8 Months since I swallowed the repill and still unhappy? Need advice on how to get past this.

apollosapien · 2017-11-15T04:24:42+00:00

Friends. Consult and build with them.

Times like these are when a positive male camaraderie is healthier than anonymous advice could ever be. If you have no real friends, start your search in the gym.

HaywoodJablome69 · 2017-11-15T04:18:15+00:00

First just leave the ex alone. You're fucking yourself up and her. Be done with it.

Cant armchair psychology you here about your past, but simply sounds like you are more of a relationship guy.
Nothing wrong with being a LTR guy, some of us just aren't into lays for the sake of lays. But you'll have to be patient. You'll have to screen hard. You'll have to forsake the club lays to find quality.

Also happiness is an inside job. Not based upon amount of pussy/girls/money/anything externally. Maybe just leave the women alone for a bit and try to be happy based on your life

SoakMyBigCork · 2017-11-15T04:02:17+00:00

I’m still a newbie so I don’t feel qualified to give advice, but I can tell you that at 8 months in you are just getting started on your journey. If you’re 27 you probably have about 25 years of programming to undo. You are opening your eyes to the real world and it is confusing. Keep reading and listen to what the ECs say. Eventually it will all start to make sense if you stay dedicated.

replicaplater · 2017-11-15T04:14:23+00:00

Sounds like you have some residual oneitis going on along with being in the so-called "anger phase". It will pass, just keep doing what you're doing and don't let women get in the way of your goals. It takes time, but once you realize that women aren't the solution to your life/problems the world opens up and things become clear.

Triadis3 · 2017-11-15T11:32:05+00:00

You think having a woman is the end point.

The validation you get from fucking women is your reason for living.

You're starting to see how hollow and ultimately self-sabotaging this is..., relying on the fickleness of women to maintain your self-esteem.

You need to flip it and put women where they belong in your life... secondary.

Your life, your goals, your desires, your hobbies, your mission... that's what matters. You have any of those? You say you have more than enough to be happy in life, yet you obviously are not.

Women are just another hobby.

As a metric, they are a lagging (not leading) indicator of success.

BasketCase559 · 2017-11-15T14:53:11+00:00

"Knowing" you should be happy isn't anyways enough to actually be happy. In fact, it can make you feel guilty for not feeling happy. Sometimes you just aren't happy for no reason, and that's okay. It's natural. Don't fight it, experience it and let it pass.

Because it will pass. The most important thing is that you keep investing in yourself. No matter how you feel right now, those feelings are temporary, but the improvements you make to yourself, for yourself, are much more permanent. And eventually you'll come out on the other side of this unhappiness and you'll look back and see all that you've accomplished during.

Ny_Ambolt · 2017-11-15T05:00:08+00:00

I do not really have any guy friends that I can honestly have deep conversations like these

You're not alone in this, a lot of guys find themselves in this situation. Could very well be due to your childhood and how you were raised or weren't raised. That's how it is with me. Maybe read or re-read NMMNG? Figure out what you want your mission to be and do that, that's where a lot of guys find their "happiness" for lack of a better word. Maybe volunteer work. Male friendships doing guy things (endless options here but I'm not talking about internet gaming or chasing tail). Unplug from habits that don't add value to your life.

Kudos on having so much of your life sorted.

beachbbqlover · 2017-11-15T06:37:02+00:00

This is one of those times that my sentiment is that TRP is alot like the bible in that you can interpret it literally any way you want because there's so much advice out there tailored for different starting points.

My view;

Alot of senior TRPers say you shouldn't live with anyone because doing so ruins the independent and capable mystique that women find attractive, as well as crowding your shit. They also fail to mention that women can offer more than just sex, and if you apply some basic sense to yourself you can manage an LTR well and take care of your kid. This nets better results than constantly having to balance useless twerps from [insert random nightclub here].
Nobody deserves to be happy. Aim for a comfortable mellow with a sharp wit, and reserve happy for once in a while but more often than sad.
PUAs are about manipulating someone into sleeping with you. The baseline TRP recommends is to first be attractive because that's the easiest way to pick up and keep girls. To be attractive, gym, /r/skincareaddiction, and basic personal mental/emotional balance.
Sex without intimacy is a dopamine hit without oxytocin. It's mildly addictive but incredibly hollow feeling.

Want to hear more, let me know.

t-away3 · 2017-11-15T06:43:02+00:00

I agree with soakmycork...it just takes time man. Best thing I think i can do is just share my story and hopefully there are some things you can relate to and find solace in for now.

I discovered TRP when I was 24 after I was absolutely crushed by this one girl. Second time in my life that I felt like I had been betrayed by a girl I thought I might love...I cringe even thinking about how I let those girls affect me. Fortunately, I had also just moved to a city with plenty of girls around. Anyway, I went out a lot, met a ton of girls, failed a LOT, but also slowly made progress. Probably around the 6 month mark, things started to turn around for me with the opposite sex. I think the main thing for me was just learning to be more aware of body language and being more assertive which can be difficult to learn if it doesn’t come naturally. It was fun, I drank too much, fucked a lot of girls, and had a lot of great friends, but at the end of the day I wasn’t feeling very fulfilled. So after probably about 2-3 years of living a life I’m sure a lot of my friends were jealous of (I was making really good money and typically only worked about 30-35 hours/week) I knew I still needed to make a change. I switched careers for something where i make less money and work a little more, but I feel lucky because I love what i do.

Here’s specifically what’s different about my drinking and fucking girls lifestyle to now and why I think it’s important:

1) I don’t drink as much as I used to. I still drink, but I rarely get “fucked up.” I have complete control over myself when I’m drinking now. I used to have very few limits when it came to drinking. I no longer use alcohol as a release. All it ever did was make me unhappy when I wasn’t drinking whether it be from being hungover, making stupid decisions while drunk, or just the general depressed feeling people get who drink a lot. That’s what alcohol does, it’s a depressant. I STRONGLY encourage everyone to take a break from it for a month and try enjoying yourself on weekends without the use of alcohol. You’ll be bored at times, but you’ll find things that you legitimately enjoy doing.

2) I volunteer. Not a lot, maybe once a month, but I believe volunteering your time to help less fortunate people can really put things in perspective. Don’t volunteer for something you’ll hate either. If you don’t like animals, don’t volunteer at an animal shelter. Try to find something you’re interested in. Use it as an opportunity to expand your horizons. I’ve volunteered driving cancer patients to their treatment center. Sometimes it’s sad, but It gives you an appreciation for your own health.

3) I’ve truly began focusing on what I want to do. I don’t mean this is a selfish way, but moreso that I am not concerned with what other people think about me. If you enjoy what you do and are passionate about it, people respect that. It could be shoveling shit, but if you do it with a smile on your face and it’s what you enjoy, other people will respond positively to you. And those that don’t, won’t matter to you. Sounds cliche I know, but man you’ll never feel more free.

4) Find free or cheap activities that you enjoy. There’s something cathartic about knowing that you can enjoy yourself without spending much money. And if work gets you stressed out, you can always take solace in knowing that you can still be happy just living a simple life without much money.

5) Fucking girls is low on my priority list. Some people say this, few can say It honestly. I’ll still hookup with girls occasionally when I’m in the mood, but it’s not something I judge myself on. I’ve fucked enough girls to know that there’s nothing special about it, no matter how hot they are.

So TL;DR It is a long process. Try to enjoy the simpler things in life. For you it might be taking more of an interest in something your kid is interested in. Volunteer. Drink less. Don’t worry about trying to fuck a million girls. It’s a fleeting high, much like alcohol and other drugs. And never, NEVER let a female affect your self-esteem, your emotions, or your decision making.

Bear-With-Bit · 2017-11-15T08:10:02+00:00

You are the reason you're unhappy, all internal, not from something or someone. You gotta do more, push boundaries. Maybe quit your job, sell everything, and travel the world for awhile.

CounterEarth · 2017-11-15T11:00:25+00:00

Sounds like your life is missing a rich set of hobbies. Ignore women for now and invest your time in yourself. Start doing things outdoors, go on a solo camping trip, take up daily meditation, read more and maybe learn a language or two. Just take your mind off your own happiness and go do a bunch of things everyday; it will come with time.

htbf · 2017-11-15T19:07:01+00:00

As long as you still put your happiness between a girl's legs, you won't be happy.

Happiness is internal. You can be happy inside even if your child just died. You can be happy AND sad at the same time.

Read Waking Up. And practice meditation.

Title	8 Months since I swallowed the repill and still unhappy? Need advice on how to get past this.
Author	redpill619
Upvotes	6
Comments	16
Date	November 15, 2017 3:34 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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