I wouldn't mind hearing feedback on how to handle this situation that occurs often with my girlfriend and me. She'll say something rude or degrading towards me. Maybe its for something stupid I said or did, maybe I didn't do the dishes or something. I'm not perfect, I make mistakes, whatever. More often than not it's something that's not a big deal. But she makes remarks to me that are downright rude and disrespectful. So in return I tell her not to talk to me like that, or tell her why she shouldn't be pissed off over it because I had good intentions, and its not a big deal. In return because I showed frustration towards her, she wants to get away from me and calls me a dick. So I try to talk about it, which escalates things further. When I finally get something out of her, she says if I do something she doesn't like, why can't she tell me? I try to explain that she can, but not in a bitchy, degrading manner. But she of course says she didn't say it rudely, and I'm hearing things. How can I possibly win in this situation? This happens regularly, over something different but goes the exact same way each time. Any advice appreciated.