meaningful work/effort you put into getting laid, the better it feels. If you fuck some prostitute behind the dumpster of a gas station because you gave her 250 units of government-backed paper currency, then it will feel no better than jerking off to teen-interracial gangbang.

CutLiver · 2018-01-09T02:20:28+00:00

Never pay to have sex. You did fine. I took over an hour my first time. Not much better imo.

Title	27 and lost my virginity today
Author	mrcuckhold
Upvotes	39
Comments	57
Date	January 7, 2018 8:48 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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