6 months in; am I missing something here?

chooseaburner · 2016-08-11T06:32:58+00:00

I had severe anxiety from 15-17 if that matters.

You're an introvert, and you overcompensate for it by, in your words, playing cocky. Believe it or not you don't need to be the life the party. You don't need to be Don Juan. Looks are important for picking up women but even plate material don't want to give someone who comes off as either inexperienced or arrogant-without-substance the time of day.

Relax. Learn to hold your breath, learn to keep your mouth shut. Someone who's quiet isn't generally thought to be an idiot, but someone who likes to run their mouth and just wont shut up, typically is. And once you have that reputation it can be virtually impossible to walk away from it with your current social circle.

FrameWalker · 2016-08-11T12:13:06+00:00

I've been told I have the ideal body and that women should be flocking to me just by me existing by many guys I know.

This is an unrealistic expectation pressing undue pressure on you.

Your efforts should be focused on socializing. Guys + Girls. Go to parties once a week, chat up everyone during the day if you can and even go for a number here and there.

Take the pressure off and aim low.

Step 1: Talk to a stranger
Step 2: Talk to a girl
Step 3: Ask a girl for a number

Repeat step 1 unil it's very easy then step 2, and eventually 3. Just do it over an dover again and celebrate the little victories. You might not get laid right away and that's NORMAL. Keep at it.

PraetereoBonobos · 2016-08-11T06:48:06+00:00

I think you may have tunnel vision my friend and need to stop focusing on what to do and how to improve your social interactions. Tone down the analyzing and just make a note of what works and doesn't work and go about your day. While you make these mental notes you should be enjoying your social interactions, not pleasing, not trying to gain anything, just enjoying you and the people you are with. With time you will get better and pick up on the cues like maybe shes into me or this isn't the place to be the center of attention. Also don't beat yourself up for not getting a laid or only being with one girl it doesn't matter.

Improve yourself for you and the women will come, not the other way around.

youcantdenythat · 2016-08-11T11:50:14+00:00

Might want to look into meditation.

Also, you need to learn social skills before trying to pick up women. Join some meetup groups, go volunteer, join a sports team, martial arts, etc. to get more interaction with people and make some friends. Once you get used to being social, it will be much easier to talk to women and get them interested in you.

BusterVadge · 2016-08-11T13:55:40+00:00

You need to develop your social skills more than you need to be reading red pill theory.

Sit down tonight with a pen and a journal and make a list of your best attributes. Find out how you can make these better, and how they apply to social situations.

To me, it almost seems like you're trying to become someone that doesn't fit with your inclinations as a person. Like others have mentioned I bet you're an introvert and that you're trying to develop an extroverted approach to your social life. That will work, but your discomfort will show through in your interactions, and the cocky/funny becomes cocky/asshole.

There's also a book that I suggest that you check out called The Charisma Myth. It'll give you a few good pointers on how to interact with people using your own style of communication.

play_time_is_over · 2016-08-11T12:58:47+00:00

Less reading more action.

I've been on 11 tinder dates and only got laid off 1 of them. Its a numbers game.

Whats the difference between a player and an average joe?

The average joe goes on 10 dates in 10 years.

The player goes on 10 dates in 10 days.

Title	6 months in; am I missing something here?
Author	Nickbronline
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	August 11, 2016 6:18 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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